Posted: 12/22/2012 3:08:46 PM EDT
| Now that the wife is gone and cannot come back I feel the need to "declutter" This little house. During our 8 years together and 6 married. We have collected alot of stuff that has absolutly no use or value. I figure I would let her family come get her personel stuff, but alot of this is garbage. |
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Now that the wife is gone and cannot come back I feel the need to "declutter" This little house. During our 8 years together and 6 married. We have collected alot of stuff that has absolutly no use or value. I figure I would let her family come get her personel stuff, but alot of this is garbage. Jail? |
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Is the wife not coming back because divorce, dead, or incarcerated? Was in jail. Now RO in place. Sell what you can, if any is worth anything. Let the family have what they want - if they are decent to you. Throw away or burn the rest. Burning can be therapeutic. |
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Now that the wife is gone and cannot come back I feel the need to "declutter" This little house. During our 8 years together and 6 married. We have collected alot of stuff that has absolutly no use or value. I figure I would let her family come get her personel stuff, but alot of this is garbage. No, it's not wrong. Throw away the garbage and give the rest to her family. FWIW, I think wanting to declutter is healthier than wanting to hang onto stuff that has no meaning or value to you. |
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Now that the wife is gone and cannot come back I feel the need to "declutter" This little house. During our 8 years together and 6 married. We have collected alot of stuff that has absolutly no use or value. I figure I would let her family come get her personel stuff, but alot of this is garbage. No, it's not wrong. Throw away the garbage and give the rest to her family. FWIW, I think wanting to declutter is healthier than wanting to hang onto stuff that has no meaning or value to you. This is good advice. I would use the stuff the family doesn't take for target practice. |
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Now that the wife is gone and cannot come back I feel the need to "declutter" This little house. During our 8 years together and 6 married. We have collected alot of stuff that has absolutly no use or value. I figure I would let her family come get her personel stuff, but alot of this is garbage. No, it's not wrong. Throw away the garbage and give the rest to her family. FWIW, I think wanting to declutter is healthier than wanting to hang onto stuff that has no meaning or value to you. This is good advice. I would use the stuff the family doesn't take for target practice. ^^^^^^this |
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Sell what you can...use the proceeds to fund something just for YOU. Garage sales, eBay, and Craig's List require a little bit of work. I used a consignment store, they did all the work for 25% of the sale. What is left over can go to someplace like Goodwill or the Salvation Army. Make sure you get the tax deduction receipt.
Sell what you can = profit Donate the rest/tax deduction = profit Getting useless shit out of your life = profit |
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Is the wife not coming back because divorce, dead, or incarcerated? Was in jail. Now RO in place. It may still be her property. its is still her property. Move it to a storage unit, pay a few month on it, mail key and information to her and her family certified return recipt |
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Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: Is the wife not coming back because divorce, dead, or incarcerated? Was in jail. Now RO in place. It may still be her property. Uhhh... if there is a separation or divorce it may be illegal for you to liquidate assets. Check the laws in your state. You can't just throw her stuff out and change the locks if it was her residence without giving her a bunch of ammo to use against you in court. And unless it's a prison sentence of several years, you have to have some sort of eviction procedure. My advice is a storage unit for a month or two, so she can get it (or her family can) if need be. Don't inflame an already hard situation.
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If there is a restraining order, DO NOT get rid of it. She is still entitled to her property and you can be held liable possibly for destroying or disposing of her property.
A better solution would be give it to her family or have one of her close friends take it, with her permission and knowledge. Or put it in storage like you mentioned. Do not destroy it. |
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Quoted: **ETA** just re-read about the Jail and the RO...Now that the wife is gone and cannot come back I feel the need to "declutter" This little house. During our 8 years together and 6 married. We have collected alot of stuff that has absolutly no use or value. I figure I would let her family come get her personel stuff, but alot of this is garbage. I'd contact her and ask her what she wants done with everything, maybe have it documented somehow... If then she doesn't want the stuff, I would give the family 1st crack at everything.. Then whatever is left, I'd give to anyone that needed/wanted it, or a charity... After that I'd get a dumpster and get rid of the rest. My wife may only be here for another month or so... (Divorce related) After she is gone, I plan on getting rid of a ton of shit, if its still left... A lot of it is mine too, not just hers... One of the things that has bothered me about this place is the clutter of ""Stuff""... Any flat surface becomes a Catch all.. Our basement looks like a hoarders dream and is really embarrassing to me when I look at it or god help someone else has to go down there... I want to get rid of 80-90% of whats down there, put in some new shelves along the walls and really get shit organized... Hoping I can finally get my tools organized better and I've always wanted to start putting away more long term food, but we never had the room... I'm hoping to build up a year+ of food and water for several people... I May decide to build a small budget home theater too, if I have the room and funds... But I want to get it all cleaned up 1st and see what I'm working with. |
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Now that the wife is gone and cannot come back I feel the need to "declutter" This little house. During our 8 years together and 6 married. We have collected alot of stuff that has absolutly no use or value. I figure I would let her family come get her personel stuff, but alot of this is garbage. I'd contact her and ask her what she wants done with everything, maybe have it documented somehow... If then she doesn't want the stuff, I would give the family 1st crack at everything.. Then whatever is left, I'd give to anyone that needed/wanted it, or a charity... After that I'd get a dumpster and get rid of the rest. My wife may only be here for another month or so... (Divorce related) After she is gone, I plan on getting rid of a ton of shit, if its still left... A lot of it is mine too, not just hers... One of the things that has bothered me about this place is the clutter of ""Stuff""... Any flat surface becomes a Catch all.. Our basement looks like a hoarders dream and is really embarrassing to me when I look at it or god help someone else has to go down there... I want to get rid of 80-90% of whats down there, put in some new shelves along the walls and really get shit organized... Hoping I can finally get my tools organized better and I've always wanted to start putting away more long term food, but we never had the room... I'm hoping to build up a year+ of food and water for several people... I May decide to build a small budget home theater too, if I have the room and funds... But I want to get it all cleaned up 1st and see what I'm working with. I am not trashing anything of value just getting rid of all the extra crap. The kitchen is almost clean. I may actually be able to cook in there. I am thinking a months rental and give key to her dad as others have said may be my best option. |
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Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: **ETA** just re-read about the Jail and the RO...Now that the wife is gone and cannot come back I feel the need to "declutter" This little house. During our 8 years together and 6 married. We have collected alot of stuff that has absolutly no use or value. I figure I would let her family come get her personel stuff, but alot of this is garbage. I'd contact her and ask her what she wants done with everything, maybe have it documented somehow... If then she doesn't want the stuff, I would give the family 1st crack at everything.. Then whatever is left, I'd give to anyone that needed/wanted it, or a charity... After that I'd get a dumpster and get rid of the rest. My wife may only be here for another month or so... (Divorce related) After she is gone, I plan on getting rid of a ton of shit, if its still left... A lot of it is mine too, not just hers... One of the things that has bothered me about this place is the clutter of ""Stuff""... Any flat surface becomes a Catch all.. Our basement looks like a hoarders dream and is really embarrassing to me when I look at it or god help someone else has to go down there... I want to get rid of 80-90% of whats down there, put in some new shelves along the walls and really get shit organized... Hoping I can finally get my tools organized better and I've always wanted to start putting away more long term food, but we never had the room... I'm hoping to build up a year+ of food and water for several people... I May decide to build a small budget home theater too, if I have the room and funds... But I want to get it all cleaned up 1st and see what I'm working with. I am not trashing anything of value just getting rid of all the extra crap. The kitchen is almost clean. I may actually be able to cook in there. I am thinking a months rental and give key to her dad as others have said may be my best option. Sounds about right... However, I really would contact someone and ask about the legalities of the situation... This country has become all to lawyer and sue happy... I'd at least give her 1st crack at it... Ask her what she wants done with it, if reasonable, make it happen... Sounds like your on the right track though... |