Posted: 9/23/2010 6:25:43 PM EDT
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I have a friend who about 6 months ago finally built up the courage to leave her abusive realitionship, she got her own place and tried to move on but he stalked her relentlessly. He had broke into her place,threatined her,her freinds,refused to pay child support or help with their kids in any way.
Somehow now he has convinced her he has changed(and maybe he has) and their planning on getting back together. So here is my question, is it right for me to voice my opinion about the mistake I belive she is making 
FYI...I am married,and not trying to get laid Edit for poor grammer/spelling |
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Quoted: He stocked her?I have a friend who about 6 months ago finally built up the courage to leave her abusive realitionship, she got her own place and tried to move on but he stocked her relentlessly. He had broke into her place,threatined her,her freinds,refused to pay child support or help with their kids in any way. Somehow now he has convinced her he has changed(and maybe he has) and their planning on getting back together. So here is my question, is it right for me to voice my opinion about the mistake I belive she is making FYI...I am married,and not trying to get laid  Trust me, you won't convince her to do anything. |
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He stocked her?I have a friend who about 6 months ago finally built up the courage to leave her abusive realitionship, she got her own place and tried to move on but he stocked her relentlessly. He had broke into her place,threatined her,her freinds,refused to pay child support or help with their kids in any way. Somehow now he has convinced her he has changed(and maybe he has) and their planning on getting back together. So here is my question, is it right for me to voice my opinion about the mistake I belive she is making
FYI...I am married,and not trying to get laid Trust me, you won't convince her to do anything except get mad at you. Fixed |
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Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: He stocked her?I have a friend who about 6 months ago finally built up the courage to leave her abusive realitionship, she got her own place and tried to move on but he stocked her relentlessly. He had broke into her place,threatined her,her freinds,refused to pay child support or help with their kids in any way. Somehow now he has convinced her he has changed(and maybe he has) and their planning on getting back together. So here is my question, is it right for me to voice my opinion about the mistake I belive she is making FYI...I am married,and not trying to get laid Trust me, you won't convince her to do anything except get mad at you. Fixed Truth. If she is to stupid to see that the fool is crazy and should leave the state. Then all you are going to do is piss her off. Most I can say is hope you don't see her on the news as a murder victim. |
...hard to convince as abused woman though
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He stocked her?I have a friend who about 6 months ago finally built up the courage to leave her abusive realitionship, she got her own place and tried to move on but he stocked her relentlessly. He had broke into her place,threatined her,her freinds,refused to pay child support or help with their kids in any way. Somehow now he has convinced her he has changed(and maybe he has) and their planning on getting back together. So here is my question, is it right for me to voice my opinion about the mistake I belive she is making
FYI...I am married,and not trying to get laid Trust me, you won't convince her to do anything except get mad at you. Fixed Truth. If she is to stupid to see that the fool is crazy and should leave the state. Then all you are going to do is piss her off. Most I can say is hope you don't see her on the news as a murder victim. Kinda thought that's what I would tell her |
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Yes, as her friend she needs to hear the truth! So speak it, be blunt and as a matter of fact w/o emotional content. Then, move on away from her as fast and far as you can.
You're not going to save her,you're not the knight in shinning armour you invision yourself to be, who rescues the damsel in distress She has to decide to save herself. |
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Manipulate her. Make her ask you if you think it's a good idea. Then lay it on her. You guys suck with women, especially your women-friends, if you cant find a way to get her to take your advice. It could save her life. All joking aside, OP. The bolded red text is something you need to consider. With men like that, it's truly a gamble as for safety. Most of the posters are right. She'll hate you, she'll probably never talk to you again. But that's a small price to pay, IMO, to clear your conscience. Atleast you can tell yourself you tried your best. What if he snaps? What if he kills her? You know what you need to do. |
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Sure, you have to be honest. She may not like hearing it, and she'll probably dismiss it, but you will almost certainly be proven right. Just try not to rub it in. Love is blind.
ETA: Look up the local battered women's shelter and keep the phone number/address handy. She may be in touch again and you're not qualified. |