[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Insecure Husbands (Page 1 of 3)
Posted: 9/17/2010 11:55:57 AM EDT
| My wife's female friend (we'll call her Sara) was looking for a babysitter so she could go to the gym with her husband. One of Sara's friends said she can babysit for her. The girl's husband was ok with this, until he saw what Sara's husband looks like. The guy has been hitting the gym regularly and is in shape. The potential babysitter's husband is a fat slob and told his wife that she's not going to babysit Sara's kid. He said that his reason was that he's jealous of Sara's husband. She says that "fat slob" treats his wife like shit, always humiliating her and insulting her. He also likes to go out with his friends to the strip clubs but doesn't let her go out with her friends. The guy is a piece of shit. Why do guys treat their women like shit? |
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My wife's female friend (we'll call her Sara) was looking for a babysitter so she could go to the gym with her husband. One of Sara's friends said she can babysit for her. The girl's husband was ok with this, until he saw what Sara's husband looks like. The guy has been hitting the gym regularly and is in shape. The potential babysitter's husband is a fat slob and told his wife that she's not going to babysit Sara's kid. He said that his reason was that he's jealous of Sara's husband. She says that "fat slob" treats his wife like shit, always humiliating her and insulting her. He also likes to go out with his friends to the strip clubs but doesn't let her go out with her friends. The guy is a piece of shit. Why do guys treat their women like shit? Why do you care? |
Why? Because women put up with it for whatever reason. Whether they can't afford to get out on their own, or they feel they can't do any better, or they don't want their kids to come from a broken home, yeah, many women just stick around not because they want to but because they don't really see an alternative. Let's just hope that there's not worse things going on behind closed doors there 
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Why would a woman stay with a 'husband' like that? She puts up with being treated poorly so he treats her poorly. It depends on the situation. Some are afraid, some don't know any better. My current girlfriend came from a very controlling and abusive relationship. Her leaving caused a lot of drama and even criminal activity from her ex-husband. Shame too, she is an absolutely wonderful person. |
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As long as my wife keeps her face covered in public and walks 5 feet behind me I let her do pretty much whatever she wants. You progressive hacks need to quit screwing up what you don't understand. Sure, now it's just 5ft and you think that fine or even funny. It aint. You let them start thinking they are equal and they will start walking all over you, understand me? 10ft or you ruin the world. 
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Most MEN do not treat their women bad... that little boy needs an ass whopping. It'd do a lot of good for his wife to just go out for a while without his "permission" and see what happens. I predict divorce. My wife says the guy was in a previous marriage and got divorced. The other woman probably decided she wasn't going to put up with his shit and ejected. She says this girl is about 30 years old and the guy is about 40. The guy above got it right though. If she lets him treat her like shit, he's just going to continue his abusive behavior. |
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Why would a woman stay with a 'husband' like that? She puts up with being treated poorly so he treats her poorly. It depends on the situation. Some are afraid, some don't know any better. My current girlfriend came from a very controlling and abusive relationship. Her leaving caused a lot of drama and even criminal activity from her ex-husband. Shame too, she is an absolutely wonderful person. Good for her to draw the line. Personal growth and all that...... |
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The husband of one of the ladies I cave with had his first wife cheat on him, so he watches this wife like a hawk. Except for going caving, he won't let her go anywhere without him. Run up to Kroger for milk? Nope...not without him.
How anyone can stay with someone like that amazes me. |
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Why would a woman stay with a 'husband' like that? She puts up with being treated poorly so he treats her poorly. It depends on the situation. Some are afraid, some don't know any better. My current girlfriend came from a very controlling and abusive relationship. Her leaving caused a lot of drama and even criminal activity from her ex-husband. Shame too, she is an absolutely wonderful person. I know a couple of guys that are their wives' second husbands. Both of the females were in abusive relationships, left their husbands, and are now happy with these guys. |
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I have never understood this phenomenom of insecure men and their women.
IMHO it doesnt matter how much an insecure man tries to keep thier wife or GF from doing things, they will eventually do what they want with or without their consent. Then the inevitable breakup happens. I live by the motto..."If I treat my wife the way she wants to be treated, I have no fear of her going anywhere else and will stick by me through thick and thin." Also helps when you marry a woman that wants to be married to you and stay together through thick and thin. |
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Quoted: The husband of one of the ladies I cave with had his first wife cheat on him, so he watches this wife like a hawk. Except for going caving, he won't let her go anywhere without him. Run up to Kroger for milk? Nope...not without him. How anyone can stay with someone like that amazes me. Wait. She can go in a cave...secluded, dark and pretty private...but can't go to a minimart? ooookayyyyyyyyyy |
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It takes two. If I am in a relationship and a man is treating me poorly I am no longer a victim if I stay in that relationship... I am a volunteer.
This does not absolve him from his part in being abusive but if I know that about him and stay I am a participant. People won't stay with someone who treats them worse than they treat themselves. I would be willing to bet that woman has an incredibly harsh internal dialogue. |
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We've got guys here who won't let their wives on Facebook. That is sad I have known guys like that. I wouldn't marry a woman that I could do that to. How in God's name could you stand to look at a woman that does as you order? I enjoy that my wife is intelligent, strong and makes her own decisions and is fully willing and able to take responsibility for her decisions. I have zero fear that my wife would cheat on me ZERO. Maybe it is because I treat her like a human not a possession. I have known guys that were tyrants and they had these little humble, obedient wives. Pathetic men brow beating pathetic women. |
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It takes 2 to tango.
Men who treat women like shit would run out of women to treat like shit if there were no women who would allow it. Some women seem to not only tolerate that bullshit but seek it out. In many cases it is just classless stupidity but in some cases I have seen it is a calculating evil shitbag who seeks out weak, damaged women to prey on. At their core these men are tiny shriveled hateful beings. |
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As long as my wife keeps her face covered in public and walks 5 feet behind me I let her do pretty much whatever she wants. LOL, you let her out in public... In all seriousness, the guy is a douchebag of the nth degree. If she needs someone to treat her right, send her my way... (pending pics of course) ETA: Quoted:
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...Why do guys treat their women like shit? I think the real question is ""Why do women marry guys who treat them that way?" This is the real question. You can't really fault someone for having expectations in a relationship not matter how unfair you think they are. You can, however, fault someone for putting up said expectations. Just because I tell her to get her ass back in the kitchen to make a sammich doesn't mean she's gonna do it. And just because she asks for a 10k rock doesn't mean I have to get her one. |
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If yall are from the TX Panhandle I could swear your wife works with my ex-g/f. The guy who she rebounded with then got knocked up by treats her exactly like this.
As far as why anyone treats anyone badly is because of insecurity. This particular POS is well....a POS. And he's well aware of it. In order to stand taller he must stomp everyone else to a lower level. After enough of that women especially engage in some kind of stockholm syndrome. They will cover for their abusers, alow them to abuse their children, gamble/drink away all of their money, and the list goes on. ETA: as the feminization of the American Male continues, you see more of this with the roles reversed as well. |
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The husband of one of the ladies I cave with had his first wife cheat on him, so he watches this wife like a hawk. Except for going caving, he won't let her go anywhere without him. Run up to Kroger for milk? Nope...not without him. How anyone can stay with someone like that amazes me. Wait. She can go in a cave...secluded, dark and pretty private...but can't go to a minimart? ooookayyyyyyyyyy He let's her go caving because he knows she's usually with at least 5 or 6 people (a few of which are other females). |
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Bottom line (and this oughta kick off a shit storm): the male psyche can be a pretty fragile thing. As evidenced by the number of folks trying to change the subject from "Why are some men insecure?" to "Why do women tolerate it?" 
Jane I'm pretty sure that has nothing to do with the male psyche being fragile. |
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Bottom line (and this oughta kick off a shit storm): the male psyche can be a pretty fragile thing. As evidenced by the number of folks trying to change the subject from "Why are some men insecure?" to "Why do women tolerate it?"
Jane Men are emotional creatures much like women. For the most part we men just tend to be a bit more stable about it due to our hormonal cycles ranging from more horny -to- less horny instead of going from happy to Prehistoric Monster Syndrome each month. Still, we men obviously have emotions, egos, insecurities, etc. Heck, I recently watched the John Adams series with my wife and I openly wept during the part of the series where Abigail passed away. Reminded me of how grateful I am for my own wife. Why do women tolerate men's insecurities? Answer: for the same reason men tolerate women's PMS; because with the right partner and the right relationship it's worth it to tolerate such things. |
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Bottom line (and this oughta kick off a shit storm): the male psyche can be a pretty fragile thing. As evidenced by the number of folks trying to change the subject from "Why are some men insecure?" to "Why do women tolerate it?"
Jane Wut? Me not understand. |
Dude, that's almost the same thing she said. She said her face is kind of weird but her body isn't that bad.
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The husband of one of the ladies I cave with had his first wife cheat on him, so he watches this wife like a hawk. Except for going caving, he won't let her go anywhere without him. Run up to Kroger for milk? Nope...not without him. How anyone can stay with someone like that amazes me. Wait. She can go in a cave...secluded, dark and pretty private...but can't go to a minimart? ooookayyyyyyyyyy You ever been caving? Not sexy. |
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We've got guys here who won't let their wives on Facebook. Dude.. it is the only way to have complete trust... I have a my personal checking account, then we have a joint checking checking account (so I can see her purchases). I log onto all her email account / facebook / myspace about 4 times a week, to see who she has been talking to. Then I have a keystoke logger on her computer / my computer is password protected. Then I check the cell bill, and ask about number I don't know. (I sometimes call the numbers / play dumb) I had her text message service disbled. We only go out together, or just me. She is also not allowed to work. So far our relationship has been fine. (I am sure she is no cheating) |
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The way i view it is...if she is gunna cheat, shes gunna cheat...there is nothing you can do to stop it, the more you try or hint that its going on the more likely it will happen.....
Now to the Fat slob with a tiny dick part......we are born this way...its not our fault.......  so alittle aggression is natural......
Similar to Fat Kid Aggression....Tiny Dick Aggression is far worse.....usually seen in Wife Beaters and NASCAR fans....but they go hand in hand.... 
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Quoted: My wife's female friend (we'll call her Sara) was looking for a babysitter so she could go to the gym with her husband. One of Sara's friends said she can babysit for her. The girl's husband was ok with this, until he saw what Sara's husband looks like. The guy has been hitting the gym regularly and is in shape. The potential babysitter's husband is a fat slob and told his wife that she's not going to babysit Sara's kid. He said that his reason was that he's jealous of Sara's husband. She says that "fat slob" treats his wife like shit, always humiliating her and insulting her. He also likes to go out with his friends to the strip clubs but doesn't let her go out with her friends. The guy is a piece of shit. Why do guys treat their women like shit? I think you'd be surprised at the high number of ultra controlling, insecure husbands on this site alone. It's more common than you think. I've worked with some real prize winners when it comes to this topic. Losers, the lot of them. |