[ARCHIVED THREAD] - How long should I wait to date? (Page 1 of 3)
Posted: 8/22/2016 5:02:34 PM EDT
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I am almost divorced. I need advice if I should date ASAP or wait until the divorce is final.
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id wait until it was final just me me too ETA: I've been through 2 divorces one amicable and the other not so much. Bitches be cray cray and it's not worth the a little poon tang to end up on the witness stand arguing over who gets the vacuum cleaner if you know what I mean. |
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I would like to know the reason Quoted:
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id wait until it was final just me I would like to know the reason Because you're still married? Edit: Sort of. Its interesting. In FL the judge considers the marriage "over" when one party files. Even though you are still legally married. ("over" for purposes of calculating the length of the marriage.) |
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I am definitely going to have trust issues. I hope that I can get over this quick. Quoted:
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Immediately try and get laid, but DO NOT attempt to get into anything serious. You are possibly going to have some trust issues for a while. I am definitely going to have trust issues. I hope that I can get over this quick. I was in your position a few years ago, I'm pretty sure the trust issues don't go away, you just decide to stop caring. |
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Id go ballz deep ASAP... No protection either if I was you... Ya know... to get that whole "FREEDOM" feeling I was faithful for my entire marriage. And the 9 month debacle of the divorce negotiations (while we were still living together BTW). It was finalized on a Thursday (I think). That following weekend I was at a HS reunion (first one I ever attended) and hooked up with some girls that I went to school with 25 years earlier. 
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Quoted: I am almost divorced. I need advice if I should date ASAP or wait until the divorce is final. You signed a legal agreement when you got married. That agreement isn't legally terminated until the divorce is final. Just saying... I would like to know why the fuck people who are getting divorced think the best course of action is to immediately get involved, if even for one night, with someone else. That's like the slow kid sticking a knife into an electrical socket over and over again just to see what happens. Divorce is usually a big, painful, and expensive ordeal. Give yourself a break, figure out where you screwed things up or why you keep choosing the wrong type of woman, work on yourself for awhile, and then once have tweaked your new and improved then get out there and chase tail. Sure becoming a better person isn't as much fun as chasing beaver...but it also isn't as expensive compared to when the next relationship fails either. Women aren't going anywhere and with apps like Tinder you can pretty much get laid any time you want. So there is no reason to rush into doing foolish things. |
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I am almost divorced. I need advice if I should date ASAP or wait until the divorce is final. back story Why wait? She didn't. |
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I was in your position a few years ago, I'm pretty sure the trust issues don't go away, you just decide to stop caring. Quoted:
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Immediately try and get laid, but DO NOT attempt to get into anything serious. You are possibly going to have some trust issues for a while. I am definitely going to have trust issues. I hope that I can get over this quick. I was in your position a few years ago, I'm pretty sure the trust issues don't go away, you just decide to stop caring. And then you meet a woman who looks good in thongs, runs a successful company, shoots, loves to travel, can hold a conversation, cooks well if shes in the mood, and has more money than you'll earn working. I should send my ex a thank you card. OP, get after it. |
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I'd wait until I got my head and my finances straight. For me that took about 12-18 months. Diving back in while you're still fucked in the head and wallet from the last one isn't a great idea IMO. The people I see do this too often make the EXACT same mistakes with the next one that they made with the one they're still paying to make go away. |
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Id go ballz deep ASAP... No protection either if I was you... Ya know... to get that whole "FREEDOM" feeling That's got to be the shittiest relationship advice ever. The LAST thing he should do is knock up some skank. He needs to wrap it up. Even the people that think pull and pray works, have to admit that the first time a freshly divorced guy gets laid...his control will be less than optimal. |
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Because technically you are still married and she will claim you are cheating on her Quoted:
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id wait until it was final just me I would like to know the reason Because technically you are still married and she will claim you are cheating on her This, I waited till the Judges ink was dry. |
| My personal outlook on coming out of a bad relationship..don't date untill you are happy as a person and dealt with 100% of the shit that happened in the past relationship...Because u till you fully deal with it and learn the lessons it teaches you will not be a better person and ready for a new relationship..there is a reason they say rebounds never last... |
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My personal outlook on coming out of a bad relationship..don't date untill you are happy as a person and dealt with 100% of the shit that happened in the past relationship...Because u till you fully deal with it and learn the lessons it teaches you will not be a better person and ready for a new relationship..there is a reason they say rebounds never last... So you can't work on yourself while having a casual fuck buddy or the occasional one night stand? I call BS. OP you can date whenever you feel like you're ready, just don't get too emotionally invested in anybody for a year or so. |
| I was dating before the divorce was final. My ex had been dating for years while we were "happily" married so I wasn't concerned about the morality of dating before it was finalized. Three months later I've met an amazing woman who is making my life truly fun again. Just be aware that you'll likely be very guarded with your emotions after what you went through, still struggle myself at times. |
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So you can't work on yourself while having a casual fuck buddy or the occasional one night stand? I call BS. OP you can date whenever you feel like you're ready, just don't get too emotionally invested in anybody for a year or so. Quoted:
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My personal outlook on coming out of a bad relationship..don't date untill you are happy as a person and dealt with 100% of the shit that happened in the past relationship...Because u till you fully deal with it and learn the lessons it teaches you will not be a better person and ready for a new relationship..there is a reason they say rebounds never last... So you can't work on yourself while having a casual fuck buddy or the occasional one night stand? I call BS. OP you can date whenever you feel like you're ready, just don't get too emotionally invested in anybody for a year or so. A year? I don't think I'm gonna be able to get emotionally invested in anyone ever again. |
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A year? I don't think I'm gonna be able to get emotionally invested in anyone ever again. Quoted:
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My personal outlook on coming out of a bad relationship..don't date untill you are happy as a person and dealt with 100% of the shit that happened in the past relationship...Because u till you fully deal with it and learn the lessons it teaches you will not be a better person and ready for a new relationship..there is a reason they say rebounds never last... So you can't work on yourself while having a casual fuck buddy or the occasional one night stand? I call BS. OP you can date whenever you feel like you're ready, just don't get too emotionally invested in anybody for a year or so. A year? I don't think I'm gonna be able to get emotionally invested in anyone ever again. Nothing wrong with that. The older I get, the less interest I have in finding a serious relationship. I'm pretty content hanging out with my daughters or doing my own thing. I do sometimes feel bad I don't have a SO/extended family around during the holidays for my kid's sake though. |
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I am almost divorced. I need advice if I should date ASAP or wait until the divorce is final. back story I waited until i was sure she wasn't going to change her mind, which was about 4 months. No way would i suggest waiting until its final. Go have some fun. Tinder, OK Cupid and Bumble are your friends. They are like video games only instead of winning extra lives you win blowjobs. |
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me too ETA: I've been through 2 divorces one amicable and the other not so much. Bitches be cray cray and it's not worth the a little poon tang to end up on the witness stand arguing over who gets the vacuum cleaner if you know what I mean. Quoted:
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id wait until it was final just me me too ETA: I've been through 2 divorces one amicable and the other not so much. Bitches be cray cray and it's not worth the a little poon tang to end up on the witness stand arguing over who gets the vacuum cleaner if you know what I mean. in my state infidelity doesn't matter at all. |
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You signed a legal agreement when you got married. That agreement isn't legally terminated until the divorce is final. Just saying... I would like to know why the fuck people who are getting divorced think the best course of action is to immediately get involved, if even for one night, with someone else. That's like the slow kid sticking a knife into an electrical socket over and over again just to see what happens. Divorce is usually a big, painful, and expensive ordeal. Give yourself a break, figure out where you screwed things up or why you keep choosing the wrong type of woman, work on yourself for awhile, and then once have tweaked your new and improved then get out there and chase tail. Sure becoming a better person isn't as much fun as chasing beaver...but it also isn't as expensive compared to when the next relationship fails either. Women aren't going anywhere and with apps like Tinder you can pretty much get laid any time you want. So there is no reason to rush into doing foolish things. Quoted:
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I am almost divorced. I need advice if I should date ASAP or wait until the divorce is final. You signed a legal agreement when you got married. That agreement isn't legally terminated until the divorce is final. Just saying... I would like to know why the fuck people who are getting divorced think the best course of action is to immediately get involved, if even for one night, with someone else. That's like the slow kid sticking a knife into an electrical socket over and over again just to see what happens. Divorce is usually a big, painful, and expensive ordeal. Give yourself a break, figure out where you screwed things up or why you keep choosing the wrong type of woman, work on yourself for awhile, and then once have tweaked your new and improved then get out there and chase tail. Sure becoming a better person isn't as much fun as chasing beaver...but it also isn't as expensive compared to when the next relationship fails either. Women aren't going anywhere and with apps like Tinder you can pretty much get laid any time you want. So there is no reason to rush into doing foolish things. Because after air, water, food and shelter, sex is a basic human need. Don't get into a relationship right away (or ever) but absolutely get laid early and often. That does require leaving the basement though, usually. |
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when i got divorced, i had sex with basically every woman I knew who was not hideously ugly and not a blood relative. get it out of your system i did, for 6 years until I met Mrs. Pilum I tell my coworkers i have three criteria, born female, legal age and not related to me. everything else is negotiable. if she's ugly she buying me drinks until she's not. |
