[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Girlfriend Problems (Page 1 of 3)
Posted: 11/10/2005 6:24:28 PM EDT
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Here is the deal.... Im a Noob here but i AM NOT a newb to guns. I was raised around firearms and have a Kimber Arms .45, 2 M1As, a Remington 870 and a bunch of POS airsoft. I am 19 and in college. I have been dating a girl for about a year and 10 months. She knows about these guns and has no problem with me having them. HOWEVER, there is a problem. She is not OK with me having guns in the future...(all figurative talk). SHe doesnt want me to have kids around guns because guns can hurt people. She calls me selfish because I want to have guns. She says Im inconsiderate and not understanding. Finally, I really love firearms, but i love this girl too. ARFCOM what should I do? Jeff |
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Most people on ARFCOM will tell you to break up with her. Take her shooting, start out with a .22LR handgun or even a pellet pistol. Finally, show examples of how a gun could protect your hypothetical family. Just today on the news some grandmother shot an intruder in her house. She was on Hannity & Colmes. |
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Sorry to be crass....but is you listen to Leykis, "Dump that Bitch!!!" Also, on a serious note...DUDE YOU ARE 19 and in College....way too young for something so serious....too much tail running around to be tied down... Now on a real serious note...Don't get hooked up with someone no matter how much you love them or think you do who does not agree with you on such issues. The outfall of disagreements in this area is not worth it. |
Sniper_Wolfe is right, break up with her & find a girl who already believes what you do. It's just to darn hard to untrain, & reteach someone who has anti crap spoonfed to them their whole life. They won't see or learn for the most part because they don't want to.  Let him who has ears to hear, hear. |
At 19, you're getting good practice at training women with regards to firearms, and it'll come in handy if your future GF/wife has any reservations. Hopefully she'll want to shoot WITH you. HH |
If you take her shooting, be warned--you will never get your hands on your guns again... And for fuck's sake folks, it isn't a horrible thing to find somebody you want to stay with when you're young. I've been with my wife since high school (13 years now) and we don't have nearly the problems that seem to be so freaking prevalent on the board... 
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Exactly. Start with .22 handgun. I cannot stress this enough. ETA: I see you don't own one. Borrow one. Or buy a cheap BB pistol from Wal-Mart (or use your airsoft junk) to teach her basic operation. Your firearms don't sound to newbie friendly |
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Will do. I really like this girl... but I am slightly unnerved by her liberal views. She is by no way left wing but left center.... I am right center. I think she'll grow out of it as she still has not had a job yet. On another note, I am looking to convert one of my M1As to a "Designated Marksman" variant. I already have an Acog. Where should i get the rest? Jeff |
That's an eject handle you stupid fucking cat. |
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I haven't had a gf yet that "likes" guns. Had one that tolerated them (most recent- a step in the right direction), but certainly wasn't a fan. She liked the range, but didn't want to support "that industry". Plus if kids came into the equation, I was expected to sell off all but one. Peace out baby. |
| i read the first post in this thread and that was it....my girlfriend loves guns...she thinks its fine to have them, just keep them locked up and away from the kids...... speaking of which, im hittin the range Saturday with her....debating what rifles to bring. |
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i said something to my current g/f once along the lines of how i absolutely refuse to not do everything in my power to protect my family, and that entails keeping a firearm for ready access in case of an intruder. that being said, i'm not going to keep a loaded pistol on the nightstand where a kid WILL touch it. tell her they have small safes for under the bed that hold a pistol that open only if the right size hand fits in. its readily accessible but also safe. i plan on having something like this when i'm older, although hopefully better. as a father i will not allow someone to break into my house to torment, hurt, or even KILL my family, because i will not stand helpless to the people i love. guns are MORE important in the future because i will have my children to protect, and not just her sorry liberal ass (talkign of my g/f here, and probably yours too). edit: i really love my g/f, but i told myself a few years ago after reading a lot on this site that i will NEVER allow a female to compromise one of my basic beliefs, no matter what. if she cant understand that, then she is not being fair to you. and thats what relationships are about. also, i noticed your comment about her being left center and you right center. that seems identical to how we are. i have a 10 page research paper on how gun control does not work. if you want me to send it to you, send me an IM or something with your email. ask her to read the paper with an open mind because its important to you. it's ok if she still disagrees at the end (no idea how thas possible, but girls are weird) -- but if she cant do this one thing for you, she's absolutely not worth it. sounds like she's trying to get her claws around your balls. what you need to do right now is sit her down and tell her you've thought about her request a lot and are sorry, but you will not allow your loved ones to grow up unprotected, and thats that. she might get pissed, but if she actually does love you she'll probably respect you for your stance. as i learned from my last relationship, women want to bend you, but think you're a wuss if they are successful |
its LOSE. LOOSE is what happens to a GIRL that causes a GUY to lose interest  but nonetheless, a biiiigggggg +1 |
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Stand your ground. Do NOT cave. Take her shooting and see what happens. Make it a fun time, not an "I told you so" type of day. If after that she STILL won't budge then it's time to move on (or you can simply continue with the relationship and let it go however it goes, but you won't be surprised/fucked up when things start coming apart). You're 19 for God's sake!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hell I was almost 30 when I got married and still got blindsided. You are WAY too young to be having the "M" word floating around. |
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Do yourself a favor (twenty years of marriage speaking here). Get yourself a girl with like interests who is not out to control you. How would she react if you told her she had to give up makeup in the future because it makes her look like a slut? You're young...take your time and play your options. S.O. |
| No pussy is so good that you'll give up all of your future gun purchases for. Borrow a rifle from a friend and tell her you just bought it. See what kind of shit comes up. Then think about that and see if that's the reaction you really want from life. You're in college man, tell her tough shit and if she doesn't like it, move on. There's plenty of bitches out there that'll put up with your gun habit. She's selfish for telling you that you're not allowed to buy anymore guns. |