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Posted: 12/29/2003 12:49:53 PM EDT
My brother in law is needing some help for a divorce he is going through. A couple moths ago he found out his wife was cheating on him. He first wanted to work it out with her. That didn't work. He then wanted to keep evrything together until after the holidays for his kids. That didn't work out.

Some background. He had 2 kids with her and they bought a house together. He conntacted lawyer to start the paper work but didn't get any advice on what he should do to save his butt. He is a young guy who got out of the Navy a couple years ago so he does not have a lot of money to spend on a real good lawyer. What he did have went to buy the house.

At first they were going to split everything 50-50 but the wife now wants a lot more. He is looking for ways to keep this from happening. He has canceled all the credit cards in both names. She still has some in her name. He thinks she has been taking money out of the savings. 2 cars are in both names one is in his name.

Lastly the wife has been visiting her boyfriend every other day. The boy friend does not have the best reputation around town.

Thanks for the help
Link Posted: 12/29/2003 12:52:29 PM EDT
Time to feed the hogs??? Feed 'em the boyfriend first, as the lawyers are SURE to give the hogs indigestion.
Link Posted: 12/29/2003 12:57:27 PM EDT
I hate hearing about marriages that are failing. How sad.
Link Posted: 12/29/2003 12:58:15 PM EDT
Arrange for her to "dissapear" and frame the boyfriend. [;D] Next time - get a prenuptial. There's not a woman alive that doesn't have it in her DNA to stab you in the back when you least expect it. ~ s0ulzer0
Link Posted: 12/29/2003 1:05:28 PM EDT
...so he does not have a lot of money to spend on a real good lawyer.
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Oh yes he does. His wife is spending it as we speak on a good lawyer. He better borrow some money and get a great lawyer now, or he will regret it for years to come. There is no such thing as a "friendly" divorce. It's time to hire a good lawyer.
Link Posted: 12/29/2003 1:05:28 PM EDT
Originally Posted By s0ulzer0: There's not a woman alive that doesn't have it in her DNA to stab you in the back when you least expect it. ~ s0ulzer0
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[BS] There are still good women to be had just like there are still good men out there. They are just getting harder and harder to find. And it takes more and more work than ever to keep a marriage strong. IT doesn't just happen by itself.
Link Posted: 12/29/2003 1:06:22 PM EDT
Link Posted: 12/29/2003 1:21:38 PM EDT
Spend the money NOW for a good lawyer or spend a LOT more later. The bitch cheated on him and is trying to take him to the cleaners in the process. Fuck that shit. She screwed the pooch, not him. "Ah, yes, divorce. From the Latin word meaning to rip out a man's genitals through his wallet." Robin Williams
Link Posted: 12/29/2003 1:49:59 PM EDT
Since Ca has no fault divorce laws will everything get split 50/50 or could she get more then 50%? If see gets the kids and the house would he most like have to keep paying for the house? If he proves that she was cheating could he get more then 50%?
Link Posted: 12/29/2003 1:59:12 PM EDT
Originally Posted By Old_Painless:
...so he does not have a lot of money to spend on a real good lawyer.
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Oh yes he does. His wife is spending it as we speak on a good lawyer. He better borrow some money and get a great lawyer now, or he will regret it for years to come. There is no such thing as a "friendly" divorce. It's time to hire a good lawyer.
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This is the best advice yet, follow it.
Link Posted: 12/29/2003 4:39:55 PM EDT
Strongly advise him to get a good lawyer, and to follow the instructions given. We all talk about equality, 50/50 etc. but the plain fact of the matter is that even if he is completely blameless, and has done no wrong, the cards are stacked against him in a divorce. He needs a good lawyer just to keep things even.
Link Posted: 12/29/2003 5:06:50 PM EDT
Does your buddy have any Indian (25% or more) in his blood? If so, have him take the divorce before his Tribal Council. They'll rule in his favor (custody of the kids, alimony, house, etc.). My brother suggested that to his friend and when the wife tried to move it to Calif. where she relocated, the Tribal Council said no and retained jurisdiction. She lost big time and he's happy as a clam.
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