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It could mean anything but it means you should move on. It means something different to everyone. They are probably used to being treated like trash and you are treating them well, this will confuse them. Find a girl that likes being treated well and appreciates you. It won't be easy. Good luck |
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I'll bet you a case of beer that within the next 10 years, these same women will feel that 'chemistry for you as they realize' their loser b/fs have a go no where job, smoke / drink a ton, are lazy and are "no fun".
"The chemistry just happened again.. I can't explain it... can we try again?" Mark my words. 
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It means she's doing you a favor and being honest and open with you that she doesn't see a relationship with you going anywhere for what ever reason. It can be a painful thing to hear sometimes, but it's better than the alternative of getting emotionally involved then having to endure a break up because she no longer "feels the chemistry."
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It means she's doing you a favor and being honest and open with you that she doesn't see a relationship with you going anywhere for what ever reason. It can be a painful thing to hear sometimes, but it's better than the alternative of getting emotionally involved then having to endure a break up because she no longer "feels the chemistry." You may not realize it but this is a good thing. +1. Having this conversation beats a lot of the other drama that I've been reading on ARFCOM. When that happens next time, just say sorry things didn't work out. And say I've enjoyed all the time we've spent together. Then say good-bye. Don't ask why? Don't whine or show that you are bothered by it. Don't call her. Don't make contact her. Start all over. |
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Have you ever met a girl that was nice and you enjoyed her company, but just didn't want a relationship with? That's how they feel towards you. That's it, nothing more. It's not because she's a money grubbing whore or she only likes guys that treat her like shit. They're just not interested in you. It's no big deal. Make another cast and see what you can reel in. Eventually you'll land a keeper. |
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It probably means she doesn't feel any chemistry. You know when you see a girl, and you get that old fashioned feeling, the one where you'd do anything to bone her? She doesn't feel that for you. This is a smart man. Listen to him This. Sometimes, the feelings just aren't there. |
| Having your shit together and being a good guy are prerequisites, but attraction and "clicking" are still required for a relationship. Those women are being mature and letting you know honestly that you two aren't a good match. At least you know you're doing something right by getting dates with honest mature women. Keep meeting new people, sooner or later, chemistry will happen and sparks will fly. |
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It probably means she doesn't feel any chemistry. You know when you see a girl, and you get that old fashioned feeling, the one where you'd do anything to bone her? She doesn't feel that for you. At the crudest level, this is probably a very accurate statement. |
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Having your shit together and being a good guy are prerequisites, but attraction and "clicking" are still required for a relationship. Those women are being mature and letting you know honestly that you two aren't a good match. At least you know you're doing something right by getting dates with honest mature women. Keep meeting new people, sooner or later, chemistry will happen and sparks will fly. There's the spirit! |
| You can see someone perfectly attractive and not feel a thing for them. At least, women can. I suppose it's probably different for men. Maybe it's something with your personality that puts them off. I don't know. Do you come across as arrogant? That can be a real turn-off for some women. |
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You can see someone perfectly attractive and not feel a thing for them. At least, women can. I suppose it's probably different for men. Maybe it's something with your personality that puts them off. I don't know. Do you come across as arrogant? That can be a real turn-off for some women. And a turn-on for other women. |
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You can see someone perfectly attractive and not feel a thing for them. At least, women can. I suppose it's probably different for men. Maybe it's something with your personality that puts them off. I don't know. Do you come across as arrogant? That can be a real turn-off for some women. LOL. Definately not. If anything I should probably be more of an asshole and less of a gentleman. I think that is the problem that I don't get. I am very pragmatic when it comes to dating. Attractive... check, smart...check, good moral character... check, came from a stable home... check, etc... If she fills all or most of the requirements, then I'll want to contine to date her until she proves me otherwise. For me, attraction and the desire to date someone come hand in hand. I am attracted to someone based upon physical, personality, and character attributes. If they suit me in all three areas, then the attraction will naturally follow. I guess I don't get how girls base everything off this whole vague idea of "feel". Most girls I have dated for any amount of time would go on and on about the fact I was perfect and a one in a million find, but the relationship would always sour on this vauge idea of "feeling" like it wasn't right. Its just weird. 
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You can see someone perfectly attractive and not feel a thing for them. At least, women can. I suppose it's probably different for men. Maybe it's something with your personality that puts them off. I don't know. Do you come across as arrogant? That can be a real turn-off for some women. LOL. Definately not. If anything I should probably be more of an asshole and less of a gentleman. I think that is the problem that I don't get. I am very pragmatic when it comes to dating. Attractive... check, smart...check, good moral character... check, came from a stable home... check, etc... If she fills all or most of the requirements, then I'll want to contine to date her until she proves me otherwise. For me, attraction and the desire to date someone come hand in hand. I am attracted to someone based upon physical, personality, and character attributes. If they suit me in all three areas, then the attraction will naturally follow. I guess I don't get how girls base everything off this whole vague idea of "feel". Most girls I have dated for any amount of time would go on and on about the fact I was perfect and a one in a million find, but the relationship would always sour on this vauge idea of "feeling" like it wasn't right. Its just weird. A lot of guys take that approach. It's like you're filling a position with a qualified candidate. Sort of a "farmer seeks wife" thing. It's a dealbreaker for me. I don't want to fill a role or fit into a position. It's stifling and I'm afraid you'll tell me to stick to the script. I want to feel special, that even if I had some major drawback, you'd still want me because there's no one else like me. I want a spark, I want to feel the need to tear your clothes off. I want to be happy that you're such a good guy with his shit together because if you hadn't been, I still would have wanted you desperately. I avoid use of the term feeling because I'm analytical enough to tell you specifically why I don't cream my panties when you walk in the room. Other women aren't analytical and use the term "feeling" to tell you why it doesn't work for them even though you look great on paper. Maybe you're cold, unsociable, boring, unadventurous and unwilling to try new things, maybe you're not curious by nature and don't get excited about the world around you? |
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So I have gotten this from the last few girls I have dated and actually wanted a relationship (good job, solid upbringing, decent morals, not crazy, etc). "Your a great guy but... I am just not feeling the chemestry." All the dates I had with them went well, good conversation, not awkward, etc. Of course I never get this from the crazies I want nothing to do with. I am 25, a physically fit guy, college educated, active duty in the Marines, and have about 6-9 months left before I go back to my civilian job as a firefighter for a large midwestern city. In other words I have my shit together. The only thing I can see as a roadblock for most women is my inevitable move in about 3 months.
So ladies, what can I do to enhance the chemestry on the first few dates? What the hell does it really "mean" when they say this? You no pet her kitty cat. 
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You can see someone perfectly attractive and not feel a thing for them. At least, women can. I suppose it's probably different for men. Maybe it's something with your personality that puts them off. I don't know. Do you come across as arrogant? That can be a real turn-off for some women. LOL. Definately not. If anything I should probably be more of an asshole and less of a gentleman. I think that is the problem that I don't get. I am very pragmatic when it comes to dating. Attractive... check, smart...check, good moral character... check, came from a stable home... check, etc... If she fills all or most of the requirements, then I'll want to contine to date her until she proves me otherwise. For me, attraction and the desire to date someone come hand in hand. I am attracted to someone based upon physical, personality, and character attributes. If they suit me in all three areas, then the attraction will naturally follow. I guess I don't get how girls base everything off this whole vague idea of "feel". Most girls I have dated for any amount of time would go on and on about the fact I was perfect and a one in a million find, but the relationship would always sour on this vauge idea of "feeling" like it wasn't right. Its just weird. A lot of guys take that approach. It's like you're filling a position with a qualified candidate. Sort of a "farmer seeks wife" thing. It's a dealbreaker for me. I don't want to fill a role or fit into a position. It's stifling and I'm afraid you'll tell me to stick to the script. I want to feel special, that even if I had some major drawback, you'd still want me because there's no one else like me. I want a spark, I want to feel the need to tear your clothes off. I want to be happy that you're such a good guy with his shit together because if you hadn't been, I still would have wanted you desperately. I avoid use of the term feeling because I'm analytical enough to tell you specifically why I don't cream my panties when you walk in the room. Other women aren't analytical and use the term "feeling" to tell you why it doesn't work for them even though you look great on paper. Maybe you're cold, unsociable, boring, unadventurous and unwilling to try new things, maybe you're not curious by nature and don't get excited about the world around you? LOL Definatly not, but thanks for your input. That was an interesting deluge into the female psyche. You guys are weird and I will never get it, and I don't think I am going to try or my brain might explode. That or maybe I am too logical for my own damn good. I think I am going to quit even trying to have a relationship with women and just screw around with girls at from the bar and save my money and sanity.
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You can see someone perfectly attractive and not feel a thing for them. At least, women can. I suppose it's probably different for men. Maybe it's something with your personality that puts them off. I don't know. Do you come across as arrogant? That can be a real turn-off for some women. LOL. Definately not. If anything I should probably be more of an asshole and less of a gentleman. I think that is the problem that I don't get. I am very pragmatic when it comes to dating. Attractive... check, smart...check, good moral character... check, came from a stable home... check, etc... If she fills all or most of the requirements, then I'll want to contine to date her until she proves me otherwise. For me, attraction and the desire to date someone come hand in hand. I am attracted to someone based upon physical, personality, and character attributes. If they suit me in all three areas, then the attraction will naturally follow. I guess I don't get how girls base everything off this whole vague idea of "feel". Most girls I have dated for any amount of time would go on and on about the fact I was perfect and a one in a million find, but the relationship would always sour on this vauge idea of "feeling" like it wasn't right. Its just weird. A lot of guys take that approach. It's like you're filling a position with a qualified candidate. Sort of a "farmer seeks wife" thing. It's a dealbreaker for me. I don't want to fill a role or fit into a position. It's stifling and I'm afraid you'll tell me to stick to the script. I want to feel special, that even if I had some major drawback, you'd still want me because there's no one else like me. I want a spark, I want to feel the need to tear your clothes off. I want to be happy that you're such a good guy with his shit together because if you hadn't been, I still would have wanted you desperately. I avoid use of the term feeling because I'm analytical enough to tell you specifically why I don't cream my panties when you walk in the room. Other women aren't analytical and use the term "feeling" to tell you why it doesn't work for them even though you look great on paper. Maybe you're cold, unsociable, boring, unadventurous and unwilling to try new things, maybe you're not curious by nature and don't get excited about the world around you? I agree with this. |
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Quoted: Interestingly enough I tend to take his approach.A lot of guys take that approach. It's like you're filling a position with a qualified candidate. Sort of a "farmer seeks wife" thing. It's a dealbreaker for me. I don't want to fill a role or fit into a position. It's stifling and I'm afraid you'll tell me to stick to the script. I want to feel special, that even if I had some major drawback, you'd still want me because there's no one else like me. I want a spark, I want to feel the need to tear your clothes off. I want to be happy that you're such a good guy with his shit together because if you hadn't been, I still would have wanted you desperately. I avoid use of the term feeling because I'm analytical enough to tell you specifically why I don't cream my panties when you walk in the room. Other women aren't analytical and use the term "feeling" to tell you why it doesn't work for them even though you look great on paper. Maybe you're cold, unsociable, boring, unadventurous and unwilling to try new things, maybe you're not curious by nature and don't get excited about the world around you? I have certain things that I would never be able to tolerate in a partner(and things I would very much want in one) and would not even try to work a relationship with someone who is that particular way. Feelings are lower on the list for me - at least right now they are. "Love" means nothing without respect, so feeling something for someone right away, or at first sight is somewhat bizarre to me. |
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A lot of guys take that approach. It's like you're filling a position with a qualified candidate. Sort of a "farmer seeks wife" thing. It's a dealbreaker for me. I don't want to fill a role or fit into a position. It's stifling and I'm afraid you'll tell me to stick to the script. I want to feel special, that even if I had some major drawback, you'd still want me because there's no one else like me. I want a spark, I want to feel the need to tear your clothes off. I want to be happy that you're such a good guy with his shit together because if you hadn't been, I still would have wanted you desperately. I avoid use of the term feeling because I'm analytical enough to tell you specifically why I don't cream my panties when you walk in the room. Other women aren't analytical and use the term "feeling" to tell you why it doesn't work for them even though you look great on paper. Maybe you're cold, unsociable, boring, unadventurous and unwilling to try new things, maybe you're not curious by nature and don't get excited about the world around you? I have certain things that I would never be able to tolerate in a partner(and things I would very much want in one) and would not even try to work a relationship with someone who is that particular way. Feelings are lower on the list for me - at least right now they are. "Love" means nothing without respect, so feeling something for someone right away, or at first sight is somewhat bizarre to me. Idk about "love" necessarily, but if there isn't any spark right off the bat, I wouldn't even bother. Respect comes after getting to know that person. |
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I want to feel special, that even if I had some major drawback, you'd still want me because there's no one else like me. I want a spark, I want to feel the need to tear your clothes off. I want to be happy that you're such a good guy with his shit together because if you hadn't been, I still would have wanted you desperately. The last line confuses me. Happy that you're such a good guy but if ur not I would want u anyway? |
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I want to feel special, that even if I had some major drawback, you'd still want me because there's no one else like me. I want a spark, I want to feel the need to tear your clothes off. I want to be happy that you're such a good guy with his shit together because if you hadn't been, I still would have wanted you desperately. The last line confuses me. Happy that you're such a good guy but if ur not I would want u anyway? If the chemistry is right, she'd want to be with the guy. It would be a big bonus if he's also "such a good guy with his shit together". I hear the same shit from domestic situations. "He hit you.." "But I love him! He is the one!" |
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Quoted: Maybe a poor choice of words on my part.Quoted: Quoted: Interestingly enough I tend to take his approach.A lot of guys take that approach. It's like you're filling a position with a qualified candidate. Sort of a "farmer seeks wife" thing. It's a dealbreaker for me. I don't want to fill a role or fit into a position. It's stifling and I'm afraid you'll tell me to stick to the script. I want to feel special, that even if I had some major drawback, you'd still want me because there's no one else like me. I want a spark, I want to feel the need to tear your clothes off. I want to be happy that you're such a good guy with his shit together because if you hadn't been, I still would have wanted you desperately. I avoid use of the term feeling because I'm analytical enough to tell you specifically why I don't cream my panties when you walk in the room. Other women aren't analytical and use the term "feeling" to tell you why it doesn't work for them even though you look great on paper. Maybe you're cold, unsociable, boring, unadventurous and unwilling to try new things, maybe you're not curious by nature and don't get excited about the world around you? I have certain things that I would never be able to tolerate in a partner(and things I would very much want in one) and would not even try to work a relationship with someone who is that particular way. Feelings are lower on the list for me - at least right now they are. "Love" means nothing without respect, so feeling something for someone right away, or at first sight is somewhat bizarre to me. Idk about "love" necessarily, but if there isn't any spark right off the bat, I wouldn't even bother. Respect comes after getting to know that person. I am rarely attracted to someone on sight, but attraction can change based on how well their personality fits into what I know I like. |
Sorry, just consume yourself with your goals. Hopefully its not a family ,....that comes with expenses, and you want to it enjoy too. Are you still under 35? lay back and watch the shitstorms pass you by first. JMO
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I want to feel special, that even if I had some major drawback, you'd still want me because there's no one else like me. I want a spark, I want to feel the need to tear your clothes off. I want to be happy that you're such a good guy with his shit together because if you hadn't been, I still would have wanted you desperately. The last line confuses me. Happy that you're such a good guy but if ur not I would want u anyway? If the chemistry is right, she'd want to be with the guy. It would be a big bonus if he's also "such a good guy with his shit together". I hear the same shit from domestic situations. "He hit you.." "But I love him! He is the one!" Exactly. And no I am not some hermit who doesn't have a personality or friends, or fell out of the ugly tree. I am a pretty social guy, I have just been way too busy with my career(s) in the past several years to worry much about dating. It just is weird that I keep getting the same line. With the execption of my last serious girlfriend(a liberal) who I did a favor and broke up with before I joined the Marines.  She didn't like the idea of the military.
I guess VoodooFx's post makes me understand it, even if it still doesn't make any logical sense.
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I want to feel special, that even if I had some major drawback, you'd still want me because there's no one else like me. I want a spark, I want to feel the need to tear your clothes off. I want to be happy that you're such a good guy with his shit together because if you hadn't been, I still would have wanted you desperately. The last line confuses me. Happy that you're such a good guy but if ur not I would want u anyway? If the chemistry is right, she'd want to be with the guy. It would be a big bonus if he's also "such a good guy with his shit together". I hear the same shit from domestic situations. "He hit you.." "But I love him! He is the one!" That's not what I'm saying. I'm not saying being a good guy is a bonus or that I would be with a bad guy because I was very attracted to him. More like this scenario: I meet a very attractive man, then I learn if he's good or bad. If he's good, I pursue the relationship, if he's bad I'm still hot for him but we have to stop dating. Just because a guy is sexy doesn't mean a girl has to do anything about it. Just because a guy is nice and great on paper doesn't mean he inspires love in every good woman. Just because I want to feel that heat doesn't mean I can't walk away from it. |
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You can see someone perfectly attractive and not feel a thing for them. At least, women can. I suppose it's probably different for men. Maybe it's something with your personality that puts them off. I don't know. Do you come across as arrogant? That can be a real turn-off for some women. LOL. Definately not. If anything I should probably be more of an asshole and less of a gentleman. I think that is the problem that I don't get. I am very pragmatic when it comes to dating. Attractive... check, smart...check, good moral character... check, came from a stable home... check, etc... If she fills all or most of the requirements, then I'll want to contine to date her until she proves me otherwise. For me, attraction and the desire to date someone come hand in hand. I am attracted to someone based upon physical, personality, and character attributes. If they suit me in all three areas, then the attraction will naturally follow. I guess I don't get how girls base everything off this whole vague idea of "feel". Most girls I have dated for any amount of time would go on and on about the fact I was perfect and a one in a million find, but the relationship would always sour on this vauge idea of "feeling" like it wasn't right. Its just weird. A lot of guys take that approach. It's like you're filling a position with a qualified candidate. Sort of a "farmer seeks wife" thing. It's a dealbreaker for me. I don't want to fill a role or fit into a position. It's stifling and I'm afraid you'll tell me to stick to the script. I want to feel special, that even if I had some major drawback, you'd still want me because there's no one else like me. I want a spark, I want to feel the need to tear your clothes off. I want to be happy that you're such a good guy with his shit together because if you hadn't been, I still would have wanted you desperately. I avoid use of the term feeling because I'm analytical enough to tell you specifically why I don't cream my panties when you walk in the room. Other women aren't analytical and use the term "feeling" to tell you why it doesn't work for them even though you look great on paper. Maybe you're cold, unsociable, boring, unadventurous and unwilling to try new things, maybe you're not curious by nature and don't get excited about the world around you? LOL Definatly not, but thanks for your input. That was an interesting deluge into the female psyche. You guys are weird and I will never get it, and I don't think I am going to try or my brain might explode. That or maybe I am too logical for my own damn good. I think I am going to quit even trying to have a relationship with women and just screw around with girls at from the bar and save my money and sanity.
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That's not what I'm saying. I'm not saying being a good guy is a bonus or that I would be with a bad guy because I was very attracted to him. More like this scenario: I meet a very attractive man, then I learn if he's good or bad. If he's good, I pursue the relationship, if he's bad I'm still hot for him but we have to stop dating. Just because a guy is sexy doesn't mean a girl has to do anything about it. Just because a guy is nice and great on paper doesn't mean he inspires love in every good woman. Just because I want to feel that heat doesn't mean I can't walk away from it. That is quite not what you said before... but, ok. |
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You can see someone perfectly attractive and not feel a thing for them. At least, women can. I suppose it's probably different for men. Maybe it's something with your personality that puts them off. I don't know. Do you come across as arrogant? That can be a real turn-off for some women. LOL. Definately not. If anything I should probably be more of an asshole and less of a gentleman. I think that is the problem that I don't get. I am very pragmatic when it comes to dating. Attractive... check, smart...check, good moral character... check, came from a stable home... check, etc... If she fills all or most of the requirements, then I'll want to contine to date her until she proves me otherwise. For me, attraction and the desire to date someone come hand in hand. I am attracted to someone based upon physical, personality, and character attributes. If they suit me in all three areas, then the attraction will naturally follow. I guess I don't get how girls base everything off this whole vague idea of "feel". Most girls I have dated for any amount of time would go on and on about the fact I was perfect and a one in a million find, but the relationship would always sour on this vauge idea of "feeling" like it wasn't right. Its just weird. A lot of guys take that approach. It's like you're filling a position with a qualified candidate. Sort of a "farmer seeks wife" thing. It's a dealbreaker for me. I don't want to fill a role or fit into a position. It's stifling and I'm afraid you'll tell me to stick to the script. I want to feel special, that even if I had some major drawback, you'd still want me because there's no one else like me. I want a spark, I want to feel the need to tear your clothes off. I want to be happy that you're such a good guy with his shit together because if you hadn't been, I still would have wanted you desperately. I avoid use of the term feeling because I'm analytical enough to tell you specifically why I don't cream my panties when you walk in the room. Other women aren't analytical and use the term "feeling" to tell you why it doesn't work for them even though you look great on paper. Maybe you're cold, unsociable, boring, unadventurous and unwilling to try new things, maybe you're not curious by nature and don't get excited about the world around you? LOL Definatly not, but thanks for your input. That was an interesting deluge into the female psyche. You guys are weird and I will never get it, and I don't think I am going to try or my brain might explode. That or maybe I am too logical for my own damn good. I think I am going to quit even trying to have a relationship with women and just screw around with girls at from the bar and save my money and sanity.
You deny being the guy I described, but you don't want to learn more about women and dating is too hard so you want to quit. Big easy, in the past year I have earned the title of Marine, become a paramedic, a full time firefighter, flown an airplane solo, ran a 200 mile relay race in Kentucky, just to name a few. Calling me boring or unadventurous is like calling Obama a gun lover. My response was largely in jest, so I am sorry if you took it seriously. I would like a relationship with a gal with the same zest for adventure as my self. I just don't get why some would rather date the loser who works at retail at best buy because of some vauge feeling she gets with him. |
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This seems to be an unusually odd thread. I would rather be alone than to change myself for someone or be with someone who is not worth my time. I don't know why someone would want to do either of those. OP, if they aren't happy with you, move on and don't take it personal. I have noticed that the majority of people who are putting themselves out there as available are worthless as human beings. ETA - I don't understand the chemestry thing either. Sounds like hocus pocus/fairy tale stuff to me. <shrug> |
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That's not what I'm saying. I'm not saying being a good guy is a bonus or that I would be with a bad guy because I was very attracted to him. More like this scenario: I meet a very attractive man, then I learn if he's good or bad. If he's good, I pursue the relationship, if he's bad I'm still hot for him but we have to stop dating. Just because a guy is sexy doesn't mean a girl has to do anything about it. Just because a guy is nice and great on paper doesn't mean he inspires love in every good woman. Just because I want to feel that heat doesn't mean I can't walk away from it. That is quite not what you said before... but, ok. I could have been clearer and more explicit. |
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You can see someone perfectly attractive and not feel a thing for them. At least, women can. I suppose it's probably different for men. Maybe it's something with your personality that puts them off. I don't know. Do you come across as arrogant? That can be a real turn-off for some women. LOL. Definately not. If anything I should probably be more of an asshole and less of a gentleman. I think that is the problem that I don't get. I am very pragmatic when it comes to dating. Attractive... check, smart...check, good moral character... check, came from a stable home... check, etc... If she fills all or most of the requirements, then I'll want to contine to date her until she proves me otherwise. For me, attraction and the desire to date someone come hand in hand. I am attracted to someone based upon physical, personality, and character attributes. If they suit me in all three areas, then the attraction will naturally follow. I guess I don't get how girls base everything off this whole vague idea of "feel". Most girls I have dated for any amount of time would go on and on about the fact I was perfect and a one in a million find, but the relationship would always sour on this vauge idea of "feeling" like it wasn't right. Its just weird. A lot of guys take that approach. It's like you're filling a position with a qualified candidate. Sort of a "farmer seeks wife" thing. It's a dealbreaker for me. I don't want to fill a role or fit into a position. It's stifling and I'm afraid you'll tell me to stick to the script. I want to feel special, that even if I had some major drawback, you'd still want me because there's no one else like me. I want a spark, I want to feel the need to tear your clothes off. I want to be happy that you're such a good guy with his shit together because if you hadn't been, I still would have wanted you desperately. I avoid use of the term feeling because I'm analytical enough to tell you specifically why I don't cream my panties when you walk in the room. Other women aren't analytical and use the term "feeling" to tell you why it doesn't work for them even though you look great on paper. Maybe you're cold, unsociable, boring, unadventurous and unwilling to try new things, maybe you're not curious by nature and don't get excited about the world around you? LOL Definatly not, but thanks for your input. That was an interesting deluge into the female psyche. You guys are weird and I will never get it, and I don't think I am going to try or my brain might explode. That or maybe I am too logical for my own damn good. I think I am going to quit even trying to have a relationship with women and just screw around with girls at from the bar and save my money and sanity.
You deny being the guy I described, but you don't want to learn more about women and dating is too hard so you want to quit. Big easy, in the past year I have earned the title of Marine, become a paramedic, a full time firefighter, flown an airplane solo, ran a 200 mile relay race in Kentucky, just to name a few. Calling me boring or unadventurous is like calling Obama a gun lover. My response was largely in jest, so I am sorry if you took it seriously. I would like a relationship with a gal with the same zest for adventure as my self. I just don't get why some would rather date the loser who works at retail at best buy because of some vauge feeling she gets with him. I didn't realize you were being facetious. You sound fun and I would definitely go on a date with you. But having had experience with Marines, firefighters and triathletes I have to say that some were as scared and unadventurous in love as they were brave in physical pursuits.
I don't know about dating losers, but I would take a good compatible man who is a retail clerk over an incompatible achiever that doesn't have the spark. When I want a man, I want him, not his C.V. It happens that I have more in common with high achieving Marine/firefighters than clerks but there's always the spark, the je ne said quoi or chemistry that has to be there. I think it's interesting that guys will often look at their ex's new man and go "why him? What a dork! He makes less than I do and has tiny girly arms!" but it's less common for girls to say the same thing. I've mostly heard "what's special about the new girl?" Men seem to focus on observable attributed while women focus on "who" the new girl is. |
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I would rather be alone than to change myself for someone or be with someone who is not worth my time. I don't know why someone would want to do either of those. OP, if they aren't happy with you, move on and don't take it personal. I have noticed that the majority of people who are putting themselves out there as available are worthless as human beings. ETA - I don't understand the chemestry thing either. Sounds like hocus pocus/fairy tale stuff to me. <shrug> I will absolutely change some things about me to accommodate a lover. Not all, but some. And IMHO there's a lot of good men out there. I guess we have opposite views on matters of love. 
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