Posted: 4/24/2015 4:57:00 PM EDT
| So my ex and I agreed through her attorney that I would be responsible for the state minimum in regards to Child Support when we got divorced 3 1/2 years ago. This was done because she knew I couldn't fight for custody at the time due to transitioning from AD to civilian life and because she didn't want her dirty laundry aired out in the public. Anyways she moved 6 hours away and was remarried within 6 months and filed recently through her attorney where she is at currently to have jurisdiction of the case moved to her home county. Now she is saying her attorney needs my last three pay stubs to see if an increase in Child support is warranted which strikes me as odd. Together they are making over a 160K easy a year and she never sends him with clothes or a haircut or anything that she is supposed to be using the child support money for. I have all the emails between myself, her and her lawyer where she is the one who wanted the lower CS originally and where she also states that it is not needed and she is only putting it all into an account and saving it for his college (or so she says). Does she have any legal standing to try and go back and get more money from me, when I know she is only doing it because she wants to be little miss rich bitch? |
| You need to decide how much it costs to support your child where your ex lives and agree to pay that amount to her. You cannot worry what she does and if you really are worried hire a PI and get grounds for custody of your kid. If there are no grounds pay what it costs no more no less and love your child. I paid support for 13 years while on active duty so I feel you dude.. Focus on what you can do for your kid and not what your ex is doing or not doing.. Hope I helped some. |
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CS is usually done based on a formula depending on how much you make, how much your ex makes, how much time you each have the children, etc. Her new husband's salary does not matter. For Georgia: http://www.georgiacourts.org/csc/ This, and she can request a income check and possibler increase every so often depending on your states FOC/CS court rules. CS has NOTHING to do with what she makes, it is a percentage of your gross income. [and that means ALL your income to include OT pay] |
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So my ex and I agreed through her attorney that I would be responsible for the state minimum in regards to Child Support when we got divorced 3 1/2 years ago. This was done because she knew I couldn't fight for custody at the time due to transitioning from AD to civilian life and because she didn't want her dirty laundry aired out in the public. Anyways she moved 6 hours away and was remarried within 6 months and filed recently through her attorney where she is at currently to have jurisdiction of the case moved to her home county. Now she is saying her attorney needs my last three pay stubs to see if an increase in Child support is warranted which strikes me as odd. Together they are making over a 160K easy a year and she never sends him with clothes or a haircut or anything that she is supposed to be using the child support money for. I have all the emails between myself, her and her lawyer where she is the one who wanted the lower CS originally and where she also states that it is not needed and she is only putting it all into an account and saving it for his college (or so she says). Does she have any legal standing to try and go back and get more money from me, when I know she is only doing it because she wants to be little miss rich bitch? None of that matters. Texas CS is based on the percentage of your income per the number of kids you have. Read all chapters |
| I get the percentage based CS my point is I just don't see how a court can justify an increase just because she wants one. She is fixing to get a raise to where she will be making nearly a 100k a year, lives in a 400k house, just bought a brand new 45k vehicle and never sends my son with clothes, gets him a hair cut or anything that she should be doing. On top of that she knows I am changing jobs this summer and taking a pay cut along with it. |
| I get the percentage based CS my point is I just don't see how a court can justify an increase just because she wants one. She is fixing to get a raise to where she will be making nearly a 100k a year, lives in a 400k house, just bought a brand new 45k vehicle and never sends my son with clothes, gets him a hair cut or anything that she should be doing. On top of that she knows I am changing jobs this summer and taking a pay cut along with it. |
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Her house and vehicle are irrelevant.
Now, the letter you got - is it a demand letter from an attorney or was it sent by the court? If it's from the court you have to respond. If it's from an attorney you can ignore it and wait for her to file for a modification in court. Hopefully by the time that case goes to discovery you will have your lower-paying summer job so you can show those pay stubs, and she will have to show her higher income. It's likely though that she wants the modification now, before her income goes up. Heck if the numbers change enough your monthly nut may not even change if you're only paying the minimum anyway. BTW when she moved did you file to have the visitation agreement changed? Did you file to have her pay the additional transportation costs since she created the distance? Or did you just let her go and do nothing? |
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BTW when she moved did you file to have the visitation agreement changed? Did you file to have her pay the additional transportation costs since she created the distance? Or did you just let her go and do nothing? We meet in the middle, the visitation was standard. She waited to file when I was separating from AD and didn't have a job yet on the outside. She left my house and moved straight in with her bf and then they got married 6 months later. All I know is I've only got 5 years left to deal with that narcissistic bitch. |
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We meet in the middle, the visitation was standard. She waited to file when I was separating from AD and didn't have a job yet on the outside. She left my house and moved straight in with her bf and then they got married 6 months later. All I know is I've only got 5 years left to deal with that narcissistic bitch. Quoted:
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BTW when she moved did you file to have the visitation agreement changed? Did you file to have her pay the additional transportation costs since she created the distance? Or did you just let her go and do nothing? We meet in the middle, the visitation was standard. She waited to file when I was separating from AD and didn't have a job yet on the outside. She left my house and moved straight in with her bf and then they got married 6 months later. All I know is I've only got 5 years left to deal with that narcissistic bitch. A) Lawyer up now if you have not done so. B) take all the documentation, including the request for your pay info, to your lawyer. Back when my ex and I were divorced, CS was set at $411.56 per month. Per FL laws (or TN, I forget which, as we were divorced in FL but she lived in TN) she could have gone back to court for a CS adjustment once per year. She never did, and I voluntarily increased the CS when I rose in rank and got raises. Before we reworked the custody agreement, I was paying $450/month. The funny part about that was that the extra that I was paying counted as extra, so that if she had filed for an adjustment and the amount increased, the overage that I was paying would have applied. |
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I get the percentage based CS my point is I just don't see how a court can justify an increase just because she wants one. She is fixing to get a raise to where she will be making nearly a 100k a year, lives in a 400k house, just bought a brand new 45k vehicle and never sends my son with clothes, gets him a hair cut or anything that she should be doing. On top of that she knows I am changing jobs this summer and taking a pay cut along with it. She doesn't have to justify anything. It is set up to be objective, not subjective. You really need to read the link so you will understand what you are facing. |