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8/7/2007 12:42:01 PM EDT
Thankfully, it's not me.

My buddy just found out his wife is cheating on him.  Not just a "whoops" one time thing, but an ongoing 'love' affair with a coworker of hers.

He's already somewhat got a lawyer, and found out about the affair by using one of those computer keylogger programs on his home computer.

Any good advice I can give him?  


8/7/2007 12:44:01 PM EDT
[#1]
that sucks but you know what they say, "if you dont take care of business at home someone else will"
8/7/2007 12:46:22 PM EDT
[#2]
He should sell all his guns & ammo to you for a dollar.

8/7/2007 12:46:33 PM EDT
[#3]
Cheaper to hide bodies and feign ignorance than divorce!
8/7/2007 12:46:40 PM EDT
[#4]
Perhaps, but its her second marriage.
Her first lasted a whole year.


He's not perfect, but he's a hell of a guy who just chose the wrong girl.
8/7/2007 12:47:47 PM EDT
[#5]
Get a credit report done, ASAP.
8/7/2007 12:49:17 PM EDT
[#6]
Are you sure she's having an affair,,or is it just an emotional friend
8/7/2007 12:51:32 PM EDT
[#7]
secure assets as best he can

get the sorriest sleaziest most underhanded lawyer available
8/7/2007 12:52:06 PM EDT
[#8]

Quoted:
Thankfully, it's not me.

My buddy just found out his wife is cheating on him.  Not just a "whoops" one time thing, but an ongoing 'love' affair with a coworker of hers.

He's already somewhat got a lawyer, and found out about the affair by using one of those computer keylogger programs on his home computer.

Any good advice I can give him?  




tell him this....

NO divorce ends on good terms. no such thing.

if he has kids get ready to bend over and grab his ankles. she will likely get custody and he will likely get the bill.

ALL communication from her from this point forward goes through his attourney. no contact with her period.

mike
8/7/2007 12:53:08 PM EDT
[#9]
I would help out but I am doin his old lady and she would be pissed if I helped
8/7/2007 12:55:40 PM EDT
[#10]
no kids, thankfully.




Are you sure she's having an affair,



Yes.

8/7/2007 12:56:26 PM EDT
[#11]
.
8/7/2007 1:01:52 PM EDT
[#12]
Why dont we just get a divorce forum?
8/7/2007 1:04:03 PM EDT
[#13]
It's pretty easy to forgive but damn hard to forget.  He should get himself together and start moving on.  If they can agree on how to split the assets and avoid lawyers then they'll be better off.
8/7/2007 1:06:45 PM EDT
[#14]
He should consult with all of the top divorce attorneys in the area.  That way, she can't hire any of them

I'd also be translocating valuables... guns, heirlooms, sentimental items, etc.  Oh, and stash important paperwork too.
8/7/2007 1:07:13 PM EDT
[#15]
contact lover's wife/gf, if applicable.  they deserve to know too.  
8/7/2007 1:08:39 PM EDT
[#16]
+1 for the divorce forum.
8/7/2007 1:12:48 PM EDT
[#17]

Quoted:

Quoted:
Thankfully, it's not me.

My buddy just found out his wife is cheating on him.  Not just a "whoops" one time thing, but an ongoing 'love' affair with a coworker of hers.

He's already somewhat got a lawyer, and found out about the affair by using one of those computer keylogger programs on his home computer.

Any good advice I can give him?  





tell him this....

NO divorce ends on good terms. no such thing.

if he has kids get ready to bend over and grab his ankles. she will likely get custody and he will likely get the bill.

ALL communication from her from this point forward goes through his attourney. no contact with her period.

mike


Good advice.

Tell him that although he might not believe it now, he will eventually realize it's for the best.

And the best revenge is to be (or at least appear) happy.
8/7/2007 3:10:46 PM EDT
[#18]
Play nice and stoopid for a few months while he gets EVERYTHING ready...Then drop the hammer....

He found out she doesn't know he found out yet...right????

Credit
cash
kids
house
divorce

get it all set up and say ah bye bye!!
8/7/2007 3:24:21 PM EDT
[#19]

NO divorce ends on good terms. no such thing.

if he has kids get ready to bend over and grab his ankles. she will likely get custody and he will likely get the bill.

ALL communication from her from this point forward goes through his attourney. no contact with her period.

mike


So YOU were the little mouse in the room watching my divorce!!!



Actually, you've described what happened to me to a tee.  You folks out there need to heed this advice.

HH
8/7/2007 3:31:08 PM EDT
[#20]

Quoted:
that sucks but you know what they say, "if you dont take care of business at home someone else will"


That's usually more true when a man is cheating. Women cheat for different reasons than men. It's usually not for sex. Also many times when they are cheating they will deny their husbands sex.