With all the hub-bub swirling around ARFCOM for the last few days, I felt compelled to share today's experience.
I just got back from Hartford Hospital here in Connecticut. One of my dad's older brothers, Dwight, died today in the ICU. He was 60 years old. My uncle Dwight was truly, truly one of the good guys. He lived simply, had two children, took care of an infirmed wife for a number of years, but was a great guy who always had a positive outlook. I loved just being around him. He was very active. He rode his bike every day, rode dirt bikes with us on the weekends, and just last summer he climbed Mount Washington in New Hampshire with his daughter and son-in-law. Any time something happened with a member of the family, he was usually the first relative to call or stop by to see how you were doing.
For instance, I mentioned the dirt bike riding. Well, the whole Goblin family rides dirt bikes. Always have. Many of us raced in circuits around the Northeast. Another of my uncles, Don, was National Enduro Champion in 1975, and raced all around the world, competing in ISDTs in many foreign countries. Well, in 2000, I was racing the local circuit (NETRA), and one day, on a Sunday that a race was cancelled, I decided to go out riding anyway and treat it as if I were racing, to help keep my skills up. My brother and my uncle Dwight went with me (we usually had a small group of riders with us anyway). Anyway, I ended up going down hard and broke three ribs and collapsed a lung. It was my uncle Dwight who came up on me first. When my brother got to the spot, my uncle went to call for help and then guided a 4x4 pickup to the spot where I was laying. I was put on a backboard and the pickup hauled me out to a waiting ambulance. Almost every day my uncle Dwight would stop by or call to see how I was doing. He really did care about family. He lived it.
Two weeks ago, he got a sinus infection that standard medication wouldn't knock down, so he was prescribed something that finally did send the infection packing, but in the process, it stripped his intestines or colon or something of "good" bacteria. One by one, his organs were ravaged by things that the body normally takes care of automatically. Finally, his lungs started giving out, and today the decision was made to pull all life support apparatus off him and let nature take its course. Dwight's son could not stay with his dad because his mother was breaking down and needed to leave immediately. I decided to stay as long as it took. While the medical personnel began "unhooking" the myriad of gizmos and gadgets, I stook beside him, telling him I loved him and that I wouldn't leave him. It didn't take long for the inevitable. He died at 2:04 this afternoon with me by his side. He was heavily sedated, so only God knows if he realized I was there with him as he slipped away.
I've cried more today than I have in a long, long time. I honestly, and I mean honestly believe the world is worse off today than it was yesterday because of his passing. I don't understand why this had to happen, but I know God is in control and that with time, the sorrow will fade.
Thank you for sharing a few minutes with me as I unload this with you, the brotherhood of AR15.com. I've got to go tend my baby boy right now. God willing, my little David will live a long life and understand he has a great family and the best of them passed away on January 11th, 2005.