I have been perfectly happy with my 2 MOA M3 for the past few years, but recently got a pair of 4 MOA T-1's. While I haven't had the chance to run them very much yet, I am starting to like the larger dot better; here's why: My right eye has astigmatism. The brighter the intensity is set, the more pronounced the astigmatism effect is. It seems qualitatively that the intensity can be set slightly lower with the 4 MOA for a given environmental lighting condition, thus the effect is minimized. YMMV, depending on the condition of YOUR eyes.
That being said, I will start wearing prescription eyeglasses for the first time in my life next week when they arrive, so my opinion could quite likely change with corrected vision available as an option.
I don't tend to use the AP's for anything other than close range [<100m] and I never use a magnifier, as I have other options available such as ACOG and NF on QD mounts for longer range/greater precision scenarios.
All of the options which you are considering are good ones IMHO, but yes, you should definitely check out the T-1's. They are 1/2 pound lighter with a mount than the M-series. Also, several folks have reported that the "4MOA" dot of the T-1 does not appear to be twice as large as the "2MOA" dot of the M, and I am inclined to agree from side-to-side comparison.