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Posted: 7/1/2022 3:13:36 PM EDT
Last Oct., my (ex) wife got a FB message from an old high school boyfriend and that's all it took for her to eject. My youngest son just graduated and got a decent job and is looking to get his own place. I work fully remotely and can live anywhere in the world with good WiFi.

This leaves me with a suddenly wide-open future ahead of me to do whatever I want to do, wherever that is.

My family has always spent a lot of time in FL and I love it there. I live in western PA, far from any real civilization, and the only thing to do is to wait for the weekend to go to local bars and see the same dozen people over and over again, and maybe you'll find someone to date... but they've already dated your friends as the dating pool is so shallow here.

I'm looking to relocate to a place where I can do some interesting things... with or without a date. I don't want to live my life in bars; I hardly drink unless it's socially. I'd prefer something near an international airport so I can easily travel to other countries... so that had me looking around Tampa and Ft. Lauderdale. But I'm the nuances of the communities surrounding these cities.

Does anyone have any recommendations for some cool towns with lots of socializing options? I'm 50, in good shape, decent looking and make a good living. I'm not ready to start hitting the 55+ communities or the bingo halls yet... my taste in ladies is 5-15 years younger than me.
Link Posted: 7/2/2022 3:51:53 PM EDT
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Well I can tell you from experience that if you're employed, height and weight proportional, and have good teeth, you will be a hot commodity anywhere in Florida.

Start looking at the online websites, and not just the hookup ones. Use recent photos, be honest about your past, and your expectations.

Adult, non crazy women are out there. If you treat them like ladies, you will have not trouble finding the good ones.
Link Posted: 7/2/2022 6:58:33 PM EDT
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Move somewhere coastal, buy a boat.  Tampa would be high on my list of choices.  St Aug probably too.
Link Posted: 7/2/2022 7:11:05 PM EDT
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Stay away from Jacksonville proper. It is a nightmare. The surrounding communities are OK, but may resemble your W. PA environment. I plan to relocate somewhere between St. Augustine & New Smyrna Beach. Growing communities, beach accessible and close to 3 airports (JAX, Orlando & Daytone Beach). I am from W. PA so feel free to send me an email if you want.
Link Posted: 7/3/2022 1:38:40 AM EDT
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Pick a place you would like to live in that is not far from a major city / town.

Tampa / St Pete, Lakewood Ranch / Bradenton are near me and have plenty of ladies.

I would recommend you first spend a year or more on your own. Do date but get comfortable living alone. That way you can take your time and not rush into anything.

The Good news: listen, I’m nothing special. I do stay in shape but facewise, I’m no Brad Pitt. While dating on Match, I was able to find a new date every week. We are in the same age group. I think you will find plenty of dates.

The Bad news: Welcome to the land of misfit toys. Most of the older women you will meet are broken in some way or another. Being pumped and dumped for years, they often have anger and trust issues. Many are on all kinds of mental meds. I won’t even begin with single moms. Dating younger women is exciting but brings its own perils. I have a friend in his mid 50s that in his excitement did not use a “hazmat suit” for his little guy and now has a baby with a woman 20 years younger than him.

As people become older, men and women we become set in our ways and become less tolerant of others bullcrap. Hence, many older men and women rather stay alone. Years pass by and they end up singing that song from U2 “And I still haven’t found what I’m looking for”

Sorry to hear about your story Op.  I wish you good health and strength for the journey ahead.
Link Posted: 7/3/2022 10:45:19 AM EDT
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Panhandle is kinda awesome to me... if i was wealthy and single then Tampa i guess... but if you wanna be in Florida thats not typical "Florida", relative cheep cost of living and near the most beautiful white sand beaches (I've been to almost every Caribbean island and the Emerald Coast is called that for a reason) in a military and super right heavy area with some good ranges and seafood... consider the Destin,  ft walton area.
Link Posted: 7/3/2022 3:33:00 PM EDT
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Originally Posted By F224:
Well I can tell you from experience that if you're employed, height and weight proportional, and have good teeth, you will be a hot commodity anywhere in Florida.

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I'm living proof this is false. I meet all of the above and have not had a single date in the 5 years I've been here.

Another reason why I plan to move to the Philippines when I turn 50.
Link Posted: 7/3/2022 4:40:13 PM EDT
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Originally Posted By Stitches1974:


I'm living proof this is false. I meet all of the above and have not had a single date in the 5 years I've been here.

Another reason why I plan to move to the Philippines when I turn 50.
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You don’t talk about toy train sets in your profile, do you?
Link Posted: 7/3/2022 4:45:10 PM EDT
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You don’t talk about toy train sets in your profile, do you?
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LOL. No I don't.
Link Posted: 7/4/2022 12:08:03 PM EDT
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Originally Posted By i_tell_you_what:
Move somewhere coastal, buy a boat.  Tampa would be high on my list of choices.  St Aug probably too.
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I already have the boat… we actually trailered it down to Cape Coral last year for 10 days and enjoyed it on the Gulf. 🙂
Link Posted: 7/4/2022 3:49:07 PM EDT
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Anywhere on the gulf side from Tampa to Pensacola. I would try to avoid to tourist areas
Link Posted: 7/6/2022 3:36:52 PM EDT
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Tampa.
Link Posted: 7/7/2022 12:52:57 AM EDT
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Destin seems to have a lot of attractive women. Tampa and St.Pete as well (no experience there.) Naples might be good, if you have the money, I haven't figured that place out yet even though I am there quite a bit.

I would rule out Pensacola unless you like to drink, a lot. I don't think the women there are so great after about 30; it seems to be overweight, kids, too much booze, too much sun, too many tats.

The Gulf side is better, I've never found the Atlantic side appealing at all, I lived in Miami for 5-6 years, I wouldn't recommend it.
Link Posted: 7/7/2022 10:35:14 AM EDT
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Originally Posted By Pallas:
Destin seems to have a lot of attractive women. Tampa and St.Pete as well (no experience there.) Naples might be good, if you have the money, I haven't figured that place out yet even though I am there quite a bit.

I would rule out Pensacola unless you like to drink, a lot. I don't think the women there are so great after about 30; it seems to be overweight, kids, too much booze, too much sun, too many tats.

The Gulf side is better, I've never found the Atlantic side appealing at all, I lived in Miami for 5-6 years, I wouldn't recommend it.
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Yeah forgot to add in my post,  Pensacola has some not good areas, we get alot of shootings/stabbings at the trauma center, and assloads of homeless.. Destin for the most part is good, no bad areas besides fuck you traffic during tourist season.  And housing is off the chain ridiculous....
Link Posted: 7/7/2022 3:10:29 PM EDT
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Damn some of you are depressing Tampa Bay area has turned into a frigging nightmare traffic wise. Renting here is not cheap. As far as dating that's on you there bud. If you can't get laid somethings wrong with you. BTW the best time I ever had with women of all ages was Nashville TN and loved living and working there. I lived in Old Hickory.

But in Florida it just depends. You've got AssH's of all ages here. I love the east coast better than the west coast of Florida. I lived in DeLand with Stetson University and had a blast. Daytona and loved it. Ocala is OK simply because it's close to the east or west coasts. Plant City is OK. But tampa has gotten so damn congested I hate going there anymore. Not to mention the idoits that have migrated here. I'm planning on selling and moving onto a lake in Polk County.

Oh yeah we have a great governor and welcome all conservatives here. We hate whining liberal transplants that try to bring northern political beliefs here. Find the right area you'll ❤️ it here. BTW it gets hot and humid as hell in the summer here.
Link Posted: 7/7/2022 4:16:03 PM EDT
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Originally Posted By BENLPN:
Yeah forgot to add in my post,  Pensacola has some not good areas, we get alot of shootings/stabbings at the trauma center, and assloads of homeless.. Destin for the most part is good, no bad areas besides fuck you traffic during tourist season.  And housing is off the chain ridiculous....
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Cliquish, bubba government/lib in the city, way too much envy in this town, high number of minorities, poor education system (and it shows), little to do that doesn’t involve drinking (it shows), Pensacola has some problems. Terrible crime rate, one of the highest in the State. If one wants to live near Pensacola, I would suggest Gulf Breeze, terrible traffic at times though. The main problem is that nothing, just nothing ever gets done here.

Not a whole lot of professional jobs, the reflects in the population.
Link Posted: 7/7/2022 4:36:40 PM EDT
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Cape Coral. Buy a house on a canal. Not a canal with a lock though.

Get a boat and enjoy
Link Posted: 7/7/2022 4:48:53 PM EDT
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Originally Posted By Pallas:


Cliquish, bubba government/lib in the city, way too much envy in this town, high number of minorities, poor education system (and it shows), little to do that doesn’t involve drinking (it shows), Pensacola has some problems. Terrible crime rate, one of the highest in the State. If one wants to live near Pensacola, I would suggest Gulf Breeze, terrible traffic at times though. The main problem is that nothing, just nothing ever gets done here.

Not a whole lot of professional jobs, the reflects in the population.
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Yup, its either healthcare or service industry for jobs.....
Gulf Breeze is gorgeous,  but one wreck on 98 will trash your entire day...
Link Posted: 7/8/2022 11:14:47 PM EDT
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If you got tons of cash to buy a place, Jupiter is nice. Lived here my whole life. I can see the lighthouse from my back yard. Expect to pay over $500k for a small  home or $3k to $5k in rent
Link Posted: 7/9/2022 9:10:16 AM EDT
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If your looking to party, have fun & bang different woman the west coast of FL is where you want to be.  The east side N of Palm beach is lacking.
Link Posted: 7/9/2022 1:41:56 PM EDT
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If you can wait until this time next year, I have a house for you in Cape Coral.
Not on water, but a 3 lot site.  6' vinyl fence all around so you can keep your boat in the back yard.
Large pool for those drunken naked pool parties.😊
Link Posted: 7/9/2022 5:29:51 PM EDT
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Originally Posted By Colddeadhands61:
If you can wait until this time next year, I have a house for you in Cape Coral.
Not on water, but a 3 lot site.  6' vinyl fence all around so you can keep your boat in the back yard.
Large pool for those drunken naked pool parties.😊
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Interesting. Aren’t the demographics there mostly older couples though? We stayed in Cape Coral last year, it was kind of a strange setup for the city when it came to availability of grocery stores, Walmart, fast food etc.
Link Posted: 7/10/2022 9:06:47 AM EDT
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Originally Posted By DDiggler:


Interesting. Aren’t the demographics there mostly older couples though? We stayed in Cape Coral last year, it was kind of a strange setup for the city when it came to availability of grocery stores, Walmart, fast food etc.
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Used to be a retirement area.  Since covid, the real estate market has been on fire.
People moving from all over.  Recently on the news, they said Cape Coral was # 2 for tech jobs working remotely.
As far as stores, there is no problem there.  There is a super Walmart, 2 Walmark grocery stores, Sam's, BJ's, and a lot of Puplix supermarkets.
No problem with fast food either.  Chain restaurants too on Pine Island Rd.
Downtown, SE47th Ter. is the bar area.  If nothing interests you there, there's the river district across the bridge in Ft. Myers.
Link Posted: 7/10/2022 10:26:38 AM EDT
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Originally Posted By Colddeadhands61:


Used to be a retirement area.  Since covid, the real estate market has been on fire.
People moving from all over.  Recently on the news, they said Cape Coral was # 2 for tech jobs working remotely.
As far as stores, there is no problem there.  There is a super Walmart, 2 Walmark grocery stores, Sam's, BJ's, and a lot of Puplix supermarkets.
No problem with fast food either.  Chain restaurants too on Pine Island Rd.
Downtown, SE47th Ter. is the bar area.  If nothing interests you there, there's the river district across the bridge in Ft. Myers.
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Originally Posted By DDiggler:


Interesting. Aren’t the demographics there mostly older couples though? We stayed in Cape Coral last year, it was kind of a strange setup for the city when it came to availability of grocery stores, Walmart, fast food etc.


Used to be a retirement area.  Since covid, the real estate market has been on fire.
People moving from all over.  Recently on the news, they said Cape Coral was # 2 for tech jobs working remotely.
As far as stores, there is no problem there.  There is a super Walmart, 2 Walmark grocery stores, Sam's, BJ's, and a lot of Puplix supermarkets.
No problem with fast food either.  Chain restaurants too on Pine Island Rd.
Downtown, SE47th Ter. is the bar area.  If nothing interests you there, there's the river district across the bridge in Ft. Myers.



I will stress again a non locked canal front home is night and day from a non waterfront one. Go out back put the boat lift down and motor to a restaurant or out into to river or Gulf etc.
Link Posted: 7/10/2022 1:14:40 PM EDT
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Originally Posted By osprey21:
Cape Coral.. no thank you.




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It is not bad. Well thought out with plenty of 4 lane roads to handle traffic. A view from a family member's home. 15 minutes
idle speed to the river.

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Link Posted: 7/10/2022 4:52:54 PM EDT
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I'd maybe consider a non-canal home in Cape Coral, but to me the whole point of CC is the canals, and gulf access. I think it would drive me insane to have my boat so close to the water but have to wait in line to launch it.  

I'm thinking that I'm gonna look for a room to rent on AirBnB/VRBO and spend some time very very soon in St Petersburg/Tampa.

Anyone knowledgeable about St Pete and the neighborhoods? Which ones to stay away from when looking for a permanent place? Also, if there are any walkable neighborhoods that I could stay in for my recon. I'm not sure that I want to rely on a car and have to rent one for the whole stay.
Link Posted: 7/10/2022 8:20:48 PM EDT
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Originally Posted By DDiggler:
I'd maybe consider a non-canal home in Cape Coral, but to me the whole point of CC is the canals, and gulf access. I think it would drive me insane to have my boat so close to the water but have to wait in line to launch it.  

I'm thinking that I'm gonna look for a room to rent on AirBnB/VRBO and spend some time very very soon in St Petersburg/Tampa.

Anyone knowledgeable about St Pete and the neighborhoods? Which ones to stay away from when looking for a permanent place? Also, if there are any walkable neighborhoods that I could stay in for my recon. I'm not sure that I want to rely on a car and have to rent one for the whole stay.
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Google Uhuru
Link Posted: 7/10/2022 8:37:00 PM EDT
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Google Uhuru
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The African Socialist movement?

I see there is a presence in St Pete, but do they run the place or something?
Link Posted: 7/10/2022 10:45:04 PM EDT
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I have worked in S. Tampa for the last 15 months and there are hotties coming in daily, but houses are crazy expensive or really expensive small houses that rich people buy and tear down to build a huge house.  I specifically go into work later and close every night to avoid traffic.

We like going to Dunedin, it's pretty nice and close to the water.  Traffic going to clearwater sucks.
Link Posted: 7/12/2022 5:11:21 PM EDT
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I booked a trip this morning from 7/15-7/25, I'm staying in St. Petersburg. Going to check out the neighborhoods and enjoy the activities there.
Link Posted: 7/12/2022 8:14:41 PM EDT
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Originally Posted By DDiggler:
I'd maybe consider a non-canal home in Cape Coral, but to me the whole point of CC is the canals, and gulf access. I think it would drive me insane to have my boat so close to the water but have to wait in line to launch it.  

I'm thinking that I'm gonna look for a room to rent on AirBnB/VRBO and spend some time very very soon in St Petersburg/Tampa.

Anyone knowledgeable about St Pete and the neighborhoods? Which ones to stay away from when looking for a permanent place? Also, if there are any walkable neighborhoods that I could stay in for my recon. I'm not sure that I want to rely on a car and have to rent one for the whole stay.
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Google Uhuru
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Originally Posted By DDiggler:


The African Socialist movement?

I see there is a presence in St Pete, but do they run the place or something?
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I don't think a trip to SOUTH St Pete would be a good investment of your time. The very southern end of St Pete is on the water and a different world, but south of Central Ave down to 42nd Ave South is a quarantine zone.
Link Posted: 7/12/2022 8:23:27 PM EDT
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I don't think a trip to SOUTH St Pete would be a good investment of your time. The very southern end of St Pete is on the water and a different world, but south of Central Ave down to 42nd Ave South is a quarantine zone.
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Originally Posted By MyakkaVice:
Originally Posted By DDiggler:
I'd maybe consider a non-canal home in Cape Coral, but to me the whole point of CC is the canals, and gulf access. I think it would drive me insane to have my boat so close to the water but have to wait in line to launch it.  

I'm thinking that I'm gonna look for a room to rent on AirBnB/VRBO and spend some time very very soon in St Petersburg/Tampa.

Anyone knowledgeable about St Pete and the neighborhoods? Which ones to stay away from when looking for a permanent place? Also, if there are any walkable neighborhoods that I could stay in for my recon. I'm not sure that I want to rely on a car and have to rent one for the whole stay.

Originally Posted By Banditman:


Google Uhuru

Originally Posted By DDiggler:


The African Socialist movement?

I see there is a presence in St Pete, but do they run the place or something?


I don't think a trip to SOUTH St Pete would be a good investment of your time. The very southern end of St Pete is on the water and a different world, but south of Central Ave down to 42nd Ave South is a quarantine zone.



Yeah, a Tinder chick told me that bad neighborhoods are scattered, but stay out of the south of St Pete in general.  
Link Posted: 7/14/2022 10:18:43 PM EDT
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Check out Belleair, and Belleair Beach. More money than you can shake a stick at, get a condo at the Biltmore for a reasonable price. Who cares if you have to drive 30 minutes to get laid?
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