Lost my Mom yesterday morning. 2 year battle with triple negative breast cancer. Thought she beat it back in December, only to find out in February from preliminary scans to get reconstructive surgery that it traveled to her liver and from that point it never stopped spreading. She fought hard. Harder than I would have. I took her to some of the best specialists in the state. I took her to her appointments here where we live. I spent countless hours with her just talking and having my wife and daughter over. After treatments I would give her shots everyday to boost her white cell count. Cancer is fucking ruthless. I pray my almost 3 year old daughter can remember her “Pipa”. I pray that she is truly at peace now. Me and my brother were with her in her home, on her first day on hospice, holding a hand each from midnight till 9:56 in the morning watching her gasp for air and blood come out of her mouth. The nurses just kept saying to give her more morphine. They never came out to help, all by phone. The sounds I heard are something I wouldn’t wish on anyone. But I know that isn’t what I’m gonna remember of her. She was an amazing Mom with so much to give. She loved my daughter so incredibly much. She raised me with such love that I knew she genuinely wanted nothing but the best from me. She was at every game, every practice, every school function. She even was nice enough to tell me I sounded great with a recorder in music class in 5th grade which that was a complete lie. She was only 58, with so much more life ahead of her. So much more love to show. And cancer took that from her. So hug your Moms, or if you live far away call them. I know not all moms are perfect, but they are your Mom. And I can’t hug mine or talk to mine ever again. Fuck cancer.

Sorry for your loss
And yes, fuck cancer.

My condolences to you and your family.  I lost my mom 15 years ago, just 3 years after my dad passed.  It doesn't get easier for a long time, and when it does, you kind of wish it hadn't.

I lost my mom when I was a teenager, I'll second the ops call to hug your momma. Sorry for your loss op. Nothing anyone says is gonna make it hurt less, but time will. Hang in there.

I'm truly sorry OP.

Prayers to you and your family.

I have no idea what you are going through as mine is still alive.

Thanks for sharing your story.

Sorry to hear of your loss.

My mother lost her fight with cancer. I miss her everyday.

I'm sorry for your loss.

I’m sorry for your loss. I know it’s a tough thing.

Sorry for your loss brother.

I'm sorry for your loss man.

She and her family and friends week be in my prayers.

She will be with you always though.  

My mom passed away 40 years ago this past June 7th. I still think of her often.

Sure wished she could have met her granddaughter. But some things are never meant to be.

Sorry bro. I found my mom face down on her kitchen floor in '17. Issues with her veins. She did whip cancer 3 times though.

Having lost both parents within a 2 year period, it's tough, but you must soldier on.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Sorry OP
You will see her again.

Very sorry OP.  58 is too damn young.
I see my 82 year-old Mom every other week, helping her around the house and eating her delicious food.
I know her time is getting short, but at least we've had a long, full life together.

If you also have/had the best wife ever ... Do the same hug.

Sorry to hear brother.  I dread the day that I have to go through something similar.

My condolences OP.  I held my mom’s hand as she took her last breath here on Earth almost six years ago.  Cancer leaves little in terms of options when a loved one is in hospice care.  The hospice nurses would come by a couple of times a day and check on her.  On the last day, she was convulsing and the nurse said “give her more morphine” over the phone.  A few hours later she passed away.  It was horrible-much worse than seeing people in your platoon killed or wounded on the battlefield IMHO.  At least you are mentally prepared for that one.  A loved one-a parent-suffering from the effects of cancer, wasting away and dying in front of you?  Not so much.  

I was in a daze for the first few days after that trying to shake it off.  I did, but I stayed home from work for almost a week and gave myself time to get my head straight.  Prayers for you and your family.

Also, making arrangements at the funeral home will be tough.  Hang in there.

Very sorry to hear.

You sound like a great son.

My condolences to you and your family op.  I will take your advice thanks for putting things back into perspective.

I lost mine back in 2015.

Fuck cancer

I'm sorry man, my wife had triple negative in 2004 and responded well to the gallons of chemo they put her through but it's a dog that always nips at your heels.

Bless her for being there for you and her family as long as she could

So sorry man. That sucks

Sorry for your loss . Cancer can get fucked

Sorry for your loss.

I lost my mom to cancer 10 months ago. I will never have another person in my life that loved me like she did.

I wish I could still hug her.

My condolences.

Good advice. Mine went on holiday/ never came back alive.

My condolences OP. I'm truly sorry to hear that man. I am very close with my parents as I am sure you were as well and I can't imagine how hard this must be for you.

In an arfcom twist, mine lives in my basement so I do it often. Condolences, op.

Sorry for your loss, OP.

It sounds like you were blessed with a good mother. Some of us were not so lucky. Cherish the memories.

Damn op, I’m sorry for your loss. Triple negative is a bad one.

Sorry to hear about the loss of your mom. My condolences to you & to your family.

My mom is 89.5 years old. She lives an hour away from us. In a month or so, she is going to live with us so that we can help take care of her...e.g. drive her to her doctor's appointments, drive her to visit her friends, carry stuff for her that are too darn heavy, yada, yada, yada. In the meantime, we go visit her on the weekends & we help her with whatever she needs. Sometimes, we stay overnight at her house. Also, I call my mom & we spent hours chit-chatting & laughing. Before hanging up, we always tell each other "I love you!" because you never know, those three important words maybe the last words one will hear. Not only just hug mom, but tell also her "I love you, Mom!". I know a lot of moms love to hear those words from their children.

I offer my condolences to you and your family.
I'm sorry for your loss.........

The last time I got to hug my mom was just as I was skipping off to 3rd grade like every other morning, February 1971

I came home that afternoon wondering why we were having a family reunion and nobody told me...and why we invited the preacher too, and every police officer in town

She was 31, I was 8

Condolences and prayers.

Lost my mom to cancer 9 years ago.
I slept on the floor at bottom of her bed for almost two months before she passed.

Man, 58 is way too young.

I'm sorry you, your mom, and your family had to deal with this.