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Originally Posted By FW_wife:
In talking with the social worker today and the child life specialist, I was urged to have the talk with Travis. I have been keeping Travis in the loop, gradually introducing more information - telling him in the beginning "Dad is very sick and gets special medicine in the hospital", then "Dad has cancer and he has really good doctors who give him medicine to help him get better" and the other night "Sometimes people who have cancer die". Travis changed the subject with that last one. I mustered up the courage this evening and gathered the kids, luring them with Oreo shakes. Of course my imagined scenario was thwarted by a phone call and greedy consumption of shakes. Nevertheless, we all sat together and I began, "Travis, you know how Dad has been getting special medicine? Well, the medicine isn't working. Dad is still very sick and there is no more medicine for him. Remember how I told you that sometimes people with cancer die? Well, Dad is going to die. We are all going to die some day, but Dad will die soon." Travis fidgeted during this monologue and smiled and gestured at his sisters as if he was ignoring me. I held his hand and told him I was sad that Dad was going to die. He immediately gave me a hug and a kiss and I gushed that his hug made me feel so much better. He began to cry. I told him it's okay to be sad, it's okay to cry, it's also okay to be happy and laugh when you remember the silly things Dad did. I told him his body may be gone, but Dad is always in your heart. In all our hearts. We're all going to miss him but we are still a family and we have lots of people who love us and will help us. I told him if he is sad, he can talk to me, his sisters, his Grandma, teacher, anyone he chooses. He can say "Mom, I'm sad", "Mom, I miss Dad." We hugged and have moved on to a Disney movie. I was so concerned, judging by his reaction to our previous conversation, that he would be closed off to continuing the topic. And we NEEDED to talk. Not knowing when that final day will come, I didn't want to surprise him with that news. I'm very relieved and so proud of him. We WILL get through this. Im bawling right now. God Bless your family. |
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Originally Posted By DVCAPI:
Reta & others, My Cousin wrote me in my Wife's last days from Cancer..... He said... God answers all prayers for healing, but sometimes he has to bring them home to his house to heal them...... I truly hope you find some peace in that ....... AMEN |
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Can anyone closer to the family tell me what firearms Travis will have to learn with? I know there's an M1A in the house now, and I'm sure there's more, just wanting to make sure there's age appropriate things for him to learn with.
For instance... A young man his age should DEFINITELY own a .22 rifle or two, like a 10-22 and/or M&P 15-22. Oh, and Mom should for sure own a .22lr pistol that he can learn with as well. Anyone interested in helping me to make sure that is the case? Shoot me a PM, I'm pretty sure we can find a way. (In other words, I'm in for some cash, and willing to do the legwork as well. I have access to a FFL who can help with transfers.) |
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Thank you so much Mr. Reed and family. Your battle has touched us like so many others.
Dear Lord, cradle the Reed family in their trying times, sooth their pain of spirit and body, we beseech thee amen. |
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Originally Posted By FW_wife: In talking with the social worker today and the child life specialist, I was urged to have the talk with Travis. I have been keeping Travis in the loop, gradually introducing more information - telling him in the beginning "Dad is very sick and gets special medicine in the hospital", then "Dad has cancer and he has really good doctors who give him medicine to help him get better" and the other night "Sometimes people who have cancer die". Travis changed the subject with that last one. I mustered up the courage this evening and gathered the kids, luring them with Oreo shakes. Of course my imagined scenario was thwarted by a phone call and greedy consumption of shakes. Nevertheless, we all sat together and I began, "Travis, you know how Dad has been getting special medicine? Well, the medicine isn't working. Dad is still very sick and there is no more medicine for him. Remember how I told you that sometimes people with cancer die? Well, Dad is going to die. We are all going to die some day, but Dad will die soon." Travis fidgeted during this monologue and smiled and gestured at his sisters as if he was ignoring me. I held his hand and told him I was sad that Dad was going to die. He immediately gave me a hug and a kiss and I gushed that his hug made me feel so much better. He began to cry. I told him it's okay to be sad, it's okay to cry, it's also okay to be happy and laugh when you remember the silly things Dad did. I told him his body may be gone, but Dad is always in your heart. In all our hearts. We're all going to miss him but we are still a family and we have lots of people who love us and will help us. I told him if he is sad, he can talk to me, his sisters, his Grandma, teacher, anyone he chooses. He can say "Mom, I'm sad", "Mom, I miss Dad." We hugged and have moved on to a Disney movie. I was so concerned, judging by his reaction to our previous conversation, that he would be closed off to continuing the topic. And we NEEDED to talk. Not knowing when that final day will come, I didn't want to surprise him with that news. I'm very relieved and so proud of him. We WILL get through this. I am moved beyond words. If you need anything, I'll be home in Ft Worth until the first of the year. God bless you all. |
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Originally Posted By FW_wife:
In talking with the social worker today and the child life specialist, I was urged to have the talk with Travis. I have been keeping Travis in the loop, gradually introducing more information - telling him in the beginning "Dad is very sick and gets special medicine in the hospital", then "Dad has cancer and he has really good doctors who give him medicine to help him get better" and the other night "Sometimes people who have cancer die". Travis changed the subject with that last one. I mustered up the courage this evening and gathered the kids, luring them with Oreo shakes. Of course my imagined scenario was thwarted by a phone call and greedy consumption of shakes. Nevertheless, we all sat together and I began, "Travis, you know how Dad has been getting special medicine? Well, the medicine isn't working. Dad is still very sick and there is no more medicine for him. Remember how I told you that sometimes people with cancer die? Well, Dad is going to die. We are all going to die some day, but Dad will die soon." Travis fidgeted during this monologue and smiled and gestured at his sisters as if he was ignoring me. I held his hand and told him I was sad that Dad was going to die. He immediately gave me a hug and a kiss and I gushed that his hug made me feel so much better. He began to cry. I told him it's okay to be sad, it's okay to cry, it's also okay to be happy and laugh when you remember the silly things Dad did. I told him his body may be gone, but Dad is always in your heart. In all our hearts. We're all going to miss him but we are still a family and we have lots of people who love us and will help us. I told him if he is sad, he can talk to me, his sisters, his Grandma, teacher, anyone he chooses. He can say "Mom, I'm sad", "Mom, I miss Dad." We hugged and have moved on to a Disney movie. I was so concerned, judging by his reaction to our previous conversation, that he would be closed off to continuing the topic. And we NEEDED to talk. Not knowing when that final day will come, I didn't want to surprise him with that news. I'm very relieved and so proud of him. We WILL get through this.  Prayers for peace & comfort
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Originally Posted By DVCAPI:
Reta & others, My Cousin wrote me in my Wife's last days from Cancer..... He said... God answers all prayers for healing, but sometimes he has to bring them home to his house to heal them...... I truly hope you find some peace in that ....... CAPI my friend and brother, the truth you speak is truth indeed..... |
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Originally Posted By FW_wife:
In talking with the social worker today and the child life specialist, I was urged to have the talk with Travis. I have been keeping Travis in the loop, gradually introducing more information - telling him in the beginning "Dad is very sick and gets special medicine in the hospital", then "Dad has cancer and he has really good doctors who give him medicine to help him get better" and the other night "Sometimes people who have cancer die". Travis changed the subject with that last one. I mustered up the courage this evening and gathered the kids, luring them with Oreo shakes. Of course my imagined scenario was thwarted by a phone call and greedy consumption of shakes. Nevertheless, we all sat together and I began, "Travis, you know how Dad has been getting special medicine? Well, the medicine isn't working. Dad is still very sick and there is no more medicine for him. Remember how I told you that sometimes people with cancer die? Well, Dad is going to die. We are all going to die some day, but Dad will die soon." Travis fidgeted during this monologue and smiled and gestured at his sisters as if he was ignoring me. I held his hand and told him I was sad that Dad was going to die. He immediately gave me a hug and a kiss and I gushed that his hug made me feel so much better. He began to cry. I told him it's okay to be sad, it's okay to cry, it's also okay to be happy and laugh when you remember the silly things Dad did. I told him his body may be gone, but Dad is always in your heart. In all our hearts. We're all going to miss him but we are still a family and we have lots of people who love us and will help us. I told him if he is sad, he can talk to me, his sisters, his Grandma, teacher, anyone he chooses. He can say "Mom, I'm sad", "Mom, I miss Dad." We hugged and have moved on to a Disney movie. I was so concerned, judging by his reaction to our previous conversation, that he would be closed off to continuing the topic. And we NEEDED to talk. Not knowing when that final day will come, I didn't want to surprise him with that news. I'm very relieved and so proud of him. We WILL get through this. Why this whole story is affecting me so much I don't know, but after reading this I had to walk away from this thread, physically walk in the other room. Couldn't help but hit my knees and pray more for you and your family, and cry a good bit, well ok a lot. Jeff has affected so much, but me personally more than I can ever express, and I don't know why but its a debt I can never repay. Thank you Jeff. |
| Jeff, No one that has followed your journey will ever be the same. Thank you Reta for keeping us informed and making us witness to Jeff's uncompromising strength and faith. Please go be with your family and give them the same strength that you give us. We will be here with prayers for all of the Reeds. God Bless. |
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Now, that I'm done crying.
OK, not Dang it. I've started and stopped typing a half a dozen times. Just blurting out here. For the lives that have been changed, for the money donations, for the blood donations, the marrow matching, the Geissele Company move, For what will surely happen in the future... Folks taking young boys shooting, listening to the boys talk about their dads. Friends, bonding. Men, not afraid to share their feelings. People praying for a complete stranger. Yet, a stranger they have come to know. Pictures shared, moments spared. A life, cared. A simple prayer tonight from me, to God, in private. For Jeff, for Reta. |
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More prayers sent from my family for you and your family, Jeff and Reta. Stay strong Reta and don't hesitate to let all here know if you need anything even just a shoulder to cry on.
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I have been following this thread since a day or two after Jeff posted it, and I can honestly say I cried.
I haven't posted to this point, because I simply cannot find the words. Jeff, Reta, Thank you. I cannot describe just how much you have changed me, your sharing of this has truly helped me put everything into perspective. For that, I am forever grateful. If you ever need anything, please do not hesitate to ask. |
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Wow... Tears shed. Words are inadequate but prayers sent for you Mr. Jeff, Reta and the kids... Folks way smarter than me have said better words, but Jeff, you've inspired many and in GREAT ways. Reta, your strength and love is unbelievable and you've moved many as well. B2 Please know you're loved and the Reed family will have an 'extended, somewhat dysfunctional' family here. |
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| Wow. Not the update I was hoping for. I guess I sort of thought that he was gonna beat it, and I mean beat the shit out of the cancer and carry on. I sent up some prayers tonight and I hope that you find peace in this, there is a silver lining somewhere. You are not alone, this has gotten much bigger than Jeff ever intended and with that came a support system of great people. Jeff, I know you probably won't read this ever, but thank you. Thank you for allowing us an un-flitered, real view into your battle with cancer. You have impacted the lives of a ton of people and I have learned that I should never quit no matter how bad the situation. Give cancer hell until the end, I know you will. One last thing......FUCK CANCER |
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https://www.zeemaps.com/map?group=732434 ARFCOM to add a marker Donate funds - http://www.gofundme.com/4zxjjk Bone Marrow Donation - http://bethematch.org/Support-the-Cause/Donate-bone-marrow/Join-the-marrow-registry/Medical-guidelines/  as we go about our day let us all keep the REEDS in our thoughts and prayers. ps, and each other
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Originally Posted By FW_wife:
In talking with the social worker today and the child life specialist, I was urged to have the talk with Travis. I have been keeping Travis in the loop, gradually introducing more information - telling him in the beginning "Dad is very sick and gets special medicine in the hospital", then "Dad has cancer and he has really good doctors who give him medicine to help him get better" and the other night "Sometimes people who have cancer die". Travis changed the subject with that last one. I mustered up the courage this evening and gathered the kids, luring them with Oreo shakes. Of course my imagined scenario was thwarted by a phone call and greedy consumption of shakes. Nevertheless, we all sat together and I began, "Travis, you know how Dad has been getting special medicine? Well, the medicine isn't working. Dad is still very sick and there is no more medicine for him. Remember how I told you that sometimes people with cancer die? Well, Dad is going to die. We are all going to die some day, but Dad will die soon." Travis fidgeted during this monologue and smiled and gestured at his sisters as if he was ignoring me. I held his hand and told him I was sad that Dad was going to die. He immediately gave me a hug and a kiss and I gushed that his hug made me feel so much better. He began to cry. I told him it's okay to be sad, it's okay to cry, it's also okay to be happy and laugh when you remember the silly things Dad did. I told him his body may be gone, but Dad is always in your heart. In all our hearts. We're all going to miss him but we are still a family and we have lots of people who love us and will help us. I told him if he is sad, he can talk to me, his sisters, his Grandma, teacher, anyone he chooses. He can say "Mom, I'm sad", "Mom, I miss Dad." We hugged and have moved on to a Disney movie. I was so concerned, judging by his reaction to our previous conversation, that he would be closed off to continuing the topic. And we NEEDED to talk. Not knowing when that final day will come, I didn't want to surprise him with that news. I'm very relieved and so proud of him. We WILL get through this. God's blessings on your family, Reta. |
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Originally Posted By alphajaguars:
God's blessings on your family, Reta. Originally Posted By alphajaguars:
Originally Posted By FW_wife:
In talking with the social worker today and the child life specialist, I was urged to have the talk with Travis. I have been keeping Travis in the loop, gradually introducing more information - telling him in the beginning "Dad is very sick and gets special medicine in the hospital", then "Dad has cancer and he has really good doctors who give him medicine to help him get better" and the other night "Sometimes people who have cancer die". Travis changed the subject with that last one. I mustered up the courage this evening and gathered the kids, luring them with Oreo shakes. Of course my imagined scenario was thwarted by a phone call and greedy consumption of shakes. Nevertheless, we all sat together and I began, "Travis, you know how Dad has been getting special medicine? Well, the medicine isn't working. Dad is still very sick and there is no more medicine for him. Remember how I told you that sometimes people with cancer die? Well, Dad is going to die. We are all going to die some day, but Dad will die soon." Travis fidgeted during this monologue and smiled and gestured at his sisters as if he was ignoring me. I held his hand and told him I was sad that Dad was going to die. He immediately gave me a hug and a kiss and I gushed that his hug made me feel so much better. He began to cry. I told him it's okay to be sad, it's okay to cry, it's also okay to be happy and laugh when you remember the silly things Dad did. I told him his body may be gone, but Dad is always in your heart. In all our hearts. We're all going to miss him but we are still a family and we have lots of people who love us and will help us. I told him if he is sad, he can talk to me, his sisters, his Grandma, teacher, anyone he chooses. He can say "Mom, I'm sad", "Mom, I miss Dad." We hugged and have moved on to a Disney movie. I was so concerned, judging by his reaction to our previous conversation, that he would be closed off to continuing the topic. And we NEEDED to talk. Not knowing when that final day will come, I didn't want to surprise him with that news. I'm very relieved and so proud of him. We WILL get through this. God's blessings on your family, Reta. This mom has it in spades. God bless, we are all praying for your family. |
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I just woke up.
My first thing to do usually is get into Proverbs. Just checking in to say prayers are still being made, and Jesus is listening and hearing them. I hope He is providing a miracle here. Reta- Please tell Jeff I'm praying hard for him right now. I'm also praying for peace and comfort. I'm tired of cancer----it's taken too many of my family. Jesus please send more angels to Jeff and Reta and their children right now and heal Jeff of this cancer. You are the Great Physician and can heal him of this. Please hear this and listen and do so. Jesus we love You. Amen. |
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Reta and Jeff;
We never know how each day is going to turn out. I would be willing to bet that Jeff never thought when he first posted on October 28, he had so many friends. Jeff's struggle has shown this community to be a community with honor, integrity and caring for a good man and his family. We are all better people I think because Jeff chose to share. In turn I am encouraged by the caring community of AR15.com. Look at the people who have taken time to stop by, call, share photos, send money, and last but not not least send prayers. Reta and Jeff we all continue to think about you all and your struggles. In my family's experience with Hospice, it was a very positive experience and the people here were very caring and loving people. I hope the same is true for your family. I pray for peace and comfort for your family. May God Bless. Jeff |
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I pray, now that it has come to this, that as your time with us comes to a close, it is peaceful. Know that your family is taken care of. That your son will remember. That your story will be spoken, your name not forgotten.
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Originally Posted By Slappy600cc:
We might not have ever met, and we might not have ever spoken. But we are brothers Jeff, and I will carry you with me for the rest of my life. Thank you for coming into our lives and making a difference. Godspeed brother. I couldn't say it any better. I never met you Jeff, but you've made a difference in my life. Rita, I feel comfortable in saying this and speaking for GD, if you ever need help with anything, we're here for you and your family. |
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Reta, you are amazing. You have great strength and are persevering through something I hope I never have to. I only hope I can summon the same fortitude if the situation ever calls for it. We are here for all of you. If you need anything, just ask.
Also, let that boy know that he has several thousand uncles and aunts that will teach him how to shoot and hunt, talk to him about girls, whatever he needs. All he has to do is ask. And we're here for the girls too. God be with you, Hagdaddy |
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So many tears shed for a man I never met. Every page of this thread has been amazing, the outpouring of love and support has been miraculous, in the truest sense of the word.
I think we all wonder what our purpose in this life is, or if we even have a purpose. Jeff, be comforted knowing that you have fulfilled at least one of the reasons you were put here on earth. You have inspired many, myself included, to look in the mirror and figure out how we can be better people. Countless good deeds, which will never be known, have been and will continue to be carried out in your name. This is a legacy that you can be damn proud of and from which we can all draw inspiration. Cancer hasn't beaten you Jeff, it just happened to be the catalyst needed for you to engage in one of your life's finest moments. This journey that you have taken us on transcends any other act of kindness and sharing that I have ever witnessed. It continues to be something very special in so many different ways. How you have chosen to share your story and emotions with all of us, how it has bonded so many people together for a singular purpose is a miracle all in itself. God Bless you, brother. |
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Originally Posted By TheAngryPilgrim: So many tears shed for a man I never met. Every page of this thread has been amazing, the outpouring of love and support has been miraculous, in the truest sense of the word. I think we all wonder what our purpose in this life is, or if we even have a purpose. Jeff, be comforted knowing that you have fulfilled at least one of the reasons you were put here on earth. You have inspired many, myself included, to look in the mirror and figure out how we can be better people. Countless good deeds, which will never be known, have been and will continue to be carried out in your name. This is a legacy that you can be damn proud of and from which we can all draw inspiration. Cancer hasn't beaten you Jeff, it just happened to be the catalyst needed for you to engage in one of your life's finest moments. This journey that you have taken us on transcends any other act of kindness and sharing that I have ever witnessed. It continues to be something very special in so many different ways. How you have chosen to share your story and emotions with all of us, how it has bonded so many people together for a singular purpose is a miracle all in itself. God Bless you, brother. |
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AMEN!! Originally Posted By USMC_7222:
Originally Posted By TheAngryPilgrim:
So many tears shed for a man I never met. Every page of this thread has been amazing, the outpouring of love and support has been miraculous, in the truest sense of the word. I think we all wonder what our purpose in this life is, or if we even have a purpose. Jeff, be comforted knowing that you have fulfilled at least one of the reasons you were put here on earth. You have inspired many, myself included, to look in the mirror and figure out how we can be better people. Countless good deeds, which will never be known, have been and will continue to be carried out in your name. This is a legacy that you can be damn proud of and from which we can all draw inspiration. Cancer hasn't beaten you Jeff, it just happened to be the catalyst needed for you to engage in one of your life's finest moments. This journey that you have taken us on transcends any other act of kindness and sharing that I have ever witnessed. It continues to be something very special in so many different ways. How you have chosen to share your story and emotions with all of us, how it has bonded so many people together for a singular purpose is a miracle all in itself. God Bless you, brother. Wow....awesome post. |
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Originally Posted By TheAngryPilgrim:
So many tears shed for a man I never met. Every page of this thread has been amazing, the outpouring of love and support has been miraculous, in the truest sense of the word. I think we all wonder what our purpose in this life is, or if we even have a purpose. Jeff, be comforted knowing that you have fulfilled at least one of the reasons you were put here on earth. You have inspired many, myself included, to look in the mirror and figure out how we can be better people. Countless good deeds, which will never be known, have been and will continue to be carried out in your name. This is a legacy that you can be damn proud of and from which we can all draw inspiration. Cancer hasn't beaten you Jeff, it just happened to be the catalyst needed for you to engage in one of your life's finest moments. This journey that you have taken us on transcends any other act of kindness and sharing that I have ever witnessed. It continues to be something very special in so many different ways. How you have chosen to share your story and emotions with all of us, how it has bonded so many people together for a singular purpose is a miracle all in itself. God Bless you, brother. Very well said. Godspeed Jeff. |
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Originally Posted By TheAngryPilgrim:
So many tears shed for a man I never met. Every page of this thread has been amazing, the outpouring of love and support has been miraculous, in the truest sense of the word. I think we all wonder what our purpose in this life is, or if we even have a purpose. Jeff, be comforted knowing that you have fulfilled at least one of the reasons you were put here on earth. You have inspired many, myself included, to look in the mirror and figure out how we can be better people. Countless good deeds, which will never be known, have been and will continue to be carried out in your name. This is a legacy that you can be damn proud of and from which we can all draw inspiration. Cancer hasn't beaten you Jeff, it just happened to be the catalyst needed for you to engage in one of your life's finest moments. This journey that you have taken us on transcends any other act of kindness and sharing that I have ever witnessed. It continues to be something very special in so many different ways. How you have chosen to share your story and emotions with all of us, how it has bonded so many people together for a singular purpose is a miracle all in itself. God Bless you, brother. Well said. Jeff has touched so many lives with a positive, peaceful and loving hand. Go rest high on that mountain now, brother. God has blessed you. 
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Originally Posted By redfish86:
Im bawling right now. God Bless your family. Originally Posted By redfish86:
Originally Posted By FW_wife:
In talking with the social worker today and the child life specialist, I was urged to have the talk with Travis. I have been keeping Travis in the loop, gradually introducing more information - telling him in the beginning "Dad is very sick and gets special medicine in the hospital", then "Dad has cancer and he has really good doctors who give him medicine to help him get better" and the other night "Sometimes people who have cancer die". Travis changed the subject with that last one. I mustered up the courage this evening and gathered the kids, luring them with Oreo shakes. Of course my imagined scenario was thwarted by a phone call and greedy consumption of shakes. Nevertheless, we all sat together and I began, "Travis, you know how Dad has been getting special medicine? Well, the medicine isn't working. Dad is still very sick and there is no more medicine for him. Remember how I told you that sometimes people with cancer die? Well, Dad is going to die. We are all going to die some day, but Dad will die soon." Travis fidgeted during this monologue and smiled and gestured at his sisters as if he was ignoring me. I held his hand and told him I was sad that Dad was going to die. He immediately gave me a hug and a kiss and I gushed that his hug made me feel so much better. He began to cry. I told him it's okay to be sad, it's okay to cry, it's also okay to be happy and laugh when you remember the silly things Dad did. I told him his body may be gone, but Dad is always in your heart. In all our hearts. We're all going to miss him but we are still a family and we have lots of people who love us and will help us. I told him if he is sad, he can talk to me, his sisters, his Grandma, teacher, anyone he chooses. He can say "Mom, I'm sad", "Mom, I miss Dad." We hugged and have moved on to a Disney movie. I was so concerned, judging by his reaction to our previous conversation, that he would be closed off to continuing the topic. And we NEEDED to talk. Not knowing when that final day will come, I didn't want to surprise him with that news. I'm very relieved and so proud of him. We WILL get through this. Im bawling right now. God Bless your family. Yeah, me too. I was wondering why this thread went from highlighted to tacked. Now I know
Seems there's been a turn for the worse. God Bless |
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How is it that a man can type on the Internet about dying and touch so many hearts, Teach so many about life, Teach so many about what a family is, Teach so many about friendship, Teach so many about true courage, Teach so many about wisdom? And I could go on.
Jeff, Rita and family you are special. I think that we are all better because of you. I send more prayers. An unknown friend from across the country. EBR |
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I hope this is a reminder of how fragile life is for us all. it sure has been for me. hug your family a little tighter and pray for peace for the family left behind. only the Lord is able to bring strength through tragedy. thank you jeff for showing courage, strength, determination and the will to fight even if it was a battle you knew you couldn't beat.
may the Lord keep you always and may your family be covered w/ peace that cannot be described. Reta, remember that you still have a purpose and so does your son. our God doesn't make mistakes no matter if we understand His process or agree w/ Him. you were allowed to spend great times w/ Jeff and I hope this will give you comfort in your days ahead. 
Godspeed soldier. you have fought the fight and you have kept the faith.
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Originally Posted By NUJbrown:
I couldn't say it any better. I never met you Jeff, but you've made a difference in my life. Rita, I feel comfortable in saying this and speaking for GD, if you ever need help with anything, we're here for you and your family. Originally Posted By NUJbrown:
Originally Posted By Slappy600cc:
We might not have ever met, and we might not have ever spoken. But we are brothers Jeff, and I will carry you with me for the rest of my life. Thank you for coming into our lives and making a difference. Godspeed brother. I couldn't say it any better. I never met you Jeff, but you've made a difference in my life. Rita, I feel comfortable in saying this and speaking for GD, if you ever need help with anything, we're here for you and your family. +1, truth......... |
| I hate to hear Jeff is in hospice. Back in early November I posted I was saying prayers that Jeff would be at home with the family at Thanksgiving. When that happened I was so happy. Now this turn for the worse. Prayers continue. |
The beatings will continue until morale improves.