I have the same commute as you OP. 46 miles each way. I mainly work on weekends, and have have a bunch of other trips on the other days to make to and from school twice a day. So I figure I drive about 24k miles a year.
I bought a model Y Tesla long range last fall. Since then I have put 16k miles on it. It replaced a 2017 Ford Escape 2.0 turbo which got around what you’re getting for mileage. I was spending around 325-375 a month in fuel. Mind you this was last summer when prices were way down. Today that figure would be about 450.
I installed a Tesla wall charger at my house. The charger cost me 500 bucks. I paid about 150 dollars in breakers, 4ga wire and conduit to run the charger. 60 amp breaker for the chargers and I needed a couple of those half size breakers to make room for the 60 amp. Pretty easy to install, but my location made it very easy. I only had about a 10’ run of conduit. The charger recharges about 15% per hour. So when I get home at night, it’ll completely charge up from whatever percentage I’m at by the morning. If your area has net metering where electricity is cheaper at certain times, the speed charger may help save you some money since smarter electric cars will let you set when when the car is to begin charging.
I charge at work as well, so that’s all free for me as well. My power bill went up some, but not very much. Maybe 60 bucks a month. I rarely use super chargers unless I’m going on a longer trip.
I personally would not bother with a hybrid. One of the main reasons to go all electric is to cut down on the maintenance side. The way a lot of these electric cars are performing, you should be able to get 10 years out of it before wanting to move on to something else. Having gas motor in there just adds all that right back in. At that point you might as well just stick with a Toyota.
Don’t expect the range quoted by the sellers. 310 miles on a Tesla is more like 200 unless you’re driving on flat Kansas roads at 45 with the AC off. My 46 miles to work is mostly downhill. So I end up using 7% of the battery. However going home is all uphill and eats up 30%. I also drive fast and have the AC blasting.
It’s been amazing in snow and ice. Even with the lame Continental tires on it, it handled my ice covered Mountain Road all winter long with zero issues. I didn’t get the performance model due to the tire options they come with. I didn’t want to get stuck buying another set of wheels/tires for winter. Roads here are shitty, so low profile tires are bad news.
The only maintenance I have performed is I had my tires rotated twice. Zero issues with the car so far. The Tesla is fun to drive. Luddites and boomers will hate on you no matter what since you don’t like what they like. While it doesn’t have the cool, “loud pipes save lives” sound, it does sound like the ghost busters proton pack energizing when you put your foot into it. You have to warn passengers when you’re going to pass someone since it will snap their neck into the seat when you step on it.
With the Tesla, another cool thing is you can set up the driver modes. So if your wife wants to drive it as a grocery getter and doesn’t like how responsive it is, you can tone it down and even change the way the steering is. Since they’re driver profiles based off of who gets in the driver seat, the car changes all the settings automatically for them including their seat settings.