[ARCHIVED THREAD] - INCEL support thread (Page 1 of 2)
Posted: 7/27/2019 10:51:48 PM EDT
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Went to a small get together tonight. Nice house, small turnout, pool in the back. Spent most of the time chasing my 2yo around making sure she didn’t, you know, fall down the limestone stairs, stumble into the bushes, drown in the pool, touch the grill, disappear behind the house, etc. Food was great. They had a DJ, beer - nice spread.
A few times, my toddler ended up near a girl who I mistook for someone who works for one of our associates. I inadvertently engaged her in conversation because of that. She spent the entire time just standing in the same spot at the edge of the pool by herself. I only had opportunities to talk to her whenever my kid happened to loiter in her area, and I did. Each time we spoke, she was pleasant and receptive. I got the impression she was happy that someone was talking to her at all. She wasn’t there with anyone, and she left alone. She looked to be mid to late 20’s and looked fantastic in her swimsuit. It was a savage reminder of the kind of opportunity a younger man not burdened with my particular responsibilities might have been able to capitalize on. Even if I hadn’t been completely distracted by my toddler - as if that isn’t instant kryptonite to a young, single woman - and managed to get to a point in the conversation where asking her out would be appropriate then what? No, it’s cool, I’m not married - my wife is dead; but my parents and in-laws visit every 3 weeks to watch the kid so we could go out then. I sleep on the couch when they stay with me tho so if you want to do it we’ll have to go to your place.   
My wife would be laughing her ass off if she could see this shit. 
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Even if I hadn’t been completely distracted by my toddler - as if that isn’t instant kryptonite to a young, single woman - and managed to get to a point in the conversation where asking her out would be appropriate then what? No, it’s cool, I’m not married - my wife is dead; but my parents and in-laws visit every 3 weeks to watch the kid so we could go out then. I sleep on the couch when they stay with me tho so if you want to do it we’ll have to go to your place.
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Call your friends and find out who she was. Ask her out. Lifes short. Quoted:
Call your friends and find out who she was. Ask her out. Lifes short. Quoted:
Life's too short. Try and hit that. what's the worst that could happen? Never in a million years would I resort to strange creeper tactics. Plus, Hispanic girls just aren’t my type. |
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I had a conversation with one of my student workers few weeks back. He told me he still had his V-card 2nd year in college and not by choice. I have taken him under my wing passing on my knowledge of how to get some. He now has his first girl friend and just simple pointers and that the really pretty ones are easier to land than he thinks. Just be yourself and play it aloof a bit show her attention but always leave her wanting more, for every two texts from her you send one unless it is a conversation, and so on.
Do the leg work find out how to get in touch. |
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I can’t understand what this is about. You’re upset you didn’t get her number? On the bright side, I managed to fit into my size 34 Magpul shorts tonight and comfortably! Eating right and exercising is starting to pay off. 
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I could be wrong, and the Arf-ladies can correct me, but being a single parent isn't the turn-off for a woman as it is for a man. I would have pursued it. Quoted:
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Even if I hadn't been completely distracted by my toddler - as if that isn't instant kryptonite to a young, single woman - and managed to get to a point in the conversation where asking her out would be appropriate then what? No, it's cool, I'm not married - my wife is dead; but my parents and in-laws visit every 3 weeks to watch the kid so we could go out then. I sleep on the couch when they stay with me tho so if you want to do it we'll have to go to your place.
My wife would be laughing her ass off if she could see this shit. My god, if i wasn't a devoted husband in love with his wife... 
I've been going out in public solo with my 12 week old little girl and no puppy on earth could pull the pussy this little baby brings up to eat out of my hand. 
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Quoted: That was probably a little unfair. I’m somewhere between INCEL and MGTOW at this point. Stopped jerking off, too. I’ve almost made it a month! (in guy years I think that’s like forever or something) |
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You should write her a letter/email telling her how much she could mean to you and how perfect she is. Letter know you're not like the others and talk bad about them. She'll be all over you. That’s the best plan I’ve come up with to date for ingratiating myself with a woman. |
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Quoted: That was probably a little unfair. I’m somewhere between INCEL and MGTOW at this point. Stopped jerking off, too. I’ve almost made it a month! (in guy years I think that’s like forever or something) |
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Quoted: That was probably a little unfair. I’m somewhere between INCEL and MGTOW at this point. Stopped jerking off, too. I’ve almost made it a month! (in guy years I think that’s like forever or something) |
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Quoted: You are like Krakatoa..... when you blow finally look out. Quoted: Stopping fapping is only a good idea if you are actually getting pussy. You are going to get backed up and explode. I just exercise now when I start to feel that tension. Had a great workout earlier today. Arms and chest are good and tired. My dreams have gotten really vivid. I actually had a lucid dream Friday night about my wife no less. I don’t feel bad at all. Something in me has definitely changed. |
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Lol. FUCK. THAT. Never in a million years would I resort to strange creeper tactics. Plus, Hispanic girls just aren’t my type. Quoted:
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Call your friends and find out who she was. Ask her out. Lifes short. Quoted:
Life's too short. Try and hit that. what's the worst that could happen? Never in a million years would I resort to strange creeper tactics. Plus, Hispanic girls just aren’t my type. |
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Quoted: This. My god, if i wasn't a devoted husband in love with his wife...
I've been going out in public solo with my 12 week old little girl and no puppy on earth could pull the pussy this little baby brings up to eat out of my hand.
I used to offer to babysit my buddy's kid and would bring him to the beach. The ladies came out of the woodwork. It's certainly NOT Kryptonite. It's a pussy magnet. |
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Quoted: I don't think you are actually an INCEL. You just got dealt a shitty set of circumstances. There's a difference. I’m starting to wonder if maybe I don’t... |
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I could endure hearing some more about how she looked in her bathing suit. She just had a really cute figure especially up top of you catch my drift. My brother probably would have been a better match for her. I took him because I was like hey party with some good food. He didn’t eat anything, didn’t talk to anyone. He just sat by himself wearing his Ray Bans looking as unapproachable as one could look. Who goes to a social event to be completely antisocial? Dude has issues. |
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Quoted: Just figure out who she is and ask her out on a date. My OP was more an observation/thinking out loud of how the particulars of my situation will be constant obstacles to any girl I might even think about asking out. I think the best course of action is to simply put those thoughts out of my head altogether and just keep focused on myself and the things I really need to be doing. |
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Quoted: Just a basic one piece and she was wearing shorts. She just had a really cute figure especially up top of you catch my drift. My brother probably would have been a better match for her. I took him because I was like hey party with some good food. He didn’t eat anything, didn’t talk to anyone. He just sat by himself wearing his Ray Bans looking as unapproachable as one could look. Who goes to a social event to be completely antisocial? Dude has issues.
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Quoted: A 41 year old man jerking off in the shower just seems sad. I don’t want to do that anymore... ever again, really. I just exercise now when I start to feel that tension. Had a great workout earlier today. Arms and chest are good and tired. My dreams have gotten really vivid. I actually had a lucid dream Friday night about my wife no less. I don’t feel bad at all. Something in me has definitely changed. That's nice you were able to dream of her. I'm sure that helps. |
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Your brother sounds like me. I'm not the social type. Any time I get dragged to one of those, I'm often off by myself, not interacting unless cornered. Quoted:
Quoted: Just a basic one piece and she was wearing shorts. She just had a really cute figure especially up top of you catch my drift. My brother probably would have been a better match for her. I took him because I was like hey party with some good food. He didn’t eat anything, didn’t talk to anyone. He just sat by himself wearing his Ray Bans looking as unapproachable as one could look. Who goes to a social event to be completely antisocial? Dude has issues. Then he just sits by himself and makes no effort to talk to anyone. The host was talking to us at the end just making small talk. My brother basically gives the guy one or two word responses. He may as well have just said leave me alone. It was off putting. I won’t make the mistake of inviting him anywhere again where his behavior may reflect poorly on me. To a third party, his demeanor would have looked a lot like I don’t want to eat your food and I don’t want to talk to you. So why even go? |
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Quoted: See that’s the thing. I didn’t coerce or persuade or cajole him into going. I just said hey there’s a thing I’m going to. There is going to be some seriously good barbecue. We’re both on low carb diets so I figured he’d be down. He said he would go. Then he just sits by himself and makes no effort to talk to anyone. The host was talking to us at the end just making small talk. My brother basically gives the guy one or two word responses. He may as well have just said leave me alone. It was off putting. I won’t make the mistake of inviting him anywhere again where his behavior may reflect poorly on me. To a third party, his demeanor would have looked a lot like I don’t want to eat your food and I don’t want to talk to you. So why even go? 
Not saying I'm a creepy loner or anything, I'll say hi, eat, talk if someone talks to me, but meh it's not my thing. |
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She’s already leasing space in your brain, whether you like it or not. Maybe she’ll see this “missed connections” post, and hook up.
If I’m being honest, whenever I think - I mean really think - about what it would be like to sleep with another woman, I almost feel sick. I think that’s a clear sign that I’m not in any position to pursue anything with anyone. Well, I gotta get to sleep. I hope to take a big dump in the morning and then step on the scale and see moderate weight gain (1-1.5 lbs.) after the way I let myself go tonight. Maybe I’ll go to the range in the morning. Been a while and I just installed a factory flat trigger in my P365. |
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It was a savage reminder of the kind of opportunity a younger man not burdened with my particular responsibilities might have been able to capitalize on. |
