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QFT. dont move it to her moms for her. also dont sell it b/c a lot of places you have to give the money to the state. |
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Talk to an attorney and get his/her advice. If you don't, I'll get to see Judge Judy jump all over you. Good luck.
Edited to add: NO emails, texting, phone conversations, no written contact, and no arguing. Don't leave her shit at moms house. Mom will back up her little angel in front of Judge Judy and say you and your buddies never put angel's stuff on the porch. LAWYER!!!! |
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Put it out on the curb and tell her that she needs to come get it before it gets wet or before garbage day.
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Box it up, put it on her mother's porch (call first), and then change the locks on your place.
Be over with the whole mess. FINISH IT. |
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+1 This is pretty good advice, but I would go one step further. If you are friends with any police officers or deputy sherrifs, I would have them accompany you to her moms when you know she is present to hand over her stuff. This helps keep the peace and you have a neutral witness to the transaction. Maybe your state is different, but I seriously doubt the storage company will allow you to set up an account in her name. They will set it up in YOUR name and then you will be responsible for the bills etc. |
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Look at it like this for a minute. You two broke up real easy, she leaves her stuff and will not come get it. I have seen this played out before. She got out easily and nice so you are not pissed and have no ill will. She now is out playing around with her friends and probably a bad boy. She will not answer and text back because she feels guilty about what she is doing. When she is done playing she will come crawling back and the excuse will be that she left her things there because she had to figure things out and now she wants you back. Pack it up for her, text, email, call, mail her and let her know it is packed and ready for her to pick up. You now have a trail that will hold up in court. No more contact. As long as you are texting and calling she thinks you are still on the hook and she can reel you in at anytime. At the end of 30 days take the stuff to where she is residing and give it to her or her parents. Document what you put into the boxes with pictures or video camera. She is trying to play you. It is up to you to control this situation.
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get all her crap packed up and leave it in an unused/spare room, basement, porch etc. |
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Now that's not neutral. Police officers don't like to baby sit other folks problems. |
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I went through this.
Don't call the cops. They'll ask all sorts of questions and then they'll want to get "her side of the story", up to and including having them ask about domestic violence. Then the po-po will make a decision, more than likely for you to keep her stuff until she can make time to come pick it up. If I had to do it all over again I would have called her mom and brought her stuff over with a list of items, keeping one for myself. I had to keep two pick-up trucks worth of stuff in my bedroom and the living room as I had taken in a room mate. The only plus was that we got to use her cooking stuff for about 4 months. |
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I'd cut off all contact with her for a month and not do a damned thing with her stuff. It'd piss her off the most.
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User Info IM User Email User Reply Quote Report Why should you have to pay to store her stuff? Call her and say she has 30 minutes till you throw it to the curb.102 The foregoing is the best advice you can receive if you want: 1. a small claims action; 2. to piss her off so that she gets back at you in ways that you cannot imagine;' 3. you want her to make up stories; 4. you want her to get a restraining order that will require that you give away or sell your firearms. The advice is what keeps lawyers in business. Thank you. |
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If it was a "clean" breakup then take the high road.
Rent the unit for $50. Move her stuff in. Do not call her, even to tell her you have done this. Change the locks. You probably won't do it since you "trust" her but I figured I'd say it anyhow. Wait for her to go batshit crazy that you're not calling anymore (which is a factor, if not the main reason she is pulling this). Next time she contacts you, give her the storage info and wish her the best in life. Enjoy sobbing and meltdown over the fact that you're not tripping over yourself to get in touch with her and have moved on. Or you could just keep calling her and playing her games. Woman are evil. I'm a fan of them...but they are still evil. ETA: I didn't notice the "Mom" option in the poll until just now. If Mom is in the picture then you should drop it off there. The rest of my spiel stands. Good luck. |
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I'd video record any moving/transport etc. and then store it and provide her with the information. If she doesn't want to go get it - her loss. Anytime you throw something away in these circumstances, you will later learn that some item you threw away or are alleged to have thrown away is some sort of priceless heirloom or cellectible.
I gave this advice to an attorney recently who was advising a landlord client. The client did not want to follow the advice on the grounds that all of the stuff was junk (of course it is but that won't keep the owner from claiming otherwise). Needless to say, those folks are now in litigation and the tenant is claiming the destruction of thousands of dollars in property - far more than the lease would have brought even if the tenant had paid. |
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Here is the New Mexico law that covers abondoned property by renters, not sure if it applies to cohabitation but maybe it helps:
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Just take it to her mother's house and leave it on the porch. Don't be a dick, and don't waste any more time or money on this twit than you already have. Be done with it. |
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Be firm with her, tell her your position, and do not waver from it. Offer a time/deadline for her to get her stuff, try to make sure that you are there when/if she does.
If she doesn't come for it, donate it and get a charitable tax receipt. I went thru this once. My ex took off to visit/help her family, and never returned. She left in August 2000. We had bought a house together, she brought in a shitload of animals, and ran up a mountain of debt. She leaves, with the door cracked open for her (so to speak), but after about six months, it's apparant that it's permanent. Two years go by, I'm moving on with my life, found homes for those animals, found a great girlfriend (the woman I'm still with), we decide to take the next step and get a place together. Meanwhile, the ex still had not come to get her shit. I had papers drawn up (thur a family atty), sent them to her in the state where she was living. She signed the house over to me, I sold it as fast as I could. As she never came back for her belongings, I sure as hell wasn't going to ship them. My SO and I spent an afternoon going thru her stuff - all of the ex's clothes went to a woman's shelter, the rest of it went to Goodwill/Salvation Army. |
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box it up nice if your not pissed at her and drop on moms porch. If your pissed at her, rub one out on her stuff and throw in garbage bags and leave at moms porch.
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Put it on the curb. Landlords do it all the time. If her name is not on the lease/deed, she has no rights to the property you live on. If her name is on the lease/deed, you need to lawyer up. Don't waste your time trying to talk to her.
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When I gave the first wife the boot, I gave her 2 warnings. The second one everything was in Puerto Rican suitcases on the front stoop. Come and get it.
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Craigs list and ebay all of that shit. Then move on to the next future ex.
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Notify her that you're putting it on the street tonight if she doesn't come by after work.
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Sure they do. I can scan a copy of a pleading claiming thousands in damage as a result of such actions filed by a tenant that didn't have a pot to piss in. I think the landlord finds little comfort in the fact that the stuff was actually junk every time he pays his $150/hr attorney fee bill. YMMV. The bit about the lease/deed is not necessarily the case, either. I'd stick to what you know. |
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Be careful throwing it out technically she is a renter if she has stayed there for more than 48 hours. Better to let a storage company do it for you.
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Send her a letter giving her 5 days to collect it. State that if she doesn't - it will be placed at the curb and you will not be responsible for it. Specify a date.
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Be a man about it. Send it to her mom's house in good condition. Even if you have to buy some storage containers it's money well-spent.
Do you have a buddy that would help you move a body? Call him and have him deliver the stuff to Mom so you don't have to deal with the drama. Of course you'll owe him one and he'll have a terrific story to tell on you but that's just the way it is. Then be done with it. Life's little lesson here is if you let someone move in with you then you'll have drama when they leave. Don't be a part of the cast. Just cut your losses and move on. |
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This man speaks the truth. But have Mom sign for it. |
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If your place was actually listed as her real residence, then you can just through her stuff out. You'll have to store it, and charge her for it.
State laws differ on this kind of stuff so I would call your local PD or SD and ask for further information about how long you may need to keep her stuff. |
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- charge her storage fees
- assume it's abandoned property and sell it |
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save it for the next girlfriend.
It'll save you loads on buying gifts. |
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-rent storage space -call movers - bid that shit adieu - sue her in small claims to recoup |
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Tin_Star I like the way you think! This could be pure comedy gold: Tested <txt msg> Cum gt yer stuf Ex: Tested <txt msg> My new gf dsnt wnt yer panies - way too big Tested <txt msg> She dnt wnt yer bras - way too small Ex: <txt msg> U MFBSTD Tested <txt msg> gotta go, she made me a sammich |
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Bad advice, in Florida, if someone else living with you, but is not on the lease, receives mail there, you can not kick them out. You have to go thru evict process. By law they have every right to be there. Also those saying get a lawyer make me go ---> You guys do know that lawyers arent cheap. And personally there is no reason to involve one. I would box her stuff up, call her and her mom, tell her that she needs to come get this stuff out of your place immediately. Dont threaten to do anything with it (like throw it away, sell it , etc) and dont say "...or else." those are INTIMADATION tactics and can be used against you later on. As shitty as it is, you have to play nice. Just box it up, put it away somewhere and wait. Tell her once to come get it, give it some time and then you may have to call and tell her to get it again. I would certainly document it. You could even write a nice letter asking her to remove her possessions (while you are there) and have it sent certified mail (so you have copy of it being accepted). I wouldnt pay for a storage unit, its not your responsibility to move and pay for this stuff. Also you didnt say how much stuff there was, funiture? jus clothes? etc etc. If its just a bag full, stick it in the garage and attic for now. |
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Actually ignore my post, THIS is the best reply so far ^ |
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So I txtd here mom and told her mom that I was willing to pay for the first months storage. That I had taken the day off of work and had people coming over to help and that my e(her daughter) txtd me at 10pm last night saying she wasn't coming.
Not 5 mins later I get a call from her asking how much the storage was going to be and if I had any boxes. I'm guessing that mom wasn't to happy knowing that her daughter was being a POS and that I was just trying to be a nice guy. I'm sure she has told her mom horrible stories about how I forced her to do unspeakable acts of life altering depravity with objects both animate and not. |
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Apparently I called her mom by the wrong name. OOPS. Mom is all wounded that I didn't talk to her when the ex and I were dating.
As good a lay as this girl was I am really starting to look forward to getting her outa my life. I think I need to learn to be way more selective in the future. |
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Erm....thanks. |
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At this point in the thread I believe COC requires you to post pics of ex's Mom
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Trust me dude you don't wanna see those. |
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Just move, and leave her stuff at the old place. Or at least tell her you're moving and stop calling.
Seriously you shouldn't keep calling her about it. Stop calling her and pretty soon she'll call you thinking "Oh shit, he threw all my stuff away." Then when you do feel like talking to her again she can come get her stuff when it's convenient for you not her. |
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EBay is a wonderful thing. What stuff? You didn't have any of your things here.
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Deny her all reason to remain in contact with you, LIKE CHARGING HER FOR STORAGE or involving the man in any way shape or form. Put it in storage for a few months at your expense, or leave it with mom at your expense.
The bottom line is that money spent denying her reason to contact you with malice or bitterness is money well spent. |
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Street with a sign on it that says free shit. Take a pic and text her, your shit is here come and get.
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