Quoted: ...and she says, "Call me tomorrow, we'll go have drinks!"
I am 18.
Need a plan... any ideas?
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Use some common sense and ask her what she wants to do at the time. Yes, you don't drink, so what? Alcohol isn't everything you know and it sure as hell isn't a way to have a good time. Call me old fashioned but I tell you something. Getting wasted then doing the wild thing isn't going to do you a bit of good. It's only going to do damage to your relationship, IF you're really trying to impress this girl and you want to see her again. If you're out for a quick lay in the hay, then that's your perogative.
Start thinking like a gentleman and treat her with respect. Not all females want to get a quick roll. There are some of us who are out for a good time and that's it. If one thing leads to another, then so be it but don't have intentions or expectations. You'll regret it.
Call me sentimental and romantic at heart but I believe that first dates are just that, first dates, not a free for all - unless she comes on to you and even then a question would come to mind. Then again, the question comes into play, how do you feel about this girl, do you want a relationship with her or are you looking for a quickie? It's a 2 way street.
I suppose I've been spoiled by Syn and his gentleman tactics before we even got married and even now to this day he still does it. It's all about treating the female gender with respect, opening doors for them, helping them with their coat, walking them to their car, stuff like that. It's when you do little things like that , you earn positive points on the score card.
This is coming from a female point of view, but remember you're the one who's going to be waking up the next morning either feeling regrets for making the wrong moves or looking forward to the next date. Good luck and I hope it works out on a positive note for the both of you.