What day of the month is it?

this!

The problem isn't a lack of security. The problem is, he and his girlfriend don't see eye to eye on something. They need to talk about THAT, not go behind each other's back playing a game of "catch me if you can".





I don't do anything online (or anywhere else for that matter) that I need to hide from my wife. And neither should he, with regard to his girlfriend.





 

Get Google chrome, use "Incognito mode"

I can not tolerate that pouting and sulking crap.  Just a really unattractive quality in a person.  So is hypocrisy.   If this is an isolated twitch, then fine work it out, maybe make some effort to accommodate her.  If is typical behavior, I'd be concerned gone.

Jane

The solution to all Arfcom sex problems:

(1) Fuck it, I'm foing.
(2) ??????
(3) Profit.

Not to mention the fact that the OP said he is in love with this young lady. If he really does, this would be a great opportunity to make a personal sacrifice to respect her and show how much he really does. It would show that he really values her and her feelings if he is willing to stop doing something she finds offensive and/or hurtful. This would make their relationship stronger. A true relationship is based on love the action (commitment, respect, and service), not love the feeling (which isn't really love anyway) A relationship based on nothing more than "when can  I get pie" is never going to last.

This.

I see as an invasion of privacy and general snooping.  If your wife kept a journal, would you read it without her knowledge?  Go through her purse or cell phone?



My Computer is an extension of my mind.  The data kept and the places visited online my business.  Snooping is verboten.  



 

This... But DON'T TELL HER FIRST! Just leave it up on the screen for her after work astonishment! Or maybe if you think your through, then make the video with her sister or something!

Tell her exactly what you wrote here.

Didnt read all the responses... MAKE HER MAKE SOME PORN FOR YOU TO WATCH INSTEAD OF WATCHING OTHER CHICKS



THEN POST IT HERE!

Problem solved.

This worked for me and my wife, porn and all.

Collaborate, and Listen!

Yeah and a relationship that is filled with hypocrisy and one sided sacrifice will work out just great

Same here, it is a non issue with me and my wife

  Ice is back with a brand new edition

Just put this on when she walks in and all will be right with the world.

70's porn music

I'm the one that has to remind her to clear out her internetz history if someone is coming over and might be using the 'puter. We've since moved to DVDs

No it won't. But the OP cannot control her part in it. However, if she sees him doing this for her, she will be more likely to do the same for him. If not, then no, it will not work. That's when it is time to eject.

+1

Tell her it's not a right hand, it's a relationship...and one that predates yours with her. Of course that might make you sound like a basement dwelling monkey spanker. Hmmmmm.

Pull up porn hub and be half naked when she comes home. Tell her you need some ME time..........and go make you a sammich  

Porn is dirty and degrading! I would never even consider using the FAMILY PC for something so nasty.... But maybe you should look into the Blackberry Storm, the picture is amazing! I even ACCIDENTLY found a site with 10-20 minute preview clips formatted to stream to mobiles.

This message will self destruct!!!!!!!!!

Define addiction.  If a man would dump the porn site immediately if his wife walked into the room with no clothes on, he's not addicted to porn, he is starving for sex.  See the difference?  There is a difference between "I rarely tell him no, but he has NO interest in me because he is always looking at prOn" and "that bastard is NOT allowed to look at porn because that is reducing my ability to control him with MY pie".  

I do believe that quite a few men are unfairly lambasted for occasionally succumbing to it and blamed for the relational chaos, when the real issues started well before he turned the computer on.  A woman can just treat her man like a whipping post for months but when he breaks down and hits a porn site to finally get a look at some titties, EVERYTHING IS ALL HIS FAULT for looking at porn!!!!!!!!  Sorry, but that's just bullshit.  One more area where women avoid facing up to their own role in relational issue.  

And BTW, I just did months of pastoral marriage counseling (as one of the counselees).  I fall into the above category.  And yes, it was all my fault......

Lets get practical.  The following is posted strictly from a relational standpoint:

If the OPs live in GF doesn't want him looking at titties on the net, she should take off her shirt.  If he would rather have that - there is no porn problem.  If the relationship is lacking sexually, she passed on an opportunity to address it, but she'll jump his shit about looking at porn on an occasional basis because it makes her feel threatened - SHE also has a problem because she is not owning up to her actions in the relationship, AND she is blaming HIM for what I would say is a fairly common and completely predictable response to the situation SHE created.  In other words, she wants to have her cake (not going to put out) and eat it too (he can't look at or have me, but he can't look at anyone else or satisfy himself either!).  Only in America in the 21st century, would this be considered remotely equitable.


ETA: Damn!  The ladies of ARFCOM pretty much agree with me?  What is the world coming to?

At least they managed to make the same point with two sentences or less!  

This,and she's probily searching your name on here right now.

Tell her to get a full time job and her own place.
You can dump her ass later

Ok I have to ask...... WTF is that? I have been married for close to 15 years and have never heard that come out of my wife's mouth.... bad hair day, feeling bloated, makeup did not go on right that morning, etc, etc but never ever "I feel ugly".

BTW TheKill, I agree with you on this one!

Give her a Tony Danza, or an Angry Pirate! Urban Dictionary, look it up.

Mostly the addicts have problems with porn.  People without the addict 'gene' are rarely in life ruining situations.  Of course there will be trouble if one marries a person who is disgusted by porn for either moral or personal reasons and that didn't get it out in the open before getting hitched.  Open communication about desires, expectations and experiences should inoculate against this.  

Many of those having trouble with porn weren't raised when it was so readily available and neither men nor women expected to deal with the issue.  People reaching adulthood since the mid-nineties are in a different situation.  They have been exposed to it and will self-select their mates based on their feelings about it.

To the OP...If you are both OK with the other using porn when one is not in the mood or not available, etc., then no problem   If not...problem.  Unless one of you starts preferring porn to your available partner...then it's an addiction...and a problem.

Every man looks at porn.  Get over it.  If she is insecure, immature, and has a hard time accepting the reality of the male psyche....EJECT, EJECT, EJECT.
Tell her to call you in a year or ten (or whenever she grows up).

Jerk off on her face tonight while she's sleeping. Tell her it's one or the other, her choice.

So I'm guessing it is never the wife that has completely cut off the guy that is the problem?

Update 3?!?!

I know she isn't searching for me, since she's in the living room watching "Pirates" right now , I snuck back to provide the briefest of updates.
We talked, came to an agreement, and decided this was the best course of action. Now if you'll excuse me....
Before anyone asks, I will not SIIHPAPP

Find a job?

Why does she have to look at the history?   That's the thing I don't get about being offended about something that a person purposely went to look at.

She knows you do it, she's willing to look the other way provided you delete the history, but she's gonna pitch a bitch if you don't delete the history because she decided to go and look at whatever you looked at.

Nope, she doesn't get to play that game provided she's purposely going and snooping in combination with the fact that nobody is forcing her to look at it.

sit back fapping one out infront of the computer with some loud ass hardcore porn on the computer when she walks in?

Look, this isn't rocket science.  She didn't put out, she probably felt guilty about it while at the same time really kind of just having the attitude of "hey, if I don't want to, I don't want to!!!"  But guilt really gets women.  So instead of addressing the issue (she turned him down), instead when he does what a lot of guys would do in this situation, she goes snooping to bust him for that and then lay all the blame at his feet.  Now it's all his fault and she can quit feeling guilty for causing the whole thing in the first place.  

Boundaries, honesty, openness, taking responsibility...........forget about it.  You're dealing with a woman here.

unfortunately, if you do find that person, you'll probably have to be gay.

No, I get it.

That's the reason I said she doesn't get to play the game by her rules and logic.   Because she's a woman and playing by a double standard.


It would be one thing if he was looking at porn while dating an absolute plain white sheet of a religous prude Maude Flanders type.   She'd have a right to be shocked if it was something he was keeping from her and she was unaware of.   But since whatshercunt is aware of the pron, looks at pron herself, and is somewhat accepting of it providing he hides it, a big giant WTF all around on this one for her pitching a bitch late in the game.   Uh uh, not gonna fly.

People disconnect from reality and spend time in a fantasy world all the time.  Not just about sex.
Go to the range and practice shooting bad guys.  Call it training all you want, you are fantasizing about it really happening.
Video games are a fantasy world all their own.
Heck, 99% of the people on this forum have a fantasy that people give a shit what they think.

The problem is not with the guy watching porn.
The real problem is with the woman being insecure.
There is no way a woman can satisfy every desire a man has, NOR can she keep up with the amount he wants.
Why do you think the porn problem is almost always one sided.  
How many guys here object to their women viewing porn?  
Fantasy is the only way a guy can fulfill a lot of those desires.  
The woman getting mad about it is only being selfish, as she can't or won't satisfy her man, and won't allow him to take care of himself.

Rather than counseling a guy to suppress human nature, why not counsel the woman to not be afraid of it.  
Human nature is not to be monogamous.  Men are genetically programmed to look around.  
Porn gives a guy the ability to look (virtual) without hurting anything (reality).

I rank this up there with women who seem to think their husbands should love them no matter what.
Even if she throws on 200 pounds, quits her job, gets a bitchy attitude, etc.
In good times and bad....  only goes so far.  

Porn doesn't destroy marriages.  Women only perceive it as the problem, because they refuse to look at themselves.

Porn isn't one of the main causes of divorce.  Sex and money are the top two,
but to the best of my knowledge, porn hasn't been identified as the reason sex is a main cause.

OH SNAP!

This absolutely fuckin' golden!!!!!!!!!!!


And very tagline worthy.

let it be .

Make damn sure you're whacking it when she comes through the door. Pants around the ankles and all.

Even better

Whatever you do, don't tell her you're looking for ideas to enhance your mutual sex life.

That one doesn't work...