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Posted: 12/31/2011 8:17:15 AM EDT

[#1]

Time is all that is needed... I know, it sounds cliche, but it is true. In the meantime, KEEP BUSY. Occupy yourself with productive activites you enjoy. Banging a few sluts might sound like a good idea at first, but it will actually make things worse in the long run (trust me, I know).

My personal experience; I tried the self destructive route, pining over my lost love by banging any beer goggle'ish floosy (some hot, some not) in sight, drinking heavily, and blowing all my cash on any diversion I could find. Needless to say, it did not help. What eventually helped was pulling my head out of my ass and focusing on my career (and by extension, my finances), my family and real friends, and staying busy with my tinker toy hobbies (reloading, RC choppers). This kept me focused on living my life in the moment and with an eye to the future: not looking bacwards all the time. Once i was reasonably stable, I met my wife of five years!!! I was not expecting to find her, but I am pretty sure I would have passed her over if i was still pining over my ex, drinking mass quantities of booze and attempting to bang any slit in sight.

Now I have been marred five years and have two little girls. Best years of my life, hands down.

Hope this helps... Seriously.

Sorry to focus on my own experience so much, but I am not a psychiatrist or counselor, and what have not... It is all I have to draw upon. Good luck.

Posted: 12/31/2011 8:23:37 AM EDT

[#2]

craigslist

get drunk, call her and tell her to fuck herself, then go hang out with your friends, they should be able to get you laid. every guy knows at least one girl he can call whenever to get laid.

Posted: 12/31/2011 8:26:35 AM EDT

[#3]

Quoted:
Time is all that is needed... I know, it sounds cliche, but it is true. In the meantime, KEEP BUSY. Occupy yourself with productive activites you enjoy. Banging a few sluts might sound like a good idea at first, but it will actually make things worse in the long run (trust me, I know).

My personal experience; I tried the self destructive route, pining over my lost love by banging any beer goggle'ish floosy (some hot, some not) in sight, drinking heavily, and blowing all my cash on any diversion I could find. Needless to say, it did not help. What eventually helped was pulling my head out of my ass and focusing on my career (and by extension, my finances), my family and real friends, and staying busy with my tinker toy hobbies (reloading, RC choppers). This kept me focused on living my life in the moment and with an eye to the future: not looking bacwards all the time. Once i was reasonably stable, I met my wife of five years!!! I was not expecting to find her, but I am pretty sure I would have passed her over if i was still pining over my ex, drinking mass quantities of booze and attempting to bang any slit in sight.

Now I have been marred five years and have two little girls. Best years of my life, hands down.

Hope this helps... Seriously.

Sorry to focus on my own experience so much, but I am not a psychiatrist or counselor, and what have not... It is all I have to draw upon. Good luck.

A success story!!

Posted: 12/31/2011 8:30:32 AM EDT

[#4]

Hemingway said "The best way to get over heartache is to find another woman."

Henry Miller said,"The best way to get over a woman is to turn her into literature"

I say that you now have plenty of extra time to focus on working more, maybe even getting a second job. It keeps the hands and mind occupied. In your free time read and write. Work at becoming a better man. In a very short time you will pick your head up, look around and realize that you are not only over her, but that you are also now better than you could have ever been with her, and can get a girl that is actually deserving of your time. Ohh did I mention all the money you now have to blow on guns, yea the side effects to my plan are awesome.

Posted: 12/31/2011 8:32:53 AM EDT

[#5]

Quoted:

Quoted:

the thing is, I would want her to call after a while saying that she misses me and she wants things to work out, but I know that if there is any chance of that happening it will be because I give her nothing unless we are together. Like conditioning.

In the past I have had no problems saying fuck it, and walking away. But I also never thought of any of those girls as my future wife.

If you're still thinking of this one in terms of future wife, start making it in terms of future ex-wife. She is already putting you through the drama. If you would ever even consider taking her back after this, good luck is all I can say, coz you deserve all the misery she is going to hand you.

Take the above post to heart.

Posted: 12/31/2011 8:36:02 AM EDT

[#6]

Alcohol, spending a lot of times with buds, and rifle/car projects work fine for me so far the past month.. As soon as work resumes(Next week) I am getting a wellness center membership, and Im going back to school. Fuck it.

Posted: 12/31/2011 8:37:16 AM EDT

[#7]

Posted: 12/31/2011 8:39:37 AM EDT

[#8]

copious amounts of porn, big tub of lube, a dozen (or two) of old socks

Posted: 12/31/2011 8:42:56 AM EDT

[#9]

Asking advice on here to a bunch of guys that have never had any sort of relationship with a real female is pretty pointless. you'll get the "get over her ya pussy!" or "go fuck her friends" from the guys who haven't had a sexual encounter with a female in their lives. It's tough getting over someone you loved. Focus on improving yourself. Do things you wanted to do but she didn't want to. Stay busy busy busy busy. Be with friends and family as much as possible. Get or stay healthy. Exercise and eat better. Make yourself all around more valuable. Its hard o accept, but you have to move on. It takes time.

Posted: 12/31/2011 8:44:33 AM EDT

[#10]

Quit begging.Its pathetic. Ignore her and do not call her ,text or ,email her. It may drive her crazy enough to see the light and come back. If not move on.

Posted: 12/31/2011 8:46:36 AM EDT

[#11]

liquor and porn

Posted: 12/31/2011 8:49:16 AM EDT

[#12]

Quoted:
Check cheap fares with southwest. First cheap ticket to some place warm.

this

Posted: 12/31/2011 9:21:03 AM EDT

[#13]

Delete her phone number, Delete her email address, Facebook ect...............

Never take back an ex, Unless you like punishing yourself.

Then work on your self confidence, Remember that as a general rule women will not screw or be in a relationship with what they don't respect. Begging, groveling and hail Mary texts only go to lower your rating on the respect meter. Don't be a jerk but also don't be a groveling push over either. Spend some time doing things that build self confidence, put extra effort into work or hobbies and enjoy some accomplishments. It will also help when you start dating again not to have the "air of desperation" around you. Women can detect that and it does nothing that is helpful for you.

Posted: 12/31/2011 9:28:34 AM EDT

[#14]

i dont care if there are pics in the botd forum, where the F are they HERE?! .....now i see why she left your ass.

Posted: 12/31/2011 9:31:15 AM EDT

[#15]

Quoted:
Best way to get over a girl is to get under one.

This, or, in more classic parlance "the fastest way to forget one woman is in the arms of another".

Posted: 12/31/2011 9:33:33 AM EDT

[#16]

well let me just help you get over her. What she told you is code for "I think I found someone better" She either is fucking him already or plans to and has enough diginty to break up with you first. She wants to keep you as a back up plan though which is why she said she needs space rather than telling you it's fucking over and don't call her again.
SO. This obviously isn't the one. Maybe you loved her but that doesn't matter. You will love someone else sooner or later who loves you back. Go out and have some fun until that happens.

Posted: 12/31/2011 9:38:01 AM EDT

[#17]

Stay busy...

Posted: 12/31/2011 9:45:09 AM EDT

[#18]

Quoted:

Quoted:
Cut the cord. Period.

No phone calls.
No e-mails.
No texts.

ZERO contact. Anything more will only prolong the misery.

This guy is smart!

I would add take down all of her pictures and either give back the stuff that is hers or put all the shit that reminds you of her in the basement/closet etc.

Go to the gym, work out, exercise. Go to the mall buy yourself sum decent clothes.
Make yourself attractive, go bang the first chick that will let you bang her, then the 2nd, then the 3rd, rinse... repeat.

This works for me!

The last one that walked out my front door a little over a year ago made the 10 minute drive home and found that I had already made changes. First thing I did after she walked out the front door was to remove her from my facebook list, and blocked her in just about every way I could. She kept calling my phone for 3 days but I wouldnt answer. She would leave voice mail after voice mail. It took a long time before she started leaving me alone. Breaking contact with her allowed us both to get over things.

It isnt easy but it works.

Posted: 12/31/2011 9:48:53 AM EDT

[#19]

Quoted:
who just said she needs space and doesn't think she sees a future with our relationship...

I threw out about 6 Hail Mary texts to girls and now seeing what's up. Aside from Hookers and Blow (wouldn't work with my job), how else has the Hive mind handled this type of situation in the past.

PS I still love girl and assume it is all dead but need to move on, so nothing overt

It's dead, move on.

Posted: 12/31/2011 9:52:31 AM EDT

[#20]

Quoted:
Cut the cord. Period.

No phone calls.
No e-mails.
No texts.

ZERO contact. Anything more will only prolong the misery.

This. Zero contact until you're over her.

Posted: 12/31/2011 9:53:51 AM EDT

[#21]

restore a recoilless rifle?

Posted: 12/31/2011 9:55:56 AM EDT

[#22]

find another girl... its not hard to do you just have to have the balls to ask which most guys dont

I think it would take me a week or 2 to find another gf ... not because I have money or Im good looking butbecause Im confident

Posted: 12/31/2011 9:56:32 AM EDT

[#23]

Quoted:

Just go on with life. Trust me, 20 years from now, all of your little GF relationships will be looked back on as trivial.

This is so true.

Happened to me about 20 or so years ago. I was crushed, this was supposedly the girl I was going to marry. I spent time moping around being bummed out.

Got over it, many years later got married and am happy as I can be.

Ran into the old girlfriend on Facebook.. my GOD am I glad I didn't marry that :) Trust me.. time heals all wounds.

Posted: 12/31/2011 9:56:41 AM EDT

[#24]

Fetal position and a box of tissues.
Mass amounts of booze.
Go to a bar and find an asshole then fight.
Find bar fly to bang.
Forget what happened.
Find nice girl.
Bar fly drops the bomb.
Start at 1 now with prize.

Or just get over it.

Posted: 12/31/2011 9:59:11 AM EDT

[#25]

When you see the ugliness inside a person, you no longer want them. If you have to think of her, think of that.

Work out a lot. Read. Spend time with the friends you've been ignoring. Time will pass and, along with it, your feelings for her.

Posted: 12/31/2011 9:59:59 AM EDT

[#26]

Quoted:
Check cheap fares with southwest. First cheap ticket to some place warm.

And make that place just outside of the Vegas city limits. Buy 2 and enjoy forgetting your ols flame

Posted: 12/31/2011 10:03:00 AM EDT

[#27]

Quoted:
Time is all that is needed... I know, it sounds cliche, but it is true. In the meantime, KEEP BUSY. Occupy yourself with productive activites you enjoy. Banging a few sluts might sound like a good idea at first, but it will actually make things worse in the long run (trust me, I know).

My personal experience; I tried the self destructive route, pining over my lost love by banging any beer goggle'ish floosy (some hot, some not) in sight, drinking heavily, and blowing all my cash on any diversion I could find. Needless to say, it did not help. What eventually helped was pulling my head out of my ass and focusing on my career (and by extension, my finances), my family and real friends, and staying busy with my tinker toy hobbies (reloading, RC choppers). This kept me focused on living my life in the moment and with an eye to the future: not looking bacwards all the time. Once i was reasonably stable, I met my wife of five years!!! I was not expecting to find her, but I am pretty sure I would have passed her over if i was still pining over my ex, drinking mass quantities of booze and attempting to bang any slit in sight.

Now I have been marred five years and have two little girls. Best years of my life, hands down.

Hope this helps... Seriously.

Sorry to focus on my own experience so much, but I am not a psychiatrist or counselor, and what have not... It is all I have to draw upon. Good luck.

To the OP.......I agree with this guy. Get your life in order and a quality person will come your way and you will look back on this time in your life and be glad you got your ducks in order.

Posted: 12/31/2011 10:04:06 AM EDT

[#28]

Oh... It bothers you when relationships end? I typically throw a party.

Posted: 12/31/2011 10:04:32 AM EDT

[#29]

When you're lonely, or sad, or just miss her always remember- She's an ex for a reason.

That reason will get clouded up and glossed over in your mind, but it's still there.

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Posted: 12/31/2011 10:05:05 AM EDT

[#30]

GET A GUN

Posted: 12/31/2011 10:05:46 AM EDT

[#31]

Quoted:
Best way to get over a girl is to get under one.

This! But choose carefully.

Posted: 12/31/2011 10:06:20 AM EDT

[#32]

OP,
BTDT a couple times in my younger years. Time is the cure. DO NOT DRIVE PAST HER HOUSE. It sucks but you will get past it.

Posted: 12/31/2011 10:07:14 AM EDT

[#33]

Quoted:

Quoted:
Cut the cord. Period.

No phone calls.
No e-mails.
No texts.

ZERO contact. Anything more will only prolong the misery.

This guy is smart!

I would add take down all of her pictures and either give back the stuff that is hers or put all the shit that reminds you of her in the basement/closet etc.

Go to the gym, work out, exercise. Go to the mall buy yourself sum decent clothes.
Make yourself attractive, go bang the first chick that will let you bang her, then the 2nd, then the 3rd, rinse... repeat.

This works for me!

+ eleventeen!

Posted: 12/31/2011 10:07:22 AM EDT

[#34]

Quoted:
Go fuck her sister or best friend.

This is the answer.

Posted: 12/31/2011 10:08:40 AM EDT

[#35]

Get down and dirty.

Posted: 12/31/2011 10:10:03 AM EDT

[#36]

well I have two ski trips planned with some of my best guy friends and one trip home to see my family (all within the next two months) that outta help. The only real projects I can pick up are bettering myself and maybe doing some work to my sportbike. All of my tools and almost all of my sticks are home in TN.

A guy I work with has two roommates who are dancers for an NBA team, might start hanging out with him more often

Posted: 12/31/2011 10:13:44 AM EDT

[#37]

Quoted:
well I have two ski trips planned with some of my best guy friends and one trip home to see my family (all within the next two months) that outta help. The only real projects I can pick up are bettering myself and maybe doing some work to my sportbike. All of my tools and almost all of my sticks are home in TN.

A guy I work with has two roommates who are dancers for an NBA team, might start hanging out with him more often

I can guarantee those two trips will be a HELL of a lot more fun now...

Posted: 12/31/2011 10:15:55 AM EDT

[#38]

The best revenge is to live well.

Posted: 12/31/2011 10:17:18 AM EDT

[#39]

Quoted:
Forget her, move on and stop posting about it here. You know what YOU need to do.

THIS

Posted: 12/31/2011 10:18:01 AM EDT

[#40]

Quoted:
Cut the cord. Period.

No phone calls.
No e-mails.
No texts.

ZERO contact. Anything more will only prolong the misery.

Listen to this.

It ain't Fucking WORTH IT.

If that's how she feels then don't grovel at her feet and try to get her back. The woman of the rest of your life will WORSHIP you, not expect you to WORSHIP HER.

Posted: 12/31/2011 10:19:39 AM EDT

[#41]

Quoted:

Quoted:
Best way to get over a girl is to get under one.

This, or, in more classic parlance "the fastest way to forget one woman is in the arms of another".

This.

Preferably her BFF.

Posted: 12/31/2011 10:31:53 AM EDT

[#42]

Another chapter in your life has been written. Close the cover, dip your pen in some new ink, and get to writing the next one.

Posted: 12/31/2011 10:43:52 AM EDT

[#43]

bang her best friend or her mom

Posted: 12/31/2011 10:47:17 AM EDT

[#44]

either go fuck or go shooting.

Posted: 12/31/2011 10:50:18 AM EDT

[#45]

Quoted:

Go fuck her sister or best friend.

Posted: 12/31/2011 10:54:52 AM EDT

[#46]

Quoted:

Quoted:
Cut the cord. Period.

No phone calls.
No e-mails.
No texts.

ZERO contact. Anything more will only prolong the misery.

+1
Block the ex, do whatever it takes to get some new pie and forget about her.

Kharn

Concur. You're history. When women say they need space or time it is over. Go meet some one else

Posted: 12/31/2011 10:59:13 AM EDT

[#47]

Quoted:

Quoted:
fuck it, move on

This can be taken literally (gigaty) or metaphorically

go have fun with your friends, go to the range, drink a few beers, do things that she hated you doing,

In general keep on going

she actually was happy that I would do all of those things

This post and the one after about being long distance lead me to believe that she's got her eye on someone and it's over. She's trying to help you get over the break-up. If you really want the closure, just cut all contact. She'll text you in a few day to "see how you're doing". Don't respond with "I wish we could get back together" or anything similar. Just tell her about the great day you had shooting, riding, whatever.

FWIW, you don't want a woman as a wife that can't handle long distance. She clearly doesn't feel the same about you and likely never will. Even when she starts texting it's because it's familiar and she wants to keep you close.

In 5 years she'll be texting you on major holidays about how she shouldn't have let you slip away. Just show them to your wife and laugh. That's what I do. I thank God for the one that got away.