Thanks, everyone. Even though his mom was my favorite relative on that side (she passed a few years ago), I honestly didn't know him very well.
He was always gone a lot growing up, so I actually knew his older brother a lot better.
He was my mom's age, though, and was like a brother to her... summers spent playing together, etc. She's taking it pretty damned hard.
I've been watching these threads, but didn't want to say anything until:
- We knew for sure he was amongst the dead
- It was public info
My mom wasn't at liberty to say, but I figured it out when she told me she was worried about one of her favorite cousins, and might have some more info in a few days/weeks.
She had told me a while back about him calling her before he went over there, so I figured it was either that something had happened to him, or that someone else in the family had cancer.