Posted: 3/10/2012 5:18:16 PM EDT
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The wife kids and I have been fighting off sickness for abut a week now. Fever, cough, body pains. On top of that I have a bulging disk in my lower back pressing on my syatic nerve. I'm about 3 weeks out from getting insurance at my new job.
Yesterday wife came home from work early because she couldn't stop coughing and was running a 104 temp. I was taking a day from work for the same reason and couldn't get out of bed. Wife got in bed with me and about an hour later she wakes up and said she was bleeding really bad. Said she was going to the er. I was pretty well passed out on meds so I couldn't drive or anything. About 2 hours later wife calls me said, "I'm pregnant" I was excited as this would be our 3rd and we have been trying for a 3rd for 2 years. As soon as she caught her breath she told me, "the baby doesn't have a heart beat" I fell to the floor. I was and am devastated. Around midnight they transferred my wife to a larger hospital for a d-c. Not knowing what a d-c was I googled it. I wasn't happy. It's pretty much the same as an abortion. I am extremely against abortion but I understand that she could get an infection and possibly die if they do not clean out the cervex. So I guess it had to be done. The baby was 9 weeks along, had arms, legs, head, eyes, and a heart with no beat. Anyone that aborts a healthy baby because they do not want children should have their hole seared shut permantally. |
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I'm sorry for your loss , my wife had one years ago , my daughter just had a miscarriage and resulting D-C. They (women) feel the loss more so than men , as it's a REAL part of them .
Don't feel bad about the D-C , IT"S NOT the same as an abortion , the child is already gone. At this point it's about your wife's health. Prayers. 
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| Last year in feb my wife and I were in a terrible accident. At the hospital right before they took her to be x-rayed they did a pregnancy test. Came back positive. I spent the next year dreading the very situation you are currently going through. Our son was born in September a bit early but fine. Im terribly sorry for what your going through, the feeling of being completely powerless is what was the worst part for me anyways. About the aborting a perfectly good baby you and I seem to be in complete agreement. |
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Sorry to hear, that's pretty rough. Her body knows what its doing and spontaneous abortions can happen without the woman even knowing she was pregnant. The D&C is very important, not only physically but emotionally too. Waiting to pass the fetus can take days or weeks, shes been through enough.
Some good R&R and she could even get pregnant after next cycle. Stay strong. |
Prayers inbound. 
A couple of years ago my wife and I lost a baby also. My wife was a few months along and went in for her regular appointment only to find out we had lost the baby. Needless to say, she was devastated. It was a hard road to travel but the loss brought her closer to God as He is the only true comfort. |
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I'm sorry for your loss.
My wife and I went through a similar situation. The day I passed my dissertation defense, we went to St. Louis to get the ultrasound to find out whether we were having a boy or a girl. Instead, we found the baby had no kidneys. We chose not to abort, and carried the baby to term. We had ninety minutes with our son |
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I'm sorry for your all's loss. It sucks, we been through it as well. You feel empty and just all around numb . Hang in the bro it gets better.
And after that happened to us, she got pregnant again and we had a healthy baby boy that is now 17 and getting good grades, is just an all around good kid. Things happen for a reason, and I wouldn't trade that pain for the son I ended up with . It just worked out. 
As for the back problem, I had a battle with the same thing for about 8 months. Leg would hurt through my ass cheeks and down to my ankle. I got an inversion table, and by the 3rd day of doing that, I was starting to get better. I have fully recovered and am pain free but still do the inversion a few times a week. I swear by it. I got a nice one off Craigslist for 60.00. I would have paid 1000.00 if I knew it would take the pain away. Good luck man, and keep your chin up .
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