Posted: 4/17/2011 5:01:38 PM EDT
| I woke up missing Paul so much. This shit is so hard! My heart breaks everytime our kids ask when he's coming home. I'm just all down in the dumps and I'm never like this. |
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Hard on him too, but you need to be Strong for the kids, Some of been their and did that . I pray for you  I think its harder on him actually. He has always been very protective of us and now he's not here to do so. I am very careful not to show any of my sad emotions to our 2 children. Like I said I'm not normally like this and up until today I have been fine. I guess its just one of those days. Thank you for your prayers. 
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Hmmm...I get down in the dumps...I get my rear down to the church...and it perks me right up...lets me know I got friends.
We attend a local Penacostal church that's very laid back. Not much ritual to it. They start off singing happy songs..transitions into the sermon...all happy stuff. I had missed a couple Sundays in a row...17 year old daughter has been the shits....my 'spirit-o-meter' was about on empty.  ....Church perked me up..daughter heard a sermon that seemed aimed right at her..and she has been doing better. I'm ready for the week now!
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When he gets home, the kids will hug him and keep on touching him. The next day, they will follow him around but not know what to say to him or interact with him.
I know it only too well because I remember exactly what it felt like as a small child when my dad was gone to places like Gitmo, Spain, Antarctica, Viet Nam, the Phillipines, etc. and he came home. I'm one of the few around that remembers the old Will Rogers Airport really well. We'd have to wait there for his plane to come in. It cost a dime to use the toilet and often my mother didn't have the dime. So we'd slide under the door to get to the toilet to crap. I remember going to a father/son function as a Cub Scout and I was there by myself. I was the only Scout there without a family member with him. Mom couldn't leave my little sisters and I didn't have relative close to go with me. But I wasn't a bit shy telling anyone who asked (and they did) my dad was in Gitmo keeping Castro from invading the US! The point is the kids will adjust fairy quickly and you will too to the fact he is out of actual physical touch but not really "gone". You and the kids will be OK. And you had better be for his sake. He doesn't need any unnecessary worry and concern about you and the kids anymore than he has already. So get tough and don't let it get you down. You're going to be fine, the kids will be fine, and so will PAUL! 
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When he gets home, the kids will hug him and keep on touching him. The next day, they will follow him around but not know what to say to him or interact with him. I know it only too well because I remember exactly what it felt like as a small child when my dad was gone to places like Gitmo, Spain, Antarctica, Viet Nam, the Phillipines, etc. and he came home. I'm one of the few around that remembers the old Will Rogers Airport really well. We'd have to wait there for his plane to come in. It cost a dime to use the toilet and often my mother didn't have the dime. So we'd slide under the door to get to the toilet to crap. I remember going to a father/son function as a Cub Scout and I was there by myself. I was the only Scout there without a family member with him. Mom couldn't leave my little sisters and I didn't have relative close to go with me. But I wasn't a bit shy telling anyone who asked (and they did) my dad was in Gitmo keeping Castro from invading the US! The point is the kids will adjust fairy quickly and you will too to the fact he is out of actual physical touch but not really "gone". You and the kids will be OK. And you had better be for his sake. He doesn't need any unnecessary worry and concern about you and the kids anymore than he has already. So get tough and don't let it get you down. You're going to be fine, the kids will be fine, and so will PAUL!
I know we will be fine. We are a strong family unit. Its just been one of those days where theres not alot to do and my mind has been spinning. Tomorrow WILL be better. I have class and the kids will be in school. There's lots of things to keep us busy in the week. I may take my grandmother out to lunch after class. 
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When he gets home, the kids will hug him and keep on touching him. The next day, they will follow him around but not know what to say to him or interact with him. I know it only too well because I remember exactly what it felt like as a small child when my dad was gone to places like Gitmo, Spain, Antarctica, Viet Nam, the Phillipines, etc. and he came home. I'm one of the few around that remembers the old Will Rogers Airport really well. We'd have to wait there for his plane to come in. It cost a dime to use the toilet and often my mother didn't have the dime. So we'd slide under the door to get to the toilet to crap. I remember going to a father/son function as a Cub Scout and I was there by myself. I was the only Scout there without a family member with him. Mom couldn't leave my little sisters and I didn't have relative close to go with me. But I wasn't a bit shy telling anyone who asked (and they did) my dad was in Gitmo keeping Castro from invading the US! The point is the kids will adjust fairy quickly and you will too to the fact he is out of actual physical touch but not really "gone". You and the kids will be OK. And you had better be for his sake. He doesn't need any unnecessary worry and concern about you and the kids anymore than he has already. So get tough and don't let it get you down. You're going to be fine, the kids will be fine, and so will PAUL!
I know we will be fine. We are a strong family unit. Its just been one of those days where theres not alot to do and my mind has been spinning. Tomorrow WILL be better. I have class and the kids will be in school. There's lots of things to keep us busy in the week. I may take my grandmother out to lunch after class. Well if they turn out like Dan, you're screwed  
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I know we will be fine. We are a strong family unit. Its just been one of those days where theres not alot to do and my mind has been spinning. Tomorrow WILL be better. I have class and the kids will be in school. There's lots of things to keep us busy in the week. I may take my grandmother out to lunch after class. Well if they turn out like Dan, you're screwed Ignore Chuck. He's just jealous of my incredible good looks, superior intelligence, and overwhelming modesty!
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I know we will be fine. We are a strong family unit. Its just been one of those days where theres not alot to do and my mind has been spinning. Tomorrow WILL be better. I have class and the kids will be in school. There's lots of things to keep us busy in the week. I may take my grandmother out to lunch after class. Well if they turn out like Dan, you're screwed Ignore Chuck. He's just jealous of my incredible good looks, superior intelligence, and overwhelming modesty!
I might be a little jealous too! 
Today has been better. I went t class and after a few hours of listening to the sub mumble so fast you couldn't understand anything, I left and took my grandmom out to lunch. I've come to the conclusion that I have to stay busy otherwise I'm a nervous wreck. I will not allow myself to be the crazy wife who couldn't handle deployment. So, Im going to keep myself busy by doing what ever possible. I can't wait until School is out. I'm spending the summer with his family. I'll have lots of fun things to do with the kids and good family.
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I might be a little jealous too!
Today has been better. I went t class and after a few hours of listening to the sub mumble so fast you couldn't understand anything, I left and took my grandmom out to lunch. I've come to the conclusion that I have to stay busy otherwise I'm a nervous wreck. I will not allow myself to be the crazy wife who couldn't handle deployment. So, Im going to keep myself busy by doing what ever possible. I can't wait until School is out. I'm spending the summer with his family. I'll have lots of fun things to do with the kids and good family. You're going to do just fine.
It's good that you have the kids to keep you busy and his family close. You're way ahead of so many others with just those two factors it's unbelievable. And Paul is lucky to have you as his wife! If you need support, we're here! |
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Leah , is their a women support group for you, call the unit and they may help with a number . Hope you doing better today . FRG. My wife could never play in that group. 
Maybe one person who she could talk to or have a friend that all , hell I won`t go to the VFW
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I might be a little jealous too!
Today has been better. I went t class and after a few hours of listening to the sub mumble so fast you couldn't understand anything, I left and took my grandmom out to lunch. I've come to the conclusion that I have to stay busy otherwise I'm a nervous wreck. I will not allow myself to be the crazy wife who couldn't handle deployment. So, Im going to keep myself busy by doing what ever possible. I can't wait until School is out. I'm spending the summer with his family. I'll have lots of fun things to do with the kids and good family. You're going to do just fine.
It's good that you have the kids to keep you busy and his family close. You're way ahead of so many others with just those two factors it's unbelievable. And Paul is lucky to have you as his wife! If you need support, we're here! His family isn't close haha. They live in Austin, Tx. I'm close with mine but they tend to get on my nerves. I do have some other women I'm friends with who have husbands with Paul. They truely are the only ones who know what its like. I get the same questions from family and friends thats been asked a thousand times and it gets annoying. I do not care to hear " aren't you afraid he is going to be killed" Yes I am but that does not mean I want to be asked and reminded every damn day!! Or, Why did you let him reinlist?" Umm, He's a grown man. Its somehing he felt like he needed to do and my job is to support him. Enough said! Oh and my favorite " what if he gets PTSD and comes back flips out and kills you and the kids?" Really? That one just makes me want to slapped them right there! The nerve of some people!!! I'm having issues with my brother over our truck he totaled. Stress seems to come at you when things are already hard. I try not t worry much on that though, but its always in the back of my mind. I'll be glad to be in Texas. His mom is awesome. As far as "mother inlaws" go I got the pick of the litter! I am lucky to have Paul. Theres no telling what my life would be like had we not found each other. He really is my best friend and I would do anyhing in the world for that man of mine.
Also, thank you all so much for the encouragement and support. I know I say this a lot but it really does mean a lot to me. I know where to come if I need a laugh or to just let off steam. Thanks again. |
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Gal, you got lots of support here. Just overlook that grumpy old fart Chuck. 
And be careful what you believe when Nden says something.
You're gonna do OK while he's gone. It's not going to be easy but you can handle it and you'll do just fine. Says the "grumpy old peckerwood"
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Gal, you got lots of support here. Just overlook that grumpy old fart Chuck.
And be careful what you believe when Nden says something.
You're gonna do OK while he's gone. It's not going to be easy but you can handle it and you'll do just fine. Says the "grumpy WISE, HANDSOME, MODEST old peckerwood" That's MR. PECKERWOOD to you Chuck!
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He will be home soon, doesn't seem like that long ago I spoke to my cousin (he is like my brother) before he left to afganistan, he spent over a year there and I got to hug him this weekend when he came home. Time will pass and the god lord will bring Paul home safe to you and your family. He will be in my family's prayers.
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He will be home soon, doesn't seem like that long ago I spoke to my cousin (he is like my brother) before he left to afganistan, he spent over a year there and I got to hug him this weekend when he came home. Time will pass and the god lord will bring Paul home safe to you and your family. He will be in my family's prayers. Thank you so much.
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