Posted: 4/17/2009 9:09:36 PM EDT
Okay, so my SIL (the cool one who shoots, has her CPL, and would happily say "F*ck Ob*m*!" to any Liberal's face, not the crazy Lib one) gave me her "permission" to start dating again. 
So my question is this; what IS the length of time a widower should wait before starting to date again? Honestly, I have no idea, but I'd really like to know, ya know? Thanks in advance to those that respond. |
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I would say it depends on the widower.
My grandmother never dated after my grandfather passed away. She lived the rest of her life by herself. He passed away in 1954 and she passed away in 2002. Honestly, you are the only one who knows if you are ready. If you are ready, I say go for it. |
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Yes, there is no set time limit, moral or otherwise.....................it is something that is entirely up to you.
Only you can answer this one for sure. If you think you're at that point in your life, on all the various levels, and need companionship, then absolutely, there is nothing stopping you, and it would be totally understandable. Now, I've never met you, sir, but you have indicated that your wife who had passed away was a fine and outstanding woman. As such, if I may be so bold, I'm sure she's looking down on you, and wanting you to be happy, content, and fulfilled in life. She would want you to be happy. If you feel truly ready, then you are ready. I wish you the best. |
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Now, I've never met you, sir, but you have indicated that your wife who had passed away was a fine and outstanding woman. As such, if I may be so bold, I'm sure she's looking down on you, and wanting you to be happy, content, and fulfilled in life. She would want you to be happy. This. My Grandmother lived alone the additional 20 something years of her life. My wifes mother had made contact with an old flame in less than 2 months.  I would think somewhere in between would be acceptable. And like Vini said ...
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First of all, I am sorry for your loss. Losing your wife has got to be a pretty hard event. Got kids? That might make things different, depending on their ages, and how they see a replacement of their mom. That would need to be handled carefully to protect their feelings. Her family has given you the go-ahead, a least one of them, so it might be nice to start seeking out some companionship.
As far as targets of opportunity go, you might want to stray outside of the easy pickings who knew your wife to avoid the pitty fucks. Go find someone who knows nothing about you and grow another relationship. Good luck to you. There is absolutely nothing wrong with seeking out another mate. Every creature in the world does it, and you deserve to be happy. Keep that in mind. |