thanks for the very informative reply Ikor! (see if this sounds like a feasible explanation...)
i called glock, and explained the situation to the guy at the tech line. he offered to check, and repair the gun for free, if there was something wrong with it. they have very GOOD customer service! he also said he has seen hundreds of cases where the shooter was either breaking his wrist, OR pushing down on the gun during recoil. he said with a heavy slide like the 29, it is critical to not slow the slide cycle down, or it will malfunction.
i had a shooter come over tonight and watch me shoot a box. he said i was not breaking my wrist, but i was trying to force the nose of the gun down (which the glock guy said was a no-no). i finally got off a few mags without problems, by easing up on my death grip.
for now, i am going back to my 1911. it fits my hand better, and my accuracy is much better than with the glock (i am used to a minimum of trigger pull and travel). i may trade the glock, or i will get some experience with it this summer... and try it again.