Posted: 9/6/2006 9:46:40 AM EDT
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Ok so i got my pemit in August and have been carrying since i got it.. Now i have been around my girlfriends family everyday since then for the most part.. They didnt know i carried until recently when it slipped out of my girlfriends mouth on accident.. Ever since then her mom has been freaking out not letting her other kids ride in the car with me or not allowing them to go to my vehicle to get stuff... her mom has never came out and formally told me she doesnt want me to carry around them but she has been telling my girl that she does not approve of this.. I respect the fact that she does not wish for me to carry in her house and i take it off before entering their home. But my girlfriend said that she doesnt want me to carry around her kids while in public too, which i feel is bull.. I know that it is her wishes for me not to carry around her kids and i can respect that to a point but when it comes to my or my family/her families safety that is where i draw the line... What can i do to show her that it is safe and that it is my RIGHT to carry and i will when ever i feel the need to except in her home... |
Safety often has nothing to do with it. Some folks just don't want their kids around guns, or guns around them. And while it is your right to carry, it is her RIGHT to control where her kids go and under what conditions. |
| Maybe you can talk to her about what a whacko world we all live in today and suggest that instead of her being unhappy about you wanting to be prepared to face whatever comes your way, she should instead be glad that God forbid, a situation happens where her family is in serious danger, you may actually be able to stop the threat. It's a great idea if you can get the inlaws to the range. And it may take some time, but she will get used to it. |
If you plan to carry your relationship with your GF to a higher level, you had better pay attention to this. This is a HUGE red flag. This behavior will NOT stop at just this particluar subject. If I am reading this correctly, your GF has children and doesn't want you to carry your firearm around HER children. If I got that right, then I would suggest that you take your GF to a range, preferably where you two can have some privacy, and demonstrate your firearms competence. If she shows that she is comfortable with your handling and such, try to introduce her to shooting. Be sure to LISTEN to her. Don't overlook anything that she says while you are with her at the range. You will, if you pay attention, discover how she thinks. Her attitude and problem solving skills will become appearant. You will have to decide if you like what you discover or not. One more thing, I wouldn't mention her children at all during this range trip or any afterward until she changes her mind. |
sorry man i said that all wrong.. my girls mom is telling my girl that she doesnt want me to carry around her kids.. so im not supposed to carry around my girls brother and sister |
In that case, just disregard "mothers" desires while in public. You have a permit and she is obviously not going to protect you or her own children. So, go forth and pack heat. My warning in red still stands though. Ignore it at your own peril. |
What a bunch of BS. I understand if she doesn't want you carrying in her house but I'd be damned if I am going to disarm in public or MY HOUSE just because her kids are there. A holstered gun is safer than being locked in the car, no kids or theives to get it. Tell the MIL that her kids don't have to be around you. Liberalism is a disease. Heck, if anything she should be happy her kids have a personal bodyguard 
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| I had a simialar problem when my wife and I first got together. Her mother and step-father we totally anti gun. My wife had a daughter from a previous relationship and I got lectured every time I was around her stepfather (even in my own house) about carrying and having guns in the house with a child. There were many occassions that it turned into a huge arguement but I never caved. I had many conversations with the wife about it and told her I grew up with guns and they will always be a part of my life no matter what. I also told her that she can either accept that and also be part of my life or not. Obviously she chose to stick around or she wouldn't be my wife today but there were still the issues with the in-laws. She explained to her parents about how safe I am with the guns and that I would never put any of them in danger, ever. It took a few years but they've finally come around. I can now talk to her stepfather about guns and he has even helped my find deals on some I was looking for (He co-owns some pawn shops). I think if you follow what I did, not give in, show them you're responsible, and help them understand why guns aren't bad when used/carried properly they'll also come around. Like other have said, start with your girl and work from there. |
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Allright. It's "showdown" time. Sit your GFs family down (w/o your piece this time) TELL them that (in case they didn't know) the world is a dangerous place. IF YOU REALLY ARE ... and have proven it in the past ... tell them that you are a responsible individual... with or without a weapon. Tell them that you consider it one of your responsibilities to defend yourself AND those that you love and care for. Having made those true and sincere statements to them, tell them that you will continue to be armed, legally, when and where you choose, and that it is their choice to accompany you or not. Tell them that you believe that evil people should not have complete choice as to how they treat others, that you will not look for trouble, but that you believe that "you & yours" will be safer if you utilize the intelligence (and tools) that God gave you for that purpose. After that it's up to them. They decide. You have already. Class dismissed. Stay safe |