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Posted: 10/21/2002 7:47:57 PM EDT
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............it had been a while since I snooped this site out. Thought I would stop in and see what was new on the darkside and say HI. You guys seem to have everything under control. Lately I have been chasing this cute little skirt and haven't had much time to troll here (or anywhere else). It is amazing just how damn busy dem fems can keep you! I'll try to get back into the swing of writing nonsense and pissing you all off. Live long and prosper Mark |
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so...is she real...or imaginary? lol! so, what are you doing to earn a living now? i STILL have this urge to go out and buy me a tow truck to cruise around in. hmmm? hey...maybe they make a model that will fit my s-10??? hell, the bed is ready to fall off anyway. off to surf ashton's and century's and holme's websites! |
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Sure. What's your question? How long have you known her/gone out? If you marry her don't expect her to change...at all! What you see is what you get. Goes for just about everyone. You will only see more of their bad and annoying habits. Later on that's no big deal. You adjust. Live together for at least a year before you marry. It takes that long to even get to know someone. Don't have kids for 3 years. Try to keep your wife home for your kids until they are three years old. If some lame ass in a daycare is going to raise them don't bother. It ain't right. Don't ever throw the towel in too easily. Marriages break up because it is so easy. Don't let it be easy. Its a committment. Not enough people look at it that way. Almost left my wife 10-20 times. Now I thank God I didn't. Choose a profession that allows time for your family. Whatever you think you'll get--expect less. Any time lost is just plain lost. It's a tough balancing act. One I haven't done so well at. Fight fair. You're going to fight but there are rules. Everyone needs to understand that. If you take cheap shots they will not be forgotten. Don't cheat. You'll always regret it and it just ain't right. Don't hit her. Ever. For ANYTHING. If she has you that pissed then you didn't choose well. Choose well. A bad ex-spouse will make your life a living hell. Seen plenty of my friends go through it. If you've already got kids get a prenup. You need to protect your children. All of them. Man to Man: Look after your own finances. Have some kind of a savings account under just your name. Not just for you. But for all of you. If you hand over all the money to her expect that she'll spend 110%. This way you'll have a little fall back cash and every now and then a new toy. She won't like you buying expensive toys. She'll need a few also. So add about 50-100% onto your purchase price. Avoid debt. Avoid debt. I said that twice for a reason. It may become the greatest stressor to your marriage. Money is the number one reason for marital discord, etc. Especially avoid credit card debt. Keep only one and limit its purchases. If you can't pay for it right away don't buy it. The interest really adds up. A home mortgage is ok, of course. CHOOSE WELL |
Some profound advice there (especially from a jarhead).  To add to that (the little that I can), I can't stress enough how DIFFICULT marriage is. It takes a lot of work (especially in the first five to seven years) but it is well worth it in the long run. I think one of the biggest reasons marriages don't last is that one or both parties aren't willing to put the effort into it that a successful marriage requires. I'd have to give the other biggest reason is that people don't give it enough time, plain and simple. The first two years are all fun and sex. You're both enjoying one anothers company and the bumps in the road haven't been that large yet. Between years three and seven to nine are the worst. I honestly believe that the average couple in America just doesn't wait to get to this point. Marriages that fail after ten or more years are just completely beyond me. |
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...naw man, just thought you might want to "share the wealth" with us old married farts! Dr J, A priest gave me very simular advise almost 17 years ago. I will say in our case it has worked well! The only thing I would as is men marry women for who they are now, and women marry men for who they can see them be. ie Men don't expect change women do. ooooh, I almost forgot what my father told my wife the night before our wedding... remember whats his is your, and whats yours is your own! |
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