Posted: 10/26/2006 8:21:49 AM EDT
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My husband has been on swingshift for years waiting for the right opening and seniority to move to days, two weeks ago he finally made it. Unfortunately the crew on days is so into games and out to get anyone if they feel like it. They had a guy they wanted in hubby's position so they did all they could to stop him from getting the position including going to the union and now hubby says he can tell they are up to something behind his back. I have been praying for him to go to days for a long time, I have been raising our youngest two pretty much by myself and now our son has reached that dreaded age of 12 and has started middle school. What a little s--t he has become  He needs his dad so much right now and I need help getting through these teen years. I have done this before with the older two and it was hard!!!! Throw in the fact that these two are adopted and black where we aren't (it isn't an issue for us but my son brings it up alot)and I don't want to do this with a weekend only daddy in the picture. Please pray that no weapon formed against my husband shall prosper and that my faith stays strong that he is where God wants him to be. Thanks for letting me rant..... I should be off to the gym to burn off this stress but instead I am sitting here stewing about things that are out of my control. Any advice on raising teens would help also, it's been awhile. I soooooo do not want to go through this roller coaster ride again and yet the years are upon me.................... |
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My very best friend (a local PD Detective) is currently going through some personal and professional grief due to Departmental politics and much of it has to do with schedule and shift -- I feel for you husband in this. You, he, and your family will remain in my prayers. (And my apologies for the Y-chromosome intrusion.  )
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+2 on that one. Also hubby and I have always approached everything as a team. When Alan was going through that rough period, we had to do the good cop bad cop type thing with him. Thankfully he only gave a run for our money for a couple of years. It does get better. |
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Thanks all for your prayers, I feel so bad for him...... who wants to go to work where everyone is out to get you. All I can do is support him and hope for the best. Let me give an example of these guys......a few years back a guy planned this vacation with his wife and kids for in the spring time, I think it was to Disney. They made all their plans and bought the tickets. The guys have to put in for their vacations by Jan. 31 for the following year so on the last day, one of the other guys walked in and put in for the same week. Guess who had more seniority. I don't remember if his family had to go without him or they were able to change reservations but it was a big hassle for them. Later that spring the guys were talking at lunch and it was time for the other guy to take that week off. Someone asked him if he had big plans for his vacation and he said nope, just staying home. When someone asked him why he bumped the one guy he said, I don't like him and I can do it  That is what these guys are like. go fiqure |
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Don't lose faith. God has a reason for everything and everyone. We may not understand them all the time (like now) but you just have to trust and believe. I'm a firm believer that God puts hardships in your life to make you a stronger person. You and your husband just have to keep on moving forward and you will overcome all of this. I'm reading Job right now in the Bible. When I read your post, it made me think of that. Job has such a great life but then he gets hit with all these hardships. Like Job, you just have to keep your eyes to the Lord and love your family. Remember what's important in life...you have a wonderful husband and wonderful children (even if they are goign through a phase lol). God has already blessed you in so many ways. |
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Sorry to hear about your hubbys job. Hopefully things will get better, once hes past the initiation stage. As far as the 12 year old... Been there. Done that. I can offer suggestions for specific problems, and I'm here if you ever want to talk/vent or just RANT about his behavior. (Shoot me an IM anytime!) I have a very good friend with a son the same age as my oldest...and we laugh about how rotten our boys have been. Sometimes laughing with somebody else can make you realize that you aren't alone. Anyway, Prayers sent. 
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