Posted: 4/7/2005 10:56:44 AM EDT
Sorry, but another useless thread without pics.  Seriously, your mom is probably just worried that her little girl is going to get hurt or worse end up like the female deputy sheriff in the Atlanta Courthouse shooting a few weeks ago. Give her time, take her shooting. She might like it. |
 Men!Listen Steyr13 I have advice for you but before I start keep in mind that I'm going to assume that your mother is very traditional and very protective of you [which isn't a bad thing]. Even though 20 is young in my books your an adult. You're responsible for your actions and you have to follow your heart and pay the consequences of your actions. You probably have a long road ahead of you to reach your dream and it's not going to be reached with out a lot of soul searching and dedication on your part. If I were in your shoes knowing what I know now I would sit my mother down look her in the eye and have a heart to heart talk with her. Tell her that you love and respect her and appreciate her concern and her advice but ultimately she has to accept your decisions. Remind her that she raised you to be who you are and that you feel as if she's minipulating you by talking down to you and not respecting you for your goals. Be respectful but ask that she be the same to you. Remind her that you appreciate her advice and understand that she's older and have input that you might over look and let her know that you'll listen to her concerns and advise and weigh that in balance with your goals. Leave her with the understanding that you are an adult, that these are your dreams and that they are to be as well as you are to be respected. It's hard to play a game with someone if they do not play along with you. Don't do something like go to your Dad or her friends and ask them to talk to her. Be direct and to the point. Don't argue with her [you have about as much chance of changing her mind as she does you]. Your goal is to get her to accept your decision - right or wrong it is your decision. Best of luck to you. Patty |