Posted: 10/9/2011 1:27:09 AM EDT
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Hey ladies I need some girl help. Long story short I met a girl last March and we started dating in June. A few problems occurred due to immaturity on both parts. Anyway, we lasted until June of this year and i broke up with her. I had been working on a pickup project since November and was really concerned with that. Anyway, in August of this year we started hanging out again and over summer she matured and I actually like her a way lot now. I realize my mistakes and there were quite a few, but I was an asshole and didn't think of it at the time. Anyway, she doesn't really believe that I am serious and love her, but I think that I really do. I could have a couple of other girls but I don't care about them. Anyway, I've been stringing her on for a couple of days about a surprise I had for her. I plan to take her to a movie and then have something to the effect of " I love you (and then her name)." It will cost me $150 dollars to get a small message in the movie advertising in the beginning. Personally I don't care about money I make it to spend.
She will be bringing her best friend who I like a lot. Thus far she knows that we are meeting at a specific time, and we are watching a movie. This plan sound good? |
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Honestly, I think that is a bit cheesy... kinda cute though. If you guys haven't been seeing each other (again) this time around for very long, I think that the movie thing is a bit of an expensive gesture.
Paying $150 bucks for a quick flash on a movie screen doesn’t really prove anything. Unless this is something she's been dreaming of and wished someone would do it for her. Instead you should start showing her by actually DOING things- like washing her car, or drawing her a bath, or picking up a pizza and a 6-pack when she’s had a bad day…. Those things are WAY better than paying someone to tell her you love her. |
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I have to agree with the above. There are smaller, less expensive gestures that would mean just as much. You also never know if that would embaress the hell out of her. That's something you do for a proposal not just an i love you.
Make her dinner, buy her favorite flowers or candy, show interest in her day to day activity. |
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Be her best friend. (If you can't, it's not meant to be.)
Be mature, own up to mistakes you make (and keep your eyes open to make sure she owns up to hers.) Be honest, yet tactful. (Again, you want her to be honest too.) Love takes time, and if you take the time for it, the better off you'll be. Ask yourself "If all it takes to win her/him over is a real quick XYZ, is that the type of person I'm looking for?" Masterpieces aren't made in a day. Neither is a relationship. |
| Most girls I know would prefer that moment be intimate. The first "I love you" in a relationship is special and not something every girl necessarily wants to share with the world. Also, I think we're all a little unclear if you are currently dating or just "hanging out". If it's just hanging out right now, she may be overwhelmed by a movie theater proclamation. This could lead to her true feelings coming to light which may or may not be a good thing. Hope that's helpful! Give us a little more info and maybe we can give a little more insight into the situation. |