Posted: 1/14/2010 12:08:52 PM EDT
| Shooting is my #1 hobby and I will never date a woman who is not OK with that. What I usually do is get to know them and let them see that I am a normal guy before I let them know that I am into guns. So far I guess I have been luck as I yet to date a woman who is not OK with me and my guns. It seems like many guys here have wives or girlfriends that do not care for them owning guns or even outright don't like it but just tolerate it. This makes me wonder about how they approach women when dating. Poll coming. |
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Life's too short to deal w/ women that can't handle my computer or gun hobbies. I let it be known before I ever went out w/ them I work part time at a range and shoot. If they couldn't handle that I didn't waste my time w/ them. It all depends on if you're looking to get laid or find a partner. |
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It should be no different than if you collected stamps. It doesn't have to be the first thing out of your mouth, but if the subject comes up, then fine. Certainly no reason to apologize for it or hide it. I don't understand why people are so defensive about it–––– with girlfriends, doctors, whatever.
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Quoted: This makes me wonder about how they approach women when dating. Poll coming. Every girlfriend that I've ever had (except for the first one) I brought it up almost immediately...if they were anti then it was: "buh bye now, hope you had a nice flight" ...as for the one that got excited when I talked about guns and talked about growing up shooting a lot...I married her.  |
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Kinda like politics, I find that guns are a separate subject than pie. Of course, if she tried the "it's me or the guns" gambit, well, bye  I let them know almost right away. I don't introduce myself to women as 'Hey, i'm eclark and i love guns' However, the subject of guns will come up on the first date. Any way to fit guns into the situation and the anti's usually come out right away and you can peacefully eject. I will do my best during that first date to get another date with any of them, even the anit's, to the range for a second date. Guns and shooting are a huge part of my life and i will not be with a woman who makes my hobby a chore. |
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This is relevant to my situation. I said get to know her first then tell her which is my SOP.
I have a serious question for the hive though. I've gone on a couple dates to dinner, and/or a movie, and left my CCW at home because I was worried about my date bumping into it or feeling when she hugs me goodnight. I'm old ok, we don't go straight to bed. I'm not happy about that, especially since one of the dates occurred at a restaurant at a mall where there was a recent shooting incident. Not a good way to relax. How do others with a CCW handle dating? Apologize if this is a hijack but it seemed relevant. |
| I just went out on a first date last weekend. She brought up that she has a CCW ( I think my Larue screen saver and the Ziploc bag of empty brass on my desk might have made her bring it up), and I flashed her my G23. She said "nice glock, but I don't like plastic guns". We are foing out again this weekend.....I'm at defcon 69. |
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Given you're in Philly I'm amazed you found women who were cool with it. I knew a couple, but only a couple. Most, even when die-hard repub/conservative, were gun-phobic or at best, lady fudds. Really? I live in Philly, heck, even as a grad student, and find that most people are not gun-phobic. Most ask me if I would take them to the range to learn to shoot. |
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I'm already married to firearms and firearms-related endeavors.
If a woman has a problem with that, she can find some Birkenstock-clad, dope-smoking, vegan to entertain her because I don't want her. I don't care who the woman is, there are plenty more to replace her if she's not for you. Little secret: Women are everywhere. More than a few are nuttier than squirrel turds and hating guns definitely would fit into that description. John |
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This is relevant to my situation. I said get to know her first then tell her which is my SOP. I have a serious question for the hive though. I've gone on a couple dates to dinner, and/or a movie, and left my CCW at home because I was worried about my date bumping into it or feeling when she hugs me goodnight. I'm old ok, we don't go straight to bed. I'm not happy about that, especially since one of the dates occurred at a restaurant at a mall where there was a recent shooting incident. Not a good way to relax. How do others with a CCW handle dating? Apologize if this is a hijack but it seemed relevant. A good solution for this would be pocket carry, something small like an LCP,P3at, or J-frame. Its a good investment for times like this or other times where you rather not carry IWB. |
I had a first date last Friday... after dinner/movie came back to my place, being a firearms owner was one of the first things I mentioned. She said she didn't care too much and didn't have a problem with them, but did say she was against CCW because they're the people that shoot themselves the most 
2/3 isn't bad for now, keeping up pursuit. It would not be possible for me to have a relationship with an anti, firearmsare way too much of who I am and what I do to work otherwise. |