Posted: 12/31/2009 2:53:40 PM EDT
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Well I made an account a few days ago. I've just been really honest and have gotten a lot of great prospects. So far so good.
I have three ladies I'm 'communicating' with right now. I think I'm really going to like the guided communication. It seems like it will let you get an idea of the other person before you jump right in to calling them. Having to pay seems like it weeds out some of the sketchy people and I like that you can't browse profiles. Any one have any success stories? Horror stories? |
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I signed up in mid 2008. Had a few contacts going into guided communication... of which three made it through. Met one and it was obvious no chemistry. Continued with the other two. One there was good communication, but sometimes two or three days with no response. The third went to communication with regular email and then a face to face.
We dated for about 14 months and was married in late November of this year. We are best friends and soul-mates. I never dreamed it could work so well. She knows about a half-dozen couples who met then married via eHarmony. It does work! |
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Not quite the same thing, buuuut, my hubby and I are an internet hook-up. I went on Yahoo personals on a dare (back in the day when it was free, yes, it was free once) and he was new in town looking for people with a similar interest (just moved into town after graduating college). I picked 3 people for my "dare" and he was one of them. It will be 12 years come January, married 7 as of this past October. We've had our rough patches, no doubt. These past two years have been the roughest and both of us have taken a long, hard look at being single parents, sadly (there might be something to that "seven year itch" thing after all). I still don't think there's anybody else out there that could be a better match though. I wish you well. |
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had a friend who met a gal and they got married(the stores of the NON winners are great though, 1st date ender lines he had "so you dont ahve any thing i should worry about right, cuz i only brought one needle", ) but i did online dating met a gal, emails for a week or so, then face to face decided to go from breakfast to a movie took my car, going down 4 lane road in fairbanks in middle of january at 45 and she YANKS the Ebrake with no warning. it was all i could do to not die, once igot to the side of the road safely she was ordered out of the car and the date ended(as did my online dating).
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After my divorce I used both match.com and eHarmony. eHarmony sent me a bunch of fatties and 1 decent girl but nothing that was worth marrying. Match was alot easier to use with the exception of ALOT of trial and error. Weeding out the whack jobs was hard at first but after a couple of months you could find the good ones. My wife and I met on Match. I am not saying one is better than the other but like with anything else, results for people will vary. |
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E Harmony, run away! Google E Harmony complaints and you will soon figure out why! A couple of years ago I made the mistake of signing up without really doing any research, that was a huge mistake! I signed up for 90 days, I specificly specified NO AUTOMATIC RENEWAL, I just wanted to try them out, naturally I specified an age range and distance for my matches. They ignored the age range specified and also ignored the distance specified, when they are sending you matches that are 20-30 years older than you wanted, and I specified 100 miles maximum distance, and they were sending me matches from as far away as 2,000 miles! I'd done some online dating before with mixed results, I NEVER contact or correspond with someone who doesn't have a photo posted, even then you can't trust the photos, quite often the photos are very old, like a hundred pounds old! In a couple of cases I found people using a completely fake photo, a photo of someone else entirely! Specific to E Harmony they do a lot of free weekends, so you get contacted by somebody that's on a free weekend, and their weekend expired before you even got the message, or you contact someone that's on a free weekend, but they can't respond if they don't sign up, so that was wasted. So as my time is running out I haven't found anyone that I was interested in, so a few days before my time was up I went to the website to cancel my membership, it turned out they had automatically renewed my membership about two weeks before it was due to expire, they had changed my setting to "automatic renewal" from the "don't renew automatically"!  So I contacted their customer service by email and they told me I was renewed and couldn't resign till the new expiration date, and it wasn't negotiable! So at that time I googled E Harmony complaints and found out this was their normal business practice!!! I had a couple more exchanges with customer service, they wouldn't even talk about backing down till I told them I would dispute the charge on my credit card, at that point they finally backed off and credited my credit card back.Their commercials sound real nice, but they are just a scam! |
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E Harmony, run away! Google E Harmony complaints and you will soon figure out why! A couple of years ago I made the mistake of signing up without really doing any research, that was a huge mistake! I signed up for 90 days, I specificly specified NO AUTOMATIC RENEWAL, I just wanted to try them out, naturally I specified an age range and distance for my matches. They ignored the age range specified and also ignored the distance specified, when they are sending you matches that are 20-30 years older than you wanted, and I specified 100 miles maximum distance, and they were sending me matches from as far away as 2,000 miles! I'd done some online dating before with mixed results, I NEVER contact or correspond with someone who doesn't have a photo posted, even then you can't trust the photos, quite often the photos are very old, like a hundred pounds old! In a couple of cases I found people using a completely fake photo, a photo of someone else entirely! Specific to E Harmony they do a lot of free weekends, so you get contacted by somebody that's on a free weekend, and their weekend expired before you even got the message, or you contact someone that's on a free weekend, but they can't respond if they don't sign up, so that was wasted. So as my time is running out I haven't found anyone that I was interested in, so a few days before my time was up I went to the website to cancel my membership, it turned out they had automatically renewed my membership about two weeks before it was due to expire, they had changed my setting to "automatic renewal" from the "don't renew automatically"!
So I contacted their customer service by email and they told me I was renewed and couldn't resign till the new expiration date, and it wasn't negotiable! So at that time I googled E Harmony complaints and found out this was their normal business practice!!! I had a couple more exchanges with customer service, they wouldn't even talk about backing down till I told them I would dispute the charge on my credit card, at that point they finally backed off and credited my credit card back.
Their commercials sound real nice, but they are just a scam! What happened to you with the distance thing was the question about whether you would consider relocating. If you answered anything other than "FUCK NO!", they will send you matches from all over the freakin place. I gave eHarmony a run or two. Mostly fatties and undesirable women locally. Did get a few hotties, but they were usually pretty far away. |
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I signed up in mid 2008. Had a few contacts going into guided communication... of which three made it through. Met one and it was obvious no chemistry. Continued with the other two. One there was good communication, but sometimes two or three days with no response. The third went to communication with regular email and then a face to face. We dated for about 14 months and was married in late November of this year. We are best friends and soul-mates. I never dreamed it could work so well. She knows about a half-dozen couples who met then married via eHarmony. It does work! Congratulations. 
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I've got to be honest, I've always doubted those internet hook up sites. Especially after I signed up for free and realized they wanted to pimp the girls to me for a fee. However; the number of people I've seen that have gotten attached from those sites is substantial. I am an interested skeptic. Keeping an eye on this thread for success stories. |
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I have had 0 positive experiences on eharmony. I have bounced back and forth buying a subscription. I currently have 361 in "New" and 748 "Closed" After working through the communication with several my theory is that E-harmony puts out this image of what I like to call "internet order mates". They sell the site as a place where you can kind of just pick the mate of your dreams. So everyone joins up and expects to find something that I believe simply doesn't exists. When you get people believing things like that they are quite resistant to accept anything less. The best experience I have had thus far is on plentyoffish (free site). After communicating a bit more we found that our interests were a bit incompatible. |
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I dated a woman in Nashville that I met through there... after about 4 trips there I realized she was far too much of a raging alcoholic for me. Fun, smart and hot, but going to get breakfast with a plastic cup full of wine balanced behind the stick-shift was a bit much for me. Had to cut it off before it turned downhill.
Prefer the wife I met soon after anyway 
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eHarmony and Match.com are Gods way of telling you the ladies that rejected your advances at the local bar were right.  I think God might also suggest looking for true love somewhere other than the local bar.
You can't beat the bar if you just need a willy warmer for the night.
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My fiancée and I have been dating for 7 months and living togeather for 4 of them, tying the knot july 4th 2011, we met on Plentyoffish.com Proof http://img21.imageshack.us/img21/8035/s41628ca1157701.jpg Congrats. I am going to do you a favor and guess the cheesy picture was her idea and you were just ball-less enough to go along with it. 
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My fiancée and I have been dating for 7 months and living togeather for 4 of them, tying the knot july 4th 2011, we met on Plentyoffish.com Proof http://img21.imageshack.us/img21/8035/s41628ca1157701.jpg That isn't proof you met on plentyoffish.com. That is proof you had a photo taken of a mock proposal. |
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My fiancée and I have been dating for 7 months and living togeather for 4 of them, tying the knot july 4th 2011, we met on Plentyoffish.com Proof http://img21.imageshack.us/img21/8035/s41628ca1157701.jpg That isn't proof you met on plentyoffish.com. That is proof you had a photo taken of a mock proposal. damned if you post pics damned if you dont what ever you guys are to difficult, I am going back to my rum. |
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My fiancée and I have been dating for 7 months and living togeather for 4 of them, tying the knot july 4th 2011, we met on Plentyoffish.com Proof http://img21.imageshack.us/img21/8035/s41628ca1157701.jpg That isn't proof you met on plentyoffish.com. That is proof you had a photo taken of a mock proposal. damned if you post pics damned if you dont what ever you guys are to difficult, I am going back to my rum. The picture is good my friend, I'd hit it. |
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My fiancée and I have been dating for 7 months and living togeather for 4 of them, tying the knot july 4th 2011, we met on Plentyoffish.com Proof http://img21.imageshack.us/img21/8035/s41628ca1157701.jpg That isn't proof you met on plentyoffish.com. That is proof you had a photo taken of a mock proposal. damned if you post pics damned if you dont what ever you guys are to difficult, I am going back to my rum. The picture is good my friend, I'd hit it. I don't know if I should thank you and buy you a beer or tell you to go fuck yourself....
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What is 'guided communication'? Basically canned questions to ask to get to know each other. It seems better than just emailing some random chick from the internet out of the blue. I'm sure some one will come along and explain it better. So if you see someone you like, you can ask them canned questions to get to know them? |
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What is 'guided communication'? Basically canned questions to ask to get to know each other. It seems better than just emailing some random chick from the internet out of the blue. I'm sure some one will come along and explain it better. So if you see someone you like, you can ask them canned questions to get to know them? I'm basically just sitting back for now and not starting any communication. It's been easy so far and three ladies have started the first step of the process. Yesterday I get a message saying 'girl A' wants to communicate. She sent me 5 multiple choice questions that you can also answer with a short question. I answered hers and then was given the option to send her mine. I read her answers and the next step was can't stands/must haves. Its a list of ten or so 'deal breakers'. You go back and forth with these steps and then you do open communication. Email, phone calls, meeting, etc. If you don't like some one from you match list you can just close it out but you get to see pics and a profile before you start anything. It's pretty cool. Better than just browsing free sites and sending messages to random ladies. The fact that they match you is why I went with eHarmony. |
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What is 'guided communication'? Basically canned questions to ask to get to know each other. It seems better than just emailing some random chick from the internet out of the blue. I'm sure some one will come along and explain it better. So if you see someone you like, you can ask them canned questions to get to know them? Basically there are several "steps" when you both decide you want to communicate with each other - first you pick a few multiple choice questions for them to answer ("which of these activities would you most like to do on a Saturday night", etc). The next questionnaire is questions that can be answered in a few words, then the next one is a paragraph or two. After that you go to "open communication" where you're basically just emailing back and forth. I think eHarmony hopes it makes them seem less like a site that people would just use for random hook-ups. It probably does weed out guys whose first email would just be "Hey baby wanna meet this weekend and f*ck" or something like that. FWIW, my wife & I met through eHarmony. Been together 4 years, married for almost 2. She's awesome and we have more in common than anyone else I met in 14 years of dating. |
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Quoted: Met my girlfriend on Eharmony, and the one before that. I never had a problem with their service and met quite a few live, non-fake-russian women through them. HAHA oh yea.... I ran into a couple of these! They are actually pretty fun to mess around with! One actually came from E-harmony if I remember correctly! (the other was from match.com) |