Posted: 12/14/2009 5:56:37 PM EDT
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So I've been dating this chick for over a year now. She was a single mother w/ a 2 year old son (he's 3 now). I kinda stepped in and became a father to the little guy, even calls me 'Dad' now. I found out today this chick has been seeing one of her ex's buddies. That's what I get for trying to be a nice guy.
Sucks. The only real thing I'm torn up about is not being able to see her son anymore, we have a pretty tight bond and he looks up to me quite a bit. This relationship came after I had just gotten out of a 5 year relationship with another girl that ended badly. I sure know how to pick 'em. I'm only 24 now, I have alot of future ex-girlfriends to make, but it's still a bummer. -J |
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Sorry to hear that dude, defiantly make a clean break and cherish the meories you have the little guy but DO NOT spend anymore time with her son.
She will realize how she fucked up and when she comes crawling back with tail tucked, do not take her back no matter what. |
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Quoted: So I've been dating this chick for over a year now. She was a single mother w/ a 2 year old son (he's 3 now). I kinda stepped in and became a father to the little guy, even calls me 'Dad' now. I found out today this chick has been seeing one of her ex's buddies. That's what I get for trying to be a nice guy. Sucks. The only real thing I'm torn up about is not being able to see her son anymore, we have a pretty tight bond and he looks up to me quite a bit. This relationship came after I had just gotten out of a 5 year relationship with another girl that ended badly. I sure know how to pick 'em. I'm only 24 now, I have alot of future ex-girlfriends to make, but it's still a bummer. -J Don't become close to the children of your dates/girlfriends until you're SURE she's long-term, and is in a good place herself. The ones hurt are the kids. |
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So I've been dating this chick for over a year now. She was a single mother w/ a 2 year old son (he's 3 now). I kinda stepped in and became a father to the little guy, even calls me 'Dad' now. I found out today this chick has been seeing one of her ex's buddies. That's what I get for trying to be a nice guy. Sucks. The only real thing I'm torn up about is not being able to see her son anymore, we have a pretty tight bond and he looks up to me quite a bit. This relationship came after I had just gotten out of a 5 year relationship with another girl that ended badly. I sure know how to pick 'em. I'm only 24 now, I have alot of future ex-girlfriends to make, but it's still a bummer. -J Don't become close to the children of your dates/girlfriends until you're SURE she's long-term, and is in a good place herself. The ones hurt are the kids. But don't feel remorse over it. As the poster above already said, it's his mother's doing. You did your best. |
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So I've been dating this chick for over a year now. She was a single mother w/ a 2 year old son (he's 3 now). I kinda stepped in and became a father to the little guy, even calls me 'Dad' now. I found out today this chick has been seeing one of her ex's buddies. That's what I get for trying to be a nice guy. Sucks. The only real thing I'm torn up about is not being able to see her son anymore, we have a pretty tight bond and he looks up to me quite a bit. This relationship came after I had just gotten out of a 5 year relationship with another girl that ended badly. I sure know how to pick 'em. I'm only 24 now, I have alot of future ex-girlfriends to make, but it's still a bummer. -J Don't become close to the children of your dates/girlfriends until you're SURE she's long-term, and is in a good place herself. The ones hurt are the kids. yep this is good info |
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Thanks for the input, guys. I've been through breakups before, Im hard enough to know how to handle them now (the first time sucked!) but I've never dealt with having to say goodbye to a little guy like this. Here is a video of him opening a birthday present a bit earlier. He loves toy cars:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JEb7pfbRg7o |
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So I've been dating this chick for over a year now. She was a single mother w/ a 2 year old son (he's 3 now). I kinda stepped in and became a father to the little guy, even calls me 'Dad' now. I found out today this chick has been seeing one of her ex's buddies. That's what I get for trying to be a nice guy. Sucks. The only real thing I'm torn up about is not being able to see her son anymore, we have a pretty tight bond and he looks up to me quite a bit. This relationship came after I had just gotten out of a 5 year relationship with another girl that ended badly. I sure know how to pick 'em. I'm only 24 now, I have alot of future ex-girlfriends to make, but it's still a bummer. -J Try being 24, married for almost 6 years, and just now realize you might have made a mistake  . Thats me.
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So I've been dating this chick for over a year now. She was a single mother w/ a 2 year old son (he's 3 now). I kinda stepped in and became a father to the little guy, even calls me 'Dad' now. I found out today this chick has been seeing one of her ex's buddies. That's what I get for trying to be a nice guy. Sucks. The only real thing I'm torn up about is not being able to see her son anymore, we have a pretty tight bond and he looks up to me quite a bit. This relationship came after I had just gotten out of a 5 year relationship with another girl that ended badly. I sure know how to pick 'em. I'm only 24 now, I have alot of future ex-girlfriends to make, but it's still a bummer. -J Try being 24, married for almost 6 years, and just now realize you might have made a mistake . Thats me.
Been there. Had a kid at 19 and thought I'd do the "right thing" and marry her. Biggest mistake of my life. Stuck it out till I finished my degree and split. Fought for custody but came to the conclusion that the mother could be a drug addicted prostitute living in the trunk of her pimps car and she is still going to win that battle. |
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So I've been dating this chick for over a year now. She was a single mother w/ a 2 year old son (he's 3 now). I kinda stepped in and became a father to the little guy, even calls me 'Dad' now. I found out today this chick has been seeing one of her ex's buddies. That's what I get for trying to be a nice guy. Sucks. The only real thing I'm torn up about is not being able to see her son anymore, we have a pretty tight bond and he looks up to me quite a bit. This relationship came after I had just gotten out of a 5 year relationship with another girl that ended badly. I sure know how to pick 'em. I'm only 24 now, I have alot of future ex-girlfriends to make, but it's still a bummer. -J Try being 24, married for almost 6 years, and just now realize you might have made a mistake . Thats me.
Been there. Had a kid at 19 and thought I'd do the "right thing" and marry her. Biggest mistake of my life. Stuck it out till I finished my degree and split. Fought for custody but came to the conclusion that the mother could be a drug addicted prostitute living in the trunk of her pimps car and she is still going to win that battle. No kids. I want to be sure before kids come along. |
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You did the right thing. You were and may end up being one of the only manly influences that young un will ever know.
Rest easy. It sucks now, but you did the right thing as much as you could, and that is all any American can honestly ask of another. Even the Bible sez: "so far as it depends on you..." when dealing with others. Meaning she is condemning that poor little guy to a huge increase in delinquency, crime, violence, poverty, and neglect. 
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