Posted: 7/19/2009 7:41:38 PM EDT
I've met this awesome girl recently. For a first date I am thinking about taking her to a dinner and a movie, should I ask her opinion at all of what she wants to eat and the movie or just make her watch and eat whatever?
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Don't do the movie, dude. That's pretty boring. But if you DO take her to a movie then go see the film first so you can discuss it over dinner. That way you won't have to be concerned about awkward conversation. Do something *fun*, though. Dinner is perfectly fine ... but how about horseback riding? Go Carts? Paintball? Target practice? Bowling? All of those things are much better than sitting in a crowded theater for two hours and not being able to talk to one another. I'm happily married. My first date with my husband was on Halloween. We went to several haunted houses, got lost in a maze, ran from 'Freddy Kruger' and had a BLAST. Be inventive. Make this a date she (and you) will remember. |
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Movies are a bad idea for first date...all silence, no talking/conversing, and sitting in the dark together with little to no chance of action...no bueno.
Only beta's do the dinner/movie date thing.... Do something different...and, better yet, something she has never done before. |
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Quoted: You make the plans based on what you think she'll like. If she likes what you picked then you win. FAIL. Unless you want to spend the rest of your time with her changing your behavior to suit what she wants. How about this, you are going on a date with her to see if she a match for you right? So if you are planning the evening then you pick what you want to do, you watch what you want to watch, and you eat what you want to eat. If she is a match for you then you will have a good time. If not then you will know right away that she isn't worth any additional effort and you can more on. Or you can do as others suggested and change who you are, give up control of your life to some girl you don't even know, change for her before even knowing her, and spend the rest of your life miserable. Personally dinner and a movie is a horrible first date. First you are stuck sitting at a table staring at each other. If one of you can't carry the conversation it will make for a very boring date really fast. Then you have the movie. How did dinner go? If dinner didn't go well what do you do during the movie? Actually no matter how dinner went, what do you do in the movie? You can't talk. Did you get to know her well enough between bites of food to move on to a physical relationship? Should you make a move or sit there? This is why dinner and a movie is not a good idea for a first date. The first date is when you should really be judging the girl and determining if she is worth your time. Find something fun that you can enjoy. Minature golf, go karts, bowling, fishing, shooting, hiking a trail...something where you are moving around and not stuck staring at each other hoping something can come up with something to say. During that time have fun, pick on her, and see where that goes. Afterwards tell her you are hungry and want to grab a bite to eat. It's not her choice, you don't ask if she is hungry, you are the man, you planned the evening, you are hungry so you are going to eat. It shows you are confident and in control, something girls are attracted to. It also complete removes the idea that you are buying her dinner as a way to capture her attention as if you were not worth spending time without giving her a gift. You don't want to appear like that. Or you could tell her you will take her to dinner, which means you are offering her a gift and hoping she will spend time with you. You can ask her where she likes to eat, showing that you failed to plan the evening and are not confident or a leader. Then you can ask her opinion about everything else for the rest of your life while buying her things hoping you have given her a big enough gift that she will continue to spend time with you. Really though, the choice is up to you. |
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do something with activity and conversation. not hours setting in the dark. This!!! I have always had great luck mini-golf or bowling after dinner. Bowling is the best choice because you can have a few drinks in the A/C. Just make sure its not league night. |
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Don't do the movie, dude. That's pretty boring. But if you DO take her to a movie then go see the film first so you can discuss it over dinner. That way you won't have to be concerned about awkward conversation. Do something *fun*, though. Dinner is perfectly fine ... but how about horseback riding? Go Carts? Paintball? Target practice? Bowling? All of those things are much better than sitting in a crowded theater for two hours and not being able to talk to one another. I'm happily married. My first date with my husband was on Halloween. We went to several haunted houses, got lost in a maze, ran from 'Freddy Kruger' and had a BLAST. Be inventive. Make this a date she (and you) will remember. I would follow this advice.........In my opinion,a movie is about the lamest thing you could do on a first date... 
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Quoted: Don't ask her anything. Take control, be confident - pie will follow. Bingo. It's about time somebody with a sack showed up. Make plans yourself. If you want to ask her what she DOESN'T like for food, that's cool, but otherwise, it's your call and your plan. Don't ask her 'do you wanna'.....just tell her what's up. |