Posted: 11/13/2008 3:04:47 AM EDT
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My son will be 3 at the end of the month and has pretty much got the hang of the potty training thing... or so we thought.
its hit or miss with him, some days he does well by himself, other times he grabs himself and does the peepee dance before we tell him to go pee, and then nights like tonight where he just feels content to piss himself and then look at me with that "oops" face and say "daddy I peed".. well duh dude, you know how to use the bathroom, do it!. is this normal amongst the little ones or am I missing something? normally we know when he needs to pee, other times there is no hint.. he's been out of diapers for at least 4 months but still has these accidents... and it's very sporadic. any hints/tips? |
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my son turned 5 this summer. he still has to sleep in pull ups as he's sporadic about wetting over night. at times during the day he'll get so distracted with what hes doing that he'll forget that he needs to go to the bathroom to urinate and will wet himself. he started kindergarten this fall and for the first 2-3 weeks came home every day in his spare clothes as he had wet himself in class.
my daughter turned 2 in september. when she was about a year and a half, she'd bring me a clean diaper and wipe and told me when she needed to be changed. she doesnt like having wet or stinky diapers, yet is petrified to sit on a toilet, even a trainer. based on my experience, if your kid is doing well at 3, then hes ahead of where my son was during the same age. kids potty train at different ages and stuff. dont stress out about it, dont stress him out about it and he'll be fine. |
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same boat. went 2 weeks proud using the potty.....MOM I PEE... DADDY come look... then back to 
are you poppy?  NOoooo daddy im not stinky.....
are you...... ahhh man.....
me-  LOL, I promise I am laughing with you and not at you... your use of smileys is great |
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We're only just starting the PT journey; he's 2.5. But to help with your secondary question on what to motivate/reward them, we're using stickers and coloring time. He's not a big candy kid (yet?) but loves to draw, color, and have fun with stickers (I find them in the weirdest places around the house despite my best efforts to limit them to the paper!)
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2 tricks....
We made it a game. Keep a big bowl of cheerios by the toilet. Tell him to throw a few in there every time he has to pee so he has something to shoot at. Also....bribery. 3 is a great age to start teaching goal-setting. Tell him if he goes a week without peeing in his pants, you'll take him to the store and let him pick out a favorite toy. He knows how to go, make it worth his while until the habit is firmly established. |
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I'm in the process of potty training daughter #3. She just turned 2. I may jinx myself but I think she is going to be the easiest one. My son was the hardest but once he got it, he got it. My oldest daughter would go back and forth for awhile after she was out of diapers. She would be fine one week then the next she'd have accidents every day. If her schedule was thrown off, if she was overly tired, or if she was sick she had more accidents. He'll get it - he hasn't been out of diapers that long. -Mrs.Monk |
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patience.....my almost 4 year old is at 98%...i think....we went four months and this past weekend he peed his pants 4 times. the game thing works. as soon as he is done with the potty give them a treat. we put a book that he liked in the bathroom so that he would want to go in there and look a the pictures in it. hell don't give up....i am 34 and i shit my pants bout two months ago. i thought i had to fart and boy was i wrong. |
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Quoted: my son turned 5 this summer. he still has to sleep in pull ups as he's sporadic about wetting over night. at times during the day he'll get so distracted with what hes doing that he'll forget that he needs to go to the bathroom to urinate and will wet himself. he started kindergarten this fall and for the first 2-3 weeks came home every day in his spare clothes as he had wet himself in class. Every family get together, Mom rehashes the story of her catching my older sister (age 5 at the time, she is now 53), with her butt backed up to a drain pipe while playing outside. Mom asked what she was doing and sis said she had to "dookie," but was too busy playing to go inside. (This is also the sister that was caught "canning" kittens––-she was stuffing kittens into Mason jars to make them last longer.  )
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| My daughter who is 16 now was the hardest I think the pull ups she wore became a type of security blanket for her,that and the kids at her preschool told her that the toilet would swallow her. We tried everything bribes,toys all to no avail. My son who's seven was easier when ever I went he would follow and go, especially if we were outside he caught on pretty quick,although has the rare accident in bed I recall doing the same thing when I was a kid I would have to go so bad that I would be dreaming that I didn't have to go and relax and wet the bed seems weird but I really remember this sometimes it might just be to dark in the room for them to go. Just be patient if you make a big deal about it the more likely the little guys or girls are gonna get real self conscious about it. I know its hard to be patience at two in the morning but that's the most important time to show a little compassion. As my late mother in law said it will happen eventually it just takes time.. Good luck .Sorry for the long rambling post. |
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Most kids pee them selves during the day because they do not want to take the time out of all the "important" things they are doing to go. During the night it is kind of hit or miss, if he is a deep sleeper you may be in for a up hill battle there.
For the day time take a red crayon and draw a target in the back of the toilet bowl (with the water out). Tell him to aim for it. It will become such a game to him he will be willing to stop whatever he is doing and go pee. |
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For boys, it's normal. I know some teenagers who would rather fill their pants than put down the game controller.
Seriously. Don't make a big deal out of the failures, just the successes. Your kid is learning mastery over his own body and some times that takes a bit. A few failures along the way is in no way a sign of things to come. We made a HUGE deal out of the successes and our kids just kind of picked up the ball and ran with it. You have to learn what punches your kids buttons and use it to your advantage. Remember, they want your attention and they'll get it one way or the other. J. |
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my son turned 5 this summer. he still has to sleep in pull ups as he's sporadic about wetting over night. at times during the day he'll get so distracted with what hes doing that he'll forget that he needs to go to the bathroom to urinate and will wet himself. he started kindergarten this fall and for the first 2-3 weeks came home every day in his spare clothes as he had wet himself in class. my daughter turned 2 in september. when she was about a year and a half, she'd bring me a clean diaper and wipe and told me when she needed to be changed. she doesnt like having wet or stinky diapers, yet is petrified to sit on a toilet, even a trainer. based on my experience, if your kid is doing well at 3, then hes ahead of where my son was during the same age. kids potty train at different ages and stuff. dont stress out about it, dont stress him out about it and he'll be fine. My oldest daughter was nearly 3.5 yrs old before everything worked out. My middle child about 2.5. My last about 2 yrs old. It could be that we just got better at getting them potty trained but I believe it just depends on the kid. It will work out. Just remember lots of positive reinforcement. You can't force it. nelybarg, my oldest did not like the toilet or the trainer at first either. My wife finally went and bought a ton of stickers with my daughter's favorite cartoon characters on them. She sat down my my daughter and they made a game of decorating the training potty (clean, of course). Once the potty was thoroughly customized, my daughter was a whole lot more receptive to using it. |
| They always seem to regress back to having accidents after you think they are totally potty trained. It won't be long now before he is 100%. With mine I would just tell them to go if I realized they hadn't gone for over an hour or so. My youngest would always wait until the last minute and try to sprint to the bathroom. |
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Our boy will be 3 in Jan.
Just like your kido, he has great days, and bad days. This summer we thought he was completely trained. We rewarded him with big boy underwear which he was very proud of innitially. This fall he started regressing. His mom told him after peeing in his pants once that this is not the way big boys do it. He responded that he was not a big boy anymore. Anyway, I'm hoping by next summer all of the wrinkles are ironed out. |
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We have a daughter who just turned 4. Helped her along with it, but it is not like breaking a horse. They will take their time with it, boys are longer.
Consistancy!!!!! If the child is in daycare and the reinforcement and diligence is not there, your job will be harder. If not, just pay attention to the kid and take them to the potty every 2 hours or hour, depending on the kids fluid intake. It will take time. We have friends with boys that are also 4 years old and they are bed wetters. Luckily our daughter has awesome senses and controls the spicket very well. My wife says, "With alot of the boys she knows, as much as men do not want to hear this, they train them to pee sitting down first, until they understand the concept. Then through time teach them how to do it standing up. This really works." Adding: "All my girlfriends who had boys did this and it worked like a champ." I call my wife... "The Baby Whisperer". |
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When he is ready, he will be ready. By punishing or pushing it you will make it only worse. This. Also, girls really are easier than boys. At 18 moths, my daughter decided one weekend that she was going to use the potty. She did it all weekend and then stopped. At 24 months she decided she was going to do it again. She never looked back. Only had one night time accident. It was like falling off a log. My son is three. He's got the pissing part down but wears a pull up at night and will have accidents if we don't remind him to go. He still shits his pants and no end is in sight. He'll be 4 come the end of January. You can lead a kid to the crapper but you can't make him shit. 
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we're having an issue just like this. little girl, she'll turn 3 in december.
at 2 1/2 she potty trained herself. just one day decided she would use the toilet. has not had an accident since. till two weeks ago. Now she's PEEING EVERYWHERE! WTF?! She pees her pants every day, pees the bed EVERY night and last week, took off her diaper cause it "Scratches" her and pooped on the floor. This was her first spanking of her life too. I am baffled. After I spanked her, literally the first cross word I've said to this little one her whole life, she stopped the peeing during the day, but she's still peeing at night. WTF? why did she start doing this again suddenly? |
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some will disagree but a certain amount of shame/achievement is needed to motivate him.
We came up with a 'sticker chart'. Every day that our child did "good" they got a sticker on the chart. If they went 30 days straight then they got a "big toy". Everyday they get a sticker then you celebrate. If they have an accident then you remind them that they will not get the "prize". Some will say "oh, you'll harm their fragile little ego's"......BS. My kids are just fine. It helps to go shopping with them for the "prize". Let them pick it out. Don't buy it, maybe just take a picture of it and put it on the chart. If you can get them to go at least 3-4 weeks then you're done. |
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It happens but may I suggest queing him to go potty more often? He's still pretty little and it takes a while developmentally for a child to be able to think ahead and recognize that he needs to go potty.
Here are a couple of things I did with my kids. I have two boys and a girl. For the boys I kept a jar of cheerios on the back of the toilet. Everytime they had to go potty [or wanted to] they would scoop out a handful of cheerios and toss them in the potty. They would then crawl up and proceed to play the ubberly cool/fun game of sinking the cheerios. They really enjoyed doing this so when I would que them to go potty they wouldn't mind as much being taken away from what they were doing to go potty. I also used drop ins in the toilet so they could make magic water. Big news for little guys [and girls]. For my daughter I used the bribery method [hey it works for girls]. I had a package of skiddles on the fridge and every time she went potty she got her skiddles. She potty trained very easy but when she was little I did daycare and right after she was potty trained I took in a newborn and she decided she wanted to wear pretty diapers just like the newborn and took to purposely wetting her pants. I bought the cheapest ugliest diapers I could find that were one size too small for her and that is what she wore. She wasn't terribly happy with that so we went back to the skiddle method. I then made it a rule that everytime she wet her pants I got to eat some of her skiddles. This system really worked well for her. She didn't want me eating anymore of her skiddles than necessary! |
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I've been a nanny for the same family for 3 years. The oldest one will be 4 in December and I had been dreading the day when we started to potty train him. But one day I came to work and his mom told me that he decided to go potty on the big boy toilet all on his own.
That was 6 months ago and he has never had an accident I kid you not!! 
Now I have to try and get his little brother to do it..... |
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I dream of potty training. My wife called me at work yesterday and told me my son(6) had a question for me and handed him the phone. "Hi Daddy. What's humping?" What was the answer? Marking a replacement M1 Garand, M1903, M1917, or M1 Carbine stock with phony acceptance cartouches? 
-Mark |
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We used these:
Some drug stores carry them and you can order online too. They turn it into a game and my son looks forward to going with them. Next, we teach him to write his name in snow! 
Sure, you can use other things like Fruit Loops for the same method, but you may have a hard time getting him to know the difference between potty targets and breakfast. Real problems if he gets hungry after peeing too!
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My daughter is a little over 2 years old and we're doing panties during the day and diapers at night.
What we do is every time she uses the potty we give her M&M's. My brother in law was having a hard time training his daughter, the same age and he started using M&M's it helped tremendously. Good luck, and remember every kid learns at their own speed. |
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Sounds pretty normal to ME.
I was involved with a Lady years ago who had a 3yr old daughter (When we first started seeing each other) and SHE (The little one) still had "Accidents" at that age. She was so cute ( ), the times She DID manage to make it to the toilet she would call me when she was done because she needed "A Wipey!"
She's all "growed-up" and a nurse these days but, I still remember how funny it was that she got the whole concept of using the toilet but had the damndest time with toilet paper!
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Each of our 4 kids has been different.
My son went poo-poo in his potty when he was 18 months old. As he was our first child, we thought he was a genius and we were the greatest parents on earth. He ended up not going potty by himself for another two years. He only started doing it one day after he saw one of his friends peeing. Then it was cool and he was pretty reliable after that. He still wet the bed for several years after that. Then my next two daughters were great, both were potty trained by the time they were 2. One of them is so good I can count on one hand the number of times she has wet the bed. Our last daughter is following in her brother's footsteps. She just turned 4 and she still isn't reliably trained. Each kid is different. Just be patient and realize that it will click someday, usually before they have to start school. Peer pressure is a great motivator. |