Posted: 9/7/2008 1:05:32 PM EDT
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The woman pulled up and left a week ago. Though I am still dying inside, I am coming to the realization that I have been used for the last 2 1/2 years. This pisses me off. I moved her and her son in here. I covered all the associated bills and never once asked her to contribute. Though she works full time she never once attempted to help me with the bills. Never once did she throw a few bucks my way towards the electric/gas/telephone/internet/water/mortgage payment/ etc.. To be fair, she did buy the groceries and household needs as well as pay for the sattalite dish that she couldn't live without. This was a drop in the bucket compared to the total expenses though. I don't know if I am madder at myself for letting this happen, or at her for never having the Goddamn common decency to try and help out. Guess I am just a sucker. PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT: Suckers draw leeches. Don't be a sucker. On the other hand, I have been cleaning the hell out of the place since she left. Christ I didn't realize the cats had made the fucking mess they had. After she left I put out 4 contractor size garbage bags and about 6 regular sized bags of junk that was left behind. I am still in awe at the amount of sheer junk that was left. I also own the house next door which is used as storage. I haven't even started getting rid of the shit over there yet. Bunch of stuff that was supposed to be in a yard sale, but didn't sell. Guess I will just put it to the curb rather than fight with taking it to a donation center. I recovered the kitchen floor and am currently working on a wall repair that was started 2 1/2 years ago but never completed. I will be painting soon. The place is much cleaner and a LOT roomier now. Im trying to find the silver lining in all this as well as stay busy so I don't think about things to much. It's about all I can do at this point. |
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Damn, your life is starting to sound like mine. On the 4th of July my wife declared her independence from me. She finally left about a week ago leaving me with all the bills a still not recovered from the 04 hurricanes home and a broken heart. I'm ineches away from coming emotionally unglued as I lover her so much. Now all I have is an empty house and a threat of losing everything I've managed to assemble in the last 15 or so years. Hell, I'd probably be happy to have the cats back just to have someone/thing around. Good luck to you bro. |
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There seams to be a lot of us. My wife of 22 years and 8-years dating, 30 all told up and left the day after our daughters graduation. Divorce was final a few weeks ago. Now I need to sell off assist to pay her off. Was 5-years form retirement probably will not get to now. Have to come up with 7-figures to make her happy. More then if she had worked the hole 30-years. Oh ya put her through school twice. So here I set with a old GSD and a 5000-ft2 house all by myself. And yes I still lover her but that does not mater. You are not alone, stand tall and work through it. I have decided that this must be some kind of test. Life will go on and I am sure some day for the better. Find someone to talk to. |
Celebrating is about the absolute last thing I feel like doing right now.
The peace and quiet is my curse.
Pffttttttttt....... Tis a long and sad story my friend.
Holy shit man. I give you a lot of credit for being able to be there if she was still there up to a week ago. Mine originally told me she hoped to be in by Sept 15.. That would have been close to 4 weeks. One of the hardest things I have ever had to do was to write her a letter and ask her to go sooner if she could. I was this close >< to falling apart and knew I couldn't do it that long. I was eating very little and throwing up almost daily. Roughly a week and a half later she walked out of my life. I fully understand the emotional upheaval because of how much you still love her. I am right there with ya brother.
Well, my dog is a young lab and my house is a whole lot smaller but I can totally agree with the second part. It doesn't matter how much I love her because apparently it was one sided (in my case) and I doubt she is ever coming back.
Thats what the board is for. Besides, I'm more of a keep it bottled up inside and suffer kind of guy. When it gets to be to much, I come here to vent. I usually do it in Team but screwed up when I posted here. Oh well. |
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Don't bottle it up. Talk to someone. You probably have more friends then you know of. Let someone know what is going on. We have way to many members checking them selves out of it all. If you need drop me a note. It has been hard for me, so I can relate. Sitting home by your self and hanging out on the computer is not the right thing. I know I have done it to much. Several people at work have been very supportive when they found out what was going on. Quite a surprise. Some of them had never been friendly before. Go out side. Go for a walk, etc. I just started an exersize class and it has been fun so far. |
I think most guys here (and elsewhere) have been through similar stuff with the womenz ( I know I have ). Take some time to get your head back on track, then go out and have some fun like you used to, trust me it will work wonders for your self- esteem! Stay positive, the rest will just happen on it's own.--VT |
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Be glad. She might have been entitled to a piece of your house if she had been contributing. Immediately cancel the satellite tv service in case she does bring suit. It'll display that it was HER luxury, not yours. Additionally, change the locks and get your mail sent to a PO box for awhile. Free tips for you! |