Posted: 6/17/2007 12:31:27 PM EDT
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I really dont know what to think, I have been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years now and for the past 4 months I have been gone. The weird part is the longer I am gone the more it feels like I do not need a GF? I know it sounds horrible and I really do think that I love her, its just I have become very independent on my own. I mean last time I visited we both were very very sad to say goodbye and it was downright painful, but after a week or two I just started to feel numb kinda like I didn't feel anything. I dont know, i mean is this normal or are things really messed up with me... |
Never stay with a woman because you "need" her. Stay with her because you WANT to. Separation gets easier with time. Your description (of after two weeks it's back to normal) is the way it is. Independence is good. If the two of you can remain independent and avoid the co-dependency that most relationships are plagued with, you might have a chance. I'd say your realization is a good thing - not a bad thing. Matt |
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Perhaps it is a defense mechanism on your part. I was in a long distance relationship for over a year, what you describe are pretty much the feelings I had... Great when I saw her, parting really sucked bad, then I would fall into my normal day-to-day life and not really miss her (but would still talk with her.) Look at it this way, at least you are not depressed and moapy when she isn't around. |
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NO. Its got nothing to do with being evil. You just don't need to be with someone to feel complete. Thats not evil. |
| There is nothing wrong with you. Numbness is a self-preservation instinct in my opinion. You need to be able to function on your own, it is neccessary. GOD did not intend for you to have to be dependent on another human being in order to live. Many people choose not to ever have a mate and do very well with their lives. However, GOD, in HIS infinite wisdom has given us that option and that choice to make. So what I am saying is that there is nothing wrong with being able to function without her. If your heart still loves her then stay with her. If not then you haven't met the one yet. Your heart will always tell you. The only other sound advice I can give you is to pray and read the Bible, therein lies all of the answers. |
Hooah! |