[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Bitchy Neighbor (Page 1 of 2)
Posted: 10/18/2006 4:41:01 AM EDT
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My neighbor and I share a common floor/ceiling. She moves in and we exchange pleasantries, etc. "if you need anything... if there is too much noise, etc, etc." Well the first strange thing is that I had the TV up pretty loud (surround sound) one weekend. She asked if I wouldn't mind turning the TV down which is no big deal, but she does so via text message, which I don't hear, and instead of getting up off her butt, & walking 20' to my door she sends 3 texts within a half hour (none of which I hear). I apologized the next time I saw her. A few weeks later, the unthinkable happens... She comes up to me and says "I don't know any PC way to put this, but your GF "makes too much noise. I don't know... do you think she could use a pillow, or maybe you guys do that before 10:00?"  Now I have lived there a few years and have had 2 other sets of people where she is. The problem is there is really no other way to set the bedrooms up (they must be one on top of the other). One set of neighbors and I used to dig each other in the ribs (back and forth) about the performance the night before, and the other set never said a word (and vice versa). I will be the first to admit that I feel badly about the situation and that I don't want to cause any grief with an otherwise friendly neighbor, but this request is ridiculous in my opinion. First, I got my girl out of her shell into full-blown banshee mode (the way I like it) and I don't want to cause her to regress with all the progress made. Second, this whole ass curfew is one thing when you live under your folks'/friend's roof, but a different matter alltogether when you pay full rent and full utillities to live without a roomate.So, this weekend I make a concerted effort to try and accommodate her with respect to times, going at it earlier, looking out the window to see if her car is there when it's later that night, etc. Last night (well, about 4 hours ago) I had a stiff on my hands that I needed to bury so I made contact with the undertaker for burial services. She was very tired as it was (you know those "gentle wake up" ones you initiate) and she was very quiet. So all's well until the home stretch where we are rocking and rolling and she gets a little vocal... mind you her getting a little vocal now is now on par with what she would be doing beforehand with foreplay. So a couple min of medium volume satisfaction (no deathrattles and panic screams this time) and we finish. Not 45 seconds after she heads to the bathroom I get "the text". "Can you tell her to be quiet? Why don't you go to her place!" She lives an hour away which means little over the weekends. No big deal if it means keeping the peace, except it's a dorm that doesn't accept overnight guests (and she has a roomate). So this whole situation and the way it's being handled is pissing me off. Like I said, I hate to be a bad neighbor and I can sympathize with noise frustration living amongst some real asshole neighbors in my life. On the other hand the following factors are at play: #1 this is a fundamental sort of thing. If a neighbor takes these terrible shits at 2am or has bulemia and pukes, is it really appropriate to confront them on their audible bathroom habits when there is no other reasonable way to block out the sound? #2 I have had two other sets of sexually active neighbors who never had a problem with my habits (nor I theirs) who lived there before. #3 She let it slip that she was probably overly frustrated because her BF lives in another state (and won't be down here for another 4 months!!!), so her personal frustrations are impinging upon me just as much or more than my activity is on her. Hell, I was single for some of those earlier times... I just got a rough booty call or headed to the "reaserch room" to rub one out and got over it when the neighbors were going at it. So what do you think suggest regarding the situation? Oh, and anticipating your option about heading over there and relieving her frustrations: I did that with neighbor #1, would have loved to have done that with neighbor #2, but #3 is not our type: neither mine, yours (trust me), nor the GF's. |
| Already do that. It blocks articulable sounds but not the volume of the sound itself. Unless it's panties and masking tape, but that asphyxiates and requires prep which doesn't always work when we're spontaneous. That, and I assure you... if she was quiet as a mouse the next complaint is/was/will be the noise from the bed motion. |
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I thought he meant a gag ball for the neighbor.  |
Women who make loud noise are obnoxious to you (and my neighbor). That doesn't mean they are to everybody else. This whole repression thing is retarded too. It's attitudes from guys like that that made it impossible for her to have an orgasm with another person in the first place. I encouraged her to be free and let herself go and she ran with it. It made the experience 100% better all the way around |
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Dober1 is that you? I think he saw your suggestion the first time, no need to highlight and post it again. Dude.... |
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what time is this all happening? If it’s after 10PM (what most folks seem to consider the time to STFU) then she has a right to complain if it’s actually that loud. Just like you would be justified in complaining if she was makeing enough noise to disturb you after 10. You might be out of mom and dads house but you are just in another form of a “house” one in which consideration for others is a must. If you want to be able to have jungle sex at three in the morning you should buy a house. |
I'm going to have to say, after hearing my two roommates' girlfriends ?faking? orgasms at the most ridiculous times far too often over the past year, that I'm not joking. |
Now this post was hilarious. |
You should consider getting a girlfriend yourself. It can really be quite fun. Take a shower, brush your teeth and go talk to a girl. It is not that hard. |
Now that I can agree with... I think faking anything (overacting/orgasm) is obnoxious, but if a woman is genuinely enjoying herself, it is a complete turn on for me. |
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Regardless of the origin of the noise or your former neighbors' acceptance of it, any continuous loud noise after 10:00pm in an apartment is unacceptable. I don't care if it's music, dancing, television, or bumpin' uglies, keep it to yourself. I don't force my neighbors to listen to my reproductive sessions, and neither should you. It's rude, it's wrong, and it's disgusting. -James |
Creative.  I am dating a girl right now. What I'm primarily referring to is the inconsiderate behaviour (yours) with respect to others. 
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Oh shit, just tell the neighbor that you will TRY, but it is your house and you will love on your woman however and whenever you and your woman decide. If she doesn't like it tell her to fuck off. Now if you are hitting it at 2 AM, you and your GF already know that she can hear you, so try to make an attempt to keep it quite. |
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Look, just do your girl when, where and how you like. I hear my upstairs neighbor getting the screws put to her and I am sure she hears me and the ho's I bang making noise. Tell your uptight neighbor she does not live with mommy and daddy anymore and to expect noise while living in a condo/apartment. If she does not like that then she can save her pennies and buy a house. No one has the right to tell you when and how you can have sex in your own place I don't care what the noise level is. If she won't listen to you face to face then text her the message. This girl obviously has control issues and is a bit on the passive aggressive side. If she was realy bothered with it she would knock on your door and make a stink about it instead of sending a text message. |
another solution is that if its before 10pm do what you want if its after 10pm take it to another room like the kitchen table......you know the other side of the house.... |
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When we lived in Spain our bedroom was over the living room of th apartment downstairs. The floors were this tile block set in concrete that transmitted sound like a drum. We lived on the top floor and did not know this. The Spanish are night owls compared to Americans and would be up watching TV when we had gone to bed. I thought that the roars of laughter from hearing the bed rocking for a half hour a night were from a funny TV show...They weren't  . One night the bed rails broke and we kept going with the mattress on the floor. That one was a marathon at least an hour. Ah, to be a young Marine again.After that not one of the Spanish men would talk to us. The women pointed and giggled. Finally an older woman came up to us and said "Que suerte" as she touched my wife on the arm and then touching me on the elbow she said "Que FUERTE!" to me. Translation..."How Lucky" to my wife and "How Strong" to me. My wife turned blood red when I told her what she said. |
I agree. Time for everyone to grow up. Or to help the situation to deteriorate faster, get the neighbor a vibrator and leave it in a bag on her doorknob. |
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Dude I was so fucking PROUD! It made me glad to be a man. |
So let me get this straight, you get a new female neighbor that lives by herself with a boyfriend months away that moves in right below you, you have a girlfriend but she lives an hour away, you claim you just exchange "pleasantries" but somehow this girl ends up with your cellphone number?  I'm thinking you exchanged more than just pleasantries and I'm betting jealousy of your girlfriend and not just the noise level has something to do with your current situation.
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