Posted: 5/16/2006 6:05:34 PM EDT
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Daughters mom prego w/twins. She's 32 weeks having severe pains so she is now in the hospital for the duration. Could be 2days could be a month. The Dr's tell her that she needs to stay there since she needs to retain the babies for at least another 2-3 weeks as they are appox 4lbs each right now and anything earlier puts them in a bad way. So Not knowing that she was gonna be there for a long period I agreed with her to let the littleone with her neighbors next door overnight and at most I figured that she'd be home from the hospital by today. So I was supposed to TAD to USN Fleet Matches for two weeks leaving Thursday. I called my Cheif a few minutes ago and told him the situation and he told me that he'd gie me whatever I needed to get things organized. I know my daughter and I know when something is wrong. She was really in a mood over the weekend and I know she's upset that her mom is in the hospital, pregnant, lousy BF, etc. She won't talk too much about it always telling me she's okay but I know better, afterall she is my kid. So I get a call today afterwork, little one was up all night sick, throwing up at neighbors. Talked to her a few times this evening and she says she feels fine. She's doing her make up homework as she stayed home from school today, unknown to me. I know that she is a wreck inside over her mom, staying with neighbor and thinking I am going away and not knowing how long this will last for her.. So I'm a bit overwhelmed right now with all of this. On one hand, I have my daughter and tomorrow she comes home with me and that's it. Her school is about 1/2 hour drive from me and she is done on 14JUN. So at most I need to arrainge a way back and forth to school for her. But the other hand her sister and little brother have nobody. Sister has no father and brother is with his dad both are todlers boy 3, girl 4.Girl also atthe neighbors last night. Honestly I want to just take al of them but I really can't logistically. I am gonna take emergency leave for a few days to get my daughter squared away with rides to and from school while she is staying with me... I can figure out what to do about all of this.. I feel like a dick just putting my kid in a situation where she was uncertain of how she was gonna be taken care of. If her mother would just give the go for me to assume full physical custody I would sleep so much better at night. I spoke with 3 different lawyers over getting full custody over the past 2 years and all have said that my chances were nil. She isn't abused, the house is fine, and snce I pay for just about everything she is not needy. But her mother is just a mess. These will be kids 4&5 for her. She has no job, no husband or BF and the idiot that she does go back and forth with is not a bad person but he is less than adequate for anything really. He treats my daughter well and she likes him but he's got no prospects in life, makes no money, barely works, is on he lam because he owes $$$ to his ex for a daughter he hasn't seen or helped with in years. So on the outside of everything looks fine to the courts, social workers, and really fundamental needs are met but quality of life would be soo much better for her with me. I offered to her mom that I would get out of the USN if that would sway her to let me have the little one, I offered to keep paying support, to sign a agreement I would not seek support from her but the bottom line is that my daughter is a $500/mo paycheck to her, a tax crdit every year and a lever to get me to lessen her financial burdon. I pay for her tuition, her clothing, all costs for anything outside of school also. And that's fine I do it gladly. But her mother would never survive if I didnt and that's why she oposes anything I suggest.. |
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