Posted: 10/14/2005 8:04:02 PM EDT
| I just started dating this girl a week ago. I like her alot, but I'm a jealous guy. She's always telling me about a new guy she's talked to or a guy that looked at her or whatever.It pisses me off. WTF, is she just trying to piss me off or what? What do you guys think. Do your women do this? Does it get on your nerves? |
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Hell, yeah, women do it. She probably wants to see how jealously you react in order to gauge how interested you are in her. They've pulled it with me before but I didn't care much, both because I knew what it was about and because I figured it was best to find out as early as possible if she's an attention whore. |
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Have you determined exclusivity yet? If not, there's no reason to be possessive. If so, just be straightforward with her. If you ignore it or if you approach it the wrong way it's only going to make things worse. I personally don't do that. I've seen my friends do it, so I can tell you she's probably doing it for attention -- though maybe not to intentionally piss you off. If she's worth it, then give her the attention she deserves. If she's not worth it, then well at least you learned early on in the game. |
Most likely you're both just very immature. She's fishing for attention and you've got insecurity issues. My advice to you is to stop worrying about it. If she dumps you, dumps you hard, puts a full page ad in the newspaper about what a weenie you are, where does that leave you? Nadda. Better off. IT wwasn't meant to be. Simple as that. Once you understand that if its meant to be, it will be you'll stop being jealous. As for her - give her 5 years and 20 pounds - she'll grow up. Patty |
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6 minutes later ...
 My guess is that this isn't going to end with the two of you riding off into the sunset on a unicorn, so sure, why not. Dump her ass - you can both probably do better. |
Because you sound like a freakin 15 year old with his first girlfriend, trying to sound tough. If you were mature enough to deal with a relationship, you wouldn't be calling the other party in that relationship "bitch".  Learn some manners and maybe even a little tact. |
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WOW now there's some wisdom. Personally I got lucky and found someone that we were able to agree against 2 main things in relationships: Drama and Jealousy. Life is so much easier when you can figure out how to get past these things. I think many people spend most of their (already very limited) energy worrying about the big D and the big J...dump the habit and enjoy life. I see it as my job to stay on the top of my chic's list. Forget paperwork, "committment", social structure...if I do my job, it doesn't matter who hits on her, who she talks to, I am still the man. And in doing so, we have something stronger than any verbal rules. We have an agreement that if it ever changes, we talk about it. So we don't waste time worrying, we spend time making each other's lives happy and as cool as possible. See, this way you are also motivated to become a better person, not fall back into some status quo, relying on some "committment" so she won't leave you or talk to some other guy. If she's worth it, become a better person and shower her with adoration. Want to look good naked...then go train. Want to know what kind of wine to order...Google it, bro. She like to dance...go get lessons. Want to know what is really important to her...frikkin ask her. Do things that cause you both to giggle like 15 yr olds. If you ever truly "grow up", you are in deep shit IMO. </soapbox> |
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