Posted: 3/23/2004 5:37:47 PM EDT
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I hear that there is a chick at work who is hot for me. I dont know exactly who it is, but I have a pretty good idea. If it is the chick that I suspect, she is very hot, but I don't think that she would work out too well. I am also not sure that I want to date someone at work. It is not off limits by company policy, but I think it might be bad policy. What do you guys have to say about dating the ladies at work. |
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If you date someone at work, the following is likely: - You'll break up, and at LEAST be uncomfortable around her. - Everyone will know your business. - Your boss/superiors may seek or receive opinions from her that affect your career negatively. - You may find that some of your other coworkers "leave your camp for hers" and will no longer hang out with you. - One of you could lose a promotion because it would put one of you over the other. Don't fish off the company pier. There are plenty of women out there. -Troy |
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Here's the problem: After you leave college/high school, the chances of meeting people drops off dramatically, I would guess on the order of 80-90%. How about social clubs, and churches? So that is all you have to meet people, and their is no other prospects, my feeling I would go for it. But... the old saying goes, "faint heart wins no fair maiden." |
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Quoted: [red]Been there, done that, it's fun at first, but turns bad real quickly, nothing but trouble.[/red] My advice to you, forget about it! I second that with my experience... Been there, done that, it's fun at first, but turns bad REAL quickly, nothing but trouble! I got promoted, and the hottest girl in the company was hired to take over my former position. I had to train her in to do my last job, and got to know this girl VERY well. We'd have "fun" [;D] together in the fax/mail room, take lunch breaks to her nearby apartment complex to go swimming / tanning by her poolside in the summer, late-night walks around the lake, TONS of drinking & making out... Let's just say this company hottie was [red]HOT[/red], and my friends all agreed on that fact. We had lots of "FUN" [;)] together on our own time, and things were going great! It was fun at first (about 4 months), but it turned bad REAL quick! I worked my butt off for that company, managed to get 2 promotions in under 2 yrs, and was a valued employee, and I was liked so much that I still am sometimes invited to family/holiday gatherings with my supervisor; Everything was going great. Less than two weeks after the relationship with this co-worker was over I got laid off without any explanation or reasoning. BTW, it's also leaving the door WIDE OPEN for office sexual harrassment charges and any slight move you make can be misconstrued and used against you faster than you can blink. In short, and speaking from experience: [red][b][size=5]DON'T DO IT![/size=5][/b][/red] |
| I would say do it if you don't work in the same area. On the other hand I happen to work with a couple that are married and work in the same immediate work area. Now they may be getting divorced and who knows what's going to happen. If it turns ugly you will be working with them Mon-Fri. Looks aren't everything but if the you have to take one for the team go for it. |
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I once dated a very attractive womenz I worked with. Everyone knew our business, and coworkers were constantly saying things to me like: 'Guess who I saw her talking with,''Who is that guy that just stopped in to see her?', etc. I don't need that kind of stress at work, and I doubt that you do either. Also, she wouldn't give it up. |
| Don't do it, work is a place where you can escape all the drama in your life. Its a sanctuary to bitch and moan about "I can't believe what she did this weekend", don't ruin it. I know all about it (I lifeguard every summer and with horny scantily clad female coworkers I have to give into the pressure, you on the other hand don't) |
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Troy said it best. "Everybody will know your business." If it works out at first, everyone will hear what a wonderful guy you are. When it ends, everyone will hear how terrible you are, whether it's true or not. Believe me, even if she agrees to keep it quiet, she will talk. The question here is, which brain are you gonna think with? |
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You're all a bunch of pussies. You only live once so: [size=4][red]GO FOR IT[/red][/size=4] I dated a co-worker. It didn't work out be we still talked. Just make sure you are going out and are making it fun at first. Then you'll get to see if it might work out or not. If it doesn't so what, you both had fun no one has hurt feelings and you continue on. |
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DO NOT DO IT!!!! I belive in keeping my work life and my personal life compltley seperate. I dont hang around with the people I work with outside of work at all. I Keep it this way, and I like it this way. Home is home and work is work. Too fucking bad if they dont like it. There are even a few people I see outside of work, at a store or something, I will most likley not evn acknowledge their presence. |
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If you do find out who this person is you need to ask yourself one question, are you interested because you wants some action [sex] or because you want to have a serious relationship. If it's the first, make sure you understand the consequences (explicitly laid out by others). What's more important, getting a little action or your job? |
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Quoted: I am also not sure that I want to date someone at work. It is not off limits by company policy, but I think it might be bad policy. Explain to me just how dating somebody you met at work can be "off limits by company policy"? In any case, don't date anybody from work unless you plan to quit the job. |
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Been there, done that.... That being said, we agreed early on that we had to keep our relationship seperate from our work, as it could get ugly. It worked out pretty good, as we ended up on offset shifts from one another, which wasn't bad in itself, as she ended up getting promoted to a position where she would have technically been my supervisor if we'd been on the same shift. I can see where it could ultimately get really ugly, as the other officers could have screamed "favoritism" if we'd worked together on the same shift. As it turns out, we did such a good job of keeping our personal lives just that, that when she was shot & killed, nobody knew about our relationship until afterwards. [:(] |
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Don't do it! I did it once, and when it was over I had to deal with her on a daily basis because she was transfered to my shift and then to my shop. NO! NO! NO! NO! Just for a test take your cock out and slam it in a door. At work. In front of everyone. Twice. The pain you feel if it goes wrong will be worse, as will the public humiliation. |
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i'd say it depends on the size of the place. i banged a hottie where i work several years back, it only lasted for a short while but was fun and what we both wanted at the time. we still both work there, run into each other only seldomly, and everything's cool. the place we work at is huge though, several thousand employees. if you'll be able to keep some space afterwards i'd say go for it. i've got no regrets. |
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Jeeze, dating a co-worker worked fine for five years for me. Only problem was it was a large workplace, so her ex-husband was still working there, which had the potential to be akward. /Phil Busily trying to date an ex-co-worker at the moment and not having much luck :( |
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My job environment is 90% women. Gossip spreads faster than the speed of light. From the rank and file to management, every woman knows your business instantly. If you're going to do it, pick a good one, because they will mark you. If you handle things very well, you may get a positive rep for it. If, on the other hand, things do not go well, you will be fighting preconceived notions in anyone else you go after. This next part may sound shallow, but I am shallow, so I don't care. Women in my office judge you on the quality of the woman you go after. If you fish off the company pier, make sure you get a nice looking catch, or you will be known as the guy who dates ugly women. Best of luck to you. |