[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Spousal issues (Page 1 of 9)
Posted: 6/7/2017 1:16:29 PM EDT
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(This is gonna be a long post, sorry)Me and my wife have had a shaky past few years. Constant fights and disagreements over the smallest of things. Well she's been acting even more strange than usual, giving me this gut feeling that something's not right for months. She has completely shut off herself physically from me. Granted, we do have 2 kids and she's put on a bit of weight (bothers her, doesn't bother me) and she's not happy with herself. But still it's weird compared to her used to not be able to stop touching me.
And she recently started playing online with certain guys from Florida on the PS4. She plays a lot with them, and she knows everything about them. But hasn't mentioned she's married, just that she has kids. And I've been noticing her looking at other guys/girls more than ever.(she was bisexual in high school, but I'll come back to that) And now she's back in our hometown visiting my family and hers. First week she was down there we spoke maybe 4 times on the phone. She messaged me the other day stating. "Hey I ran into my old best friend the other day at the water falls(never mentioned it until this point) and we started talking, she's been having a really rough time. I thought I might take her to the movies or something." I knew who this girl is, and I thought her and my wife dated in high school but my wife said "we were so close, people thought we were dating. But we stopped talking 5 years ago due to a big fight (over a girl they both liked)." I'm not a girl, so maybe I'm clueless here. But all her other female friends, she just takes to lunch, manicures or something. Movies is weird. I said it's kind of weird, she clapped back with the "I don't know why you don't trust me, it really hurts my feelings. I Don't know why you think I'm such a big slut" Now she's constantly "going out to dinner with her younger brother" and "going to the falls". Idk, I can't shake this feeling that something is off. Maybe I'm crazy, idk. Also that night she told me about her friend, my wife volunteered to send me nudes of herself(she's never done that our entire relationship) |
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Trust your gut, the Eagles have a verse that addresses this sort of thing:
So she tells him she must go out for the evening
To comfort an old friend who's feelin' down But he knows where she's goin' as she's leavin' She is headed for the cheatin' side of town |
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If you're getting a bad vibe, there may be something to it. |
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Default troubled marriage thread gets default Arfcom answer: eject. Seriously though, I do hope it's nothing and you can work it out. |
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We do have children, it's not always so simple. But she has stated before in our fights "I want to leave, but I'm stuck with you. We have kids and I can't get a job." I hope it's nothing either. I just needed to vent it out. I'm losing my mind over here. At what point did marrying a bi-sexual seem like a good idea? |
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When my gut told me something was wrong....there was something wrong.
Our marriage counselor said I was being irrational and controlling, and that I should trust my spouse. Annnnd the wife was boning her personal trainer..... When your gut tells you there is something wrong, you keep digging around till you find proof that your gut was right. I took kids and left, got primary custody of them, and she's on marriage #4 now, and weighs about 240. I remarried a 30 year old blonde with a Masters in Biotechnology. |
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If you're getting a bad vibe, there may be something to it. Is there any way you can find out what she's doing with her free time without her finding out you're checking up on her? |
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Ain't gonna post any photos until I know she's doing something shitty. But if I do, I will post all the nudes I have in the BOTD threads. If she's a whore she's a whore. Take the high road for the sake of your kids. I'm so sorry you're going through this.  You and your kids deserve MUCH better.
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