[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Wedding Cost (Page 1 of 2)
Posted: 5/1/2017 10:54:41 AM EDT
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I didn't want to highjack the Father of the Bride thread...but I guess it's the season of love or something, but I have talked to three people in the last month planning/funding/dreading weddings, plus I've seen a number of threads here and in the other forums I hang out on.
It got me thinking... Not only about how much are folks spending on weddings for their loving daughters, but how much did they spend on their own. I'm not necessarily looking for real dollar values, but the relative differences. Maybe a percentage of annual income would tell a better story. Wedding cost divided by annual income ( $15,000 wedding / $60,000 year annual income = 25%) My wife and I had lunch, then went to the courthouse, so I was out less that $100 bucks  , so I'm in at less than 0.01%.
My daughter turned 30 this year and is still not married. I may get luck again! |
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We came out of pocket a little for our wedding. My in laws had 2 daughters gets married that year so they couldn't swing as much for ours as they did for the wedding earlier in the year. My parents threw in a little. My BIL's mom got us a discount at the reception venue. I paid for the honeymoon.
Excluding honeymoon, wedding cost was 17.4% of our joint pre-tax income. We were both established professionals with decent paying careers by that point. |
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We have 3 girls and we'll likely do like my parents did. They said, "Budget is $5,000. Anything over that is on y'all." How they use it is up to them. In the end we'll either be paying for the wedding or contributing to the wedding. We just finished paying the last semester of college for our youngest who graduates in 2 weeks debt free. I think we've done our part with them financially. |
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Have bestwife. 2nd marriage. Rules of wedding were immediate family, 3 top friends each with SO (30 people total w/family) If photographer interfered in any way, immediate ejection.
She pulled off brunch at Henry Ford Mansion with piano player hired from Lord & Taylor, fabulous lunch with bottomless mimosa's. Wedding album AND her dress and my PURCHASED tux. $2K! It was classy as hell, and everyone was just floored. I'm not EVER letting her go. |
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I didn't want to highjack the Father of the Bride thread...but I guess it's the season of love or something, but I have talked to three people in the last month planning/funding/dreading weddings, plus I've seen a number of threads here and in the other forums I hang out on. It got me thinking... Not only about how much are folks spending on weddings for their loving daughters, but how much did they spend on their own. I'm not necessarily looking for real dollar values, but the relative differences. Maybe a percentage of annual income would tell a better story. Wedding cost divided by annual income ( $15,000 wedding / $60,000 year annual income = 25%) My wife and I had lunch, then went to the courthouse, so I was out less that $100 bucks , so I'm in at less than 0.01%.
My daughter turned 30 this year and is still not married. I may get luck again! That's a very cheap wedding for someone making over a million a year. $1,000,000 x .01% = $100.00 |
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I spent $55k
Had to cut the list down to fit in that budget. Did all the planning and designing ourselves too to cut on cost, didn't have a planner. Turned out to be one of the best weddings that people still talk about years later. At the end of the day, I would have preferred a cheap destination wedding but happy wife happy life no? |
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This is how you win at life.
When Me and My fucking hot ass wife got married, we had a budget of 10k from the generous inlaws. We spent $2500 on the wedding, venue, catering etc, we got married in our church (the co-cathedral of out diocese, nicest church in the diocese) after mass on a Saturday by our favorite priest. No bridesmaid, groomsmen etc. We both went on bachelor/bachelorette parties the night before. Had a blast. I then took the rest of the money with some of my investments and bought a house for $48,000, put 10K into it, so all in $58,000. sold that rascal for 90k, used the proceeds to buy another house for 185k, then sold that rascal a few years later for 205k, I then took that money and bought the fucking abode I reside now with all the rich fuckers in town. I got cardiologist to the left of me, business magnates to the right...stuck in the middle 32 years old living with all the ballers. real estate game on point son. Now my parents spent 30k on my sisters wedding a few years ago. 
It was a good time, my grand ma and wife almost got into a fist fight. 
But spending a lot of money on weddings is pretty dumb. There is nothing like throwing a party so everyone can enjoy food and booze while you don't remember how fast the night past. Expensive weddings were never a thing where I am from. Normally you had a few in the wedding party and then you just rented the VFW/American Legion hall, someone cooked a big jambaylaya and a big gumbo or did a boucherie(pig roast) and you just bought a bunch of kegs and one of your siblings got their buddy's band to play at the reception. Doing it on the cheap. Now look, if you have a large liquid net worth and dropping 30-100k on a wedding doesn't mean a thing...then go on right ahead...but when you have to start calculating how much of your income you are going to spend or if you need to take a loan out for the wedding...freaking stahp!! just stahp!! check yourself before you wreck your self. |
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Back when I got married 24 years ago my wife and I paid for everything but we had a big wedding about 500 people in all.
I spent $32k with annual gross income of about $45k and my wife spent <$1k with annual gross income of about $12k...so about 58% of our annual gross income. My parents didn't spend anything and my in-laws spent about $1k. |
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Back when I got married my wife and I paid for everything but we had a big wedding about 500 people in all. I spent $32k with annual gross income of about $45k and my wife spent <$1k with annual gross income of about $12k...so about 58% of our annual gross income. My parents didn't spend anything and my in-laws spent about $1k.
How long ago were you married? |
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Do you know how dumb that sounds?
How long ago were you married? It was actually a calculated plan as we had a big Asian wedding (I'm Asian and wife is Latin). That means very little wedding presents and lots of cash in red envelope. We ended up with $40k+ in cash at the end of the night...plus 12 place set of china and silverware worth another $8k |
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My wedding cost $5,000. The honeymoon which was a cruise was another $2,500.
My wife's sister spent something like $35,000 on her wedding in Vegas then another $8,000 - $12,000 on some exotic country for a honeymoon. The best part about it is that my wife and I still get compliments on how much more fun our wedding was compared to her sister's. |
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I voted >20% but let me explain...
I make about 40k. We spent about 10k. Buuuuuut, that was all in. Destination wedding in Las Vegas (and a couple nights in Laughlin). Wedding clothes, new clothes for the trip, flights out/back, 3 hotels for 12 nights, rental car, bachelor(ette) days out and parties, wedding costs, gambling, food and souvenirs. Wifey didnt gamble much and she lost a bit, I gambled enough and was well up. We came home with a little over $1500 and were planning on spending all we went with. |
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We used a justice of the peace in front of my parents and hers. My dad paid the justice of the peace being a smart ass. Just to say he paid for the entire wedding.
I am lucky she agreed a big wedding was a waste of money and would rather use the money to better ourselves then throw a big ass party for a bunch of people you hardly see. 5 years later, just the wife and I flew to Hawaii to renew our vows. We just celebrated our 10 year anniversary a few months back. |
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My wife crocheted her own dress.
My parents chipped in $1k, my MIL chipped in $2k, the favors were handmade, her bouquet was handmade, a lot of the decorations were handmade. A good friend of the family made the cake for free. Church wedding, pizza and soda reception in the church hall. We used Spotify for our DJ and my Mom emcee'd. We used Disney honeymoon wishes for the "registry." Cost total was around $4k before the honeymoon. Still newlyweds but I wouldn't have changed anything. 
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| The wife and I's wedding cost $10,000 not including any honeymooning that we did. Just the ceremony/reception costs were right about $10,000. We, however, did not pay for much, if any of that, maybe $500, because our inlays graciously paid for it. Wife and I paid $2600 for our honeymoon ourselves, so it depends on what you want to count. |
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We've been married 24 years now and still happy together. It was actually a calculated plan as we had a big Asian wedding (I'm Asian and wife is Latin). That means very little wedding presents and lots of cash in red envelope. We ended up with $40k+ in cash at the end of the night...plus 12 place set of china and silverware worth another $8k Quoted:
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Do you know how dumb that sounds?
How long ago were you married? It was actually a calculated plan as we had a big Asian wedding (I'm Asian and wife is Latin). That means very little wedding presents and lots of cash in red envelope. We ended up with $40k+ in cash at the end of the night...plus 12 place set of china and silverware worth another $8k I've heard people making a lot of money off the wedding like that, it's a thing, but it isn't like that down here. |
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When our second oldest son got married, my wife said the couples parents now share the price of the wedding. I'm like ?????????
So my wife paid half. When our daughter got married later, we paid it all, except the rehearsal dinner...I'm like ??????? His dad is a Doctor. When my youngest son got married, my wife pays half again. I'm like???????? I felt like I got screwed worse than any of those brides. |
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married on the beach in Hawaii just my wife and I.... it might not be for everybody but I wouldn't have changed a thing
and honestly it didnt cost nearly as much as people think Attached File |
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We just had ours in February down in Charleston, SC. For 85 people our tab came out a little over $30k. We had some pretty big discounts on photographer and flowers (close friends and friend of close friends) but those two alone were $9k.
Thankfully we were able to put it on CC with points/miles and paid them off the same month and that helped cover about 70% of the honeymoon. |
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I didn't want to highjack the Father of the Bride thread...but I guess it's the season of love or something, but I have talked to three people in the last month planning/funding/dreading weddings, plus I've seen a number of threads here and in the other forums I hang out on. It got me thinking... Not only about how much are folks spending on weddings for their loving daughters, but how much did they spend on their own. I'm not necessarily looking for real dollar values, but the relative differences. Maybe a percentage of annual income would tell a better story. Wedding cost divided by annual income ( $15,000 wedding / $60,000 year annual income = 25%) My wife and I had lunch, then went to the courthouse, so I was out less that $100 bucks , so I'm in at less than 0.01%.
My daughter turned 30 this year and is still not married. I may get luck again! 30 single and dads an arfcommer... where do I apply? Lol |
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The in-laws paid for my wife and I. I've asked not to be told how much it was...but I know a general ballpark. It was roughly $20k. My sister on the other hand had sponsors for her wedding (no shit). I'm going to guess she was in the neighborhood of $100k for her shindig.
But who's income are you comparing this to? For my wedding if you are comparing it to the in-laws you're probably looking at somewhere around 5%. For my wedding if you are using my wife and my income we are talking 10%. For my sister's wedding if we are comparing it to her and her husband's income we are probably talking about 5%. Remove her sponsorships (guessing $50k) and her remaining bill was about 2.5% of her income. Yes, my little sister owns a couple businesses and her husband does too. Add to that her husband was an only child of a fairly respectable family and I was surprised to hear people would "sponsor" a wedding. It's a thing I guess. |