[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Sleepovers (Page 1 of 3)
Posted: 12/16/2016 6:37:45 PM EDT
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My 5 year old daughter just got asked over to her first sleepover. My wife and I made the decision a while back that we will not do sleepovers. She can stay over late but when it's time to go to bed she is coming home and the other way around for her friends that want to stay over late.
Just curious what others here think on this subject. |
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You're denying the opportunity for your daughter to experience some of the funnest times ever.
Some of my best memories of my childhood was having buddies over to my house, or going to their house, and horsing around. Now, my granddaughters spend nights at their friends, or vise-versa. They have loads of fun. |
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My 5 year old daughter just got asked over to her first sleepover. My wife and I made the decision a while back that we will not do sleepovers. She can stay over late but when it's time to go to bed she is coming home and the other way around for her friends that want to stay over late. Just curious what others here think on this subject. yep. its tempting because Im a single dad and it could mean a night out with the girlfriend, but you cant trust the older brothers or whatever not to get 'handsy' or bringing bed bugs home. And then you are on the hook for them spending the night at YOUR house. Fuck that and all the baggage that comes along with it. here you go, have a bowl of cereal neighbor kid. oops I used that spoon to get peanut butter out of the jar 2 years ago. PEANUT ALLERGIES, kid melts down and you get sued. |
| We don't do it. Aside from certain cousins and really close family friends, and even that is pretty rare. We try pretty hard to not helicopter parent or shelter the kids too much. But I just don't trust most people. I'm kind of shocked at how many times my parents let me crash at friend's houses without ever meeting the parents. I apparently wasn't cute enough to get diddled or anything, but we sure as shit snuck out and caused mayhem plenty of times. |
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yep. its tempting because Im a single dad and it could mean a night out with the girlfriend, but you cant trust the older brothers or whatever not to get 'handsy' or bringing bed bugs home. And then you are on the hook for them spending the night at YOUR house. Fuck that and all the baggage that comes along with it. here you go, have a bowl of cereal neighbor kid. oops I used that spoon to get peanut butter out of the jar 2 years ago. PEANUT ALLERGIES, kid melts down and you get sued. Drama Llama much? |
| With all of these porn addicted weirdos out there you guys would trust your child at somebody else's house? You never know what people do behind closed doors. You never know what weird relative or friend will visit while your child is there and try something untoward. You never know if an older brother of your child's friend will try something. In this day and age it's best to not allow sleepovers, it's not the 70's-80's any longer. |
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For a 5-year-old, don't even bother taking your pants off to sleep, and don't go to a movie, you'll be picking her up by 11pm with a stomach ache. But it's still important you let her try and have fun with her friends. Quoted:
yep. its tempting because Im a single dad and it could mean a night out with the girlfriend, but you cant trust the older brothers or whatever not to get 'handsy' or bringing bed bugs home. And then you are on the hook for them spending the night at YOUR house. Fuck that and all the baggage that comes along with it. here you go, have a bowl of cereal neighbor kid. oops I used that spoon to get peanut butter out of the jar 2 years ago. PEANUT ALLERGIES, kid melts down and you get sued. Quoted:
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My 5 year old daughter just got asked over to her first sleepover. My wife and I made the decision a while back that we will not do sleepovers. She can stay over late but when it's time to go to bed she is coming home and the other way around for her friends that want to stay over late. Just curious what others here think on this subject. yep. its tempting because Im a single dad and it could mean a night out with the girlfriend, but you cant trust the older brothers or whatever not to get 'handsy' or bringing bed bugs home. And then you are on the hook for them spending the night at YOUR house. Fuck that and all the baggage that comes along with it. here you go, have a bowl of cereal neighbor kid. oops I used that spoon to get peanut butter out of the jar 2 years ago. PEANUT ALLERGIES, kid melts down and you get sued. You carry a $1 million personal liability policy, in addition to your home owner's insurance, right? It's pretty cheap from USAA. Kharn |
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To be honest there is one family we would be fine having our daughter spend the night at. They are however very close friends of ours. Other than that current stance is to not do sleepovers. That seems perfectly reasonable. I didn't enjoy sleepovers at all as a kid. I thought they were dumb and boring. More comfortable in my own bed and my own house. |
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Before I allow my children to have sleepovers I make sure I get to know the parents first/family first. We usually invite their family over for dinner/hang out a few times before we allow it. Wow, a reasonable and thoughtful solution; actually get to know the family your child is friends with. Too bad that is a foreign concept to the rest of the basement dwellers. |
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Some parents will object that you have firearms in the household. I can remember them asking.
Anyway...... My only child (son) didn't have sleepovers for that reason. Which actually turns out to me an advantage for me (IMHO). Plus, it probably has something to do with, it's not "fun" at my house. The other families had brothers and sisters. My son would often sleep of at his friend's home. He brought the pizza with him when he went. Aloha, Mark |
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With all of these porn addicted weirdos out there you guys would trust your child at somebody else's house? You never know what people do behind closed doors. You never know what weird relative or friend will visit while your child is there and try something untoward. You never know if an older brother of your child's friend will try something. In this day and age it's best to not allow sleepovers, it's not the 70's-80's any longer. Yeah because none of those things existed in the 70's and 80's. |
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You're denying the opportunity for your daughter to experience some of the funnest times ever. Some of my best memories of my childhood was having buddies over to my house, or going to their house, and horsing around. Now, my granddaughters spend nights at their friends, or vise-versa. They have loads of fun. Yup, I remember being so excited for sleepovers when I was probably 6-12 or so. Then in HS it changed a bit of course lol. OP you're on the path to being that strict parent that has their daughter go ape shit the second you can't control their every move. ETA- 5 is actually a little young maybe. I may be misremembering about 6 too. At any rate, I'd say by 8 or so you should allow it. Of course meeting the parents first and everything is a good idea. I may have come across harsher than I meant to above, I didn't catch the age at first. |
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There are no more weirdos out there then there was 50 years ago, we just hear about them more often.
Be Prudent, Be Protective and be positive, sleep overs are not the hells damnation. 5 may be a little young, but get to know the parents of her friend and express your concerns. I have two daughters as well as a son and they went on sleep overs and camping trips without Mom and Dad, Now one is a Doctor, one is an EMT and one is a Forensic Investigator for the state Patrol in WA, so they turned out quite well |
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With all of these porn addicted weirdos out there you guys would trust your child at somebody else's house? You never know what people do behind closed doors. You never know what weird relative or friend will visit while your child is there and try something untoward. You never know if an older brother of your child's friend will try something. In this day and age it's best to not allow sleepovers, it's not the 70's-80's any longer. News flash...people were just as fucked upped in the 70's as they are now. |
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I did sleepovers all the time as a kid
However, according to my wife after talking with several other of her mom friends, sleepovers are far less common. Too many crazies, plus when kids are at your house, the parents are 'on the hook'. Makes you think twice. I have three kids under 5 and I'm not sure what we're going to do. |
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Ya, this comment helps! <img src=http://www.ar15.com/images/smilies/smiley_freak.gif border=0 align=middle> Quoted:
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I was spoiled, my sister was a grade below me... so when her friends would sleep over I would bang them <img src=http://www.ar15.com/images/smilies/icon_smile_big.gif border=0 align=middle> Ya, this comment helps! <img src=http://www.ar15.com/images/smilies/smiley_freak.gif border=0 align=middle> aaaand BOOM! there it is. You want your 5 year old to get diddled OP? cause that how your kid gets diddled... |