[ARCHIVED THREAD] - FML (Page 1 of 2)
Posted: 8/24/2016 9:41:57 PM EDT
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Built my own hell I did, married a liberal feminist (not the extreme left crazy but still who doesn't like guns etc. etc.) Went to the shop before she started dinner to make one "test" cartridge and fire it, did so. Came back and into a big blow out in front of our three kids. I asked about it being an issue and she gave a very "sarcastic yeah fine whatever" Which was a "No!" But that kind of erked me soooo, well she said fine. I was gone maybe a whole 20min...in the shop, behind the house.
I will honor my vows... but she seems about ready to quit. I don't want that though, but I'm never spending enough family time or, I'm never being considerate enough of her and the kids, or in some way I'm always being a selfish dick and trying to raise our son to be what "A man is" or I think is vs what "he wants to be" ... Or I duno maybe I am a selfish ass hole who cares more about his guns and car than family... I'm also Christian while since her mother died see seems to have a big issue with God, and doesn't really want to involve our kids in church... So I haven't been going. I think I'm starting to resent her... I don't want that either. *sigh* Lord help me, because I don't know how to do this. I can't quit and I don't want too, but I don't know what to do here... |
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 I needed that!
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Eject! Nope, down with the ship or I'll make her float somehow, I meant my vows. |
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Id say eject but it seems lile you are against that. Try to bring her to the light side, show he the ways of the force. Teach her and she will learn to love it. Do it op and it will bring peace to your universe. This December 27th we will have been married 10 years, moved 8 times, deployed 3 times while I was in the Army, she's always supported me until recently...I have taken some things she does for granted... and has lightened up a very small amount on the firearms/hunting thing. |
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Nope, down with the ship or I'll make her float somehow, I meant my vows. Quoted:
I needed that!
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Eject! Nope, down with the ship or I'll make her float somehow, I meant my vows. did she have any vows? you aren't doing those kids any favors sustaining a toxic relationship, not to mention your own health. get help or get out. |
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No shit, mine has the exact same attitude. She is fine and dandy with everything, until it comes to firearms, when she was younger her parents and grandparents told her that "If you touch the gun in the closet, it will kill you". and it has stuck with her, whenever i go shooting she will be pissy for about 5 hours after i get back. If she doesn't like it she is free to leave. Good thing no kids are involved for me, but i feel the pain, mine expects to get a call from the hospital saying i blew my face off (her words).
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Get this moved to Team OP.
My parents divorced when I was a freshman in high school. Best thing to ever happen from my standpoint. I get that you want to stand by your vows, but if you and her don't get into counselling to work on your issues, and can't find a way to accept the differences, it seriously would be best to split. I know I'm only a 28 year old who has never been married, but going through my parent's divorce at an age I fully understood everything that was happening, it's not always easy, and doesn't always seem like the right thing, but feel free to IM me if you think my experience with my parent's might help. |
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Nope, down with the ship or I'll make her float somehow, I meant my vows. Quoted:
I needed that!
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Eject! Nope, down with the ship or I'll make her float somehow, I meant my vows. that's the way it is, good on you dude |
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Sounds like you both need to sit down and have a serious conversation about the state of things. Possible resentment on both sides, a growing schism, and what sounds like some lingering depression/issues stemming from the loss of her mother. This is a time for the poles of your teepee to lean harder on each other to keep the structure stable, not for them to start trying to stand on their own, or the teepee will surely collapse.
We all have times in our marriages where it seems like there is distance between us and our spouse, times when it feels like we are at odds or growing apart. Bridging that gap and finding the way back to together is hard and takes effort from both parties, but it's usually worth it. |
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What kind of control will you have over the influences your wife will bring into your children's life if you divorce. It will be minimal. Marriage is often seen as disposable as so many other things are in our society. Some times it is good for the kids for the parents to separate but sometimes that just makes for an easier out. Marriage isn't easy and I really wish it were. I'm sorry you're facing these challenges with kids involved.
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Not certain what you are asking here... All signs point to Eject.
You refuse to eject because of convictions. Otoh, you seem very miserable (thread title). You have 3 options: 1) eject (seek forgiveness later) 2) stay miserable for the rest of your life, hoping she'll die first so you can have a few years of peace 3) jump in a wood chipper |
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Not certain what you are asking here... All signs point to Eject. You refuse to eject because of convictions. Otoh, you seem very miserable (thread title). You have 3 options: 1) eject (seek forgiveness later) 2) stay miserable for the rest of your life, hoping she'll die first so you can have a few years of peace 3) jump in a wood chipper 
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She hates when I smack her butt... Like REALLY hates it. I roll a towel every once in a while and snap it on her ass though and do a crazy laugh. You know what's worse? Slapping her butt with your penis like they do in porn movies and saying, "You like that, don't you!" 
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Jesus F C. It's like aliens have taken over the minds of grown men. Quoted:
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