[ARCHIVED THREAD] - working with someone you despise (Page 1 of 2)
Posted: 8/8/2016 11:59:37 AM EDT
| On a daily basis I work closely with someone that I genuinely despise. We have worked together for 2 years and shortly after being placed together our relationship took a nosedive. I have no interest in being friendly with this miserable c@#t and try to keep it professional. She is openly hostile to me and most other co-workers and management is aware of all the issues that myself and everyone else in our department have with this employee. Everyday I am filled with anxiety about having to be around this wretched human. All other aspects of my job are great and I love everyone else in the department including my immediate supervisor who is sympathetic to my situation. How do I continue to work with this person when I am filled with animosity and unbridled hate. I can't lose this job and I've tried communicating with her but every interaction is nothing but piss and vinegar from this woman. Suck it up? I keep hoping management will have enough complaints from everyone that they decide to let her go since she poisons an otherwise wonderful environment. |
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I have the same situation, but with a guy. The real problem is that he was fine until I came around. He evidently thought he was on track to have my job.
All I do is completely ignore him. I maintain the casual "Good Morning", or "How was your weekend." That is all though. My boss knows he's a prick and I hate him. Both him and I go to our boss with questions that we know the other could answer. My boss knows that it is his doing, and my boss sees that we can't ask each other simple questions. I'm hoping that eventually it will make him look bad enough that he will get fired. Don't let it affect your attitude. The last thing you want is to let her turn you in to the asshole. This may not be the best advice, but I started dishing it back. Every time he was a prick I would nit-pick everything he said to show him why he doesn't have my job. Not sure if this applies to you, but putting him in his place shut him up. |
| I can almost guarantee you that the LAST thing your boss wants is to hear how ANYONE can't work with another. All he wants is to get through the day without PETTY problems. Just hearing any complaints along these lines will just cause or add to a negative opinion about the complainer. And any immediate boss worth his salt is already aware of the problem. |
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I can almost guarantee you that the LAST thing your boss wants is to hear how ANYONE can't work with another. All he wants is to get through the day without PETTY problems. Just hearing any complaints along these lines will just cause or add to a negative opinion about the complainer. And any immediate boss worth his salt is already aware of the problem. I'm in this camp. I'm just about to start firing ANY and EVERYONE that comes to me bitchin |
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On a daily basis I work closely with someone that I genuinely despise. We have worked together for 2 years and shortly after being placed together our relationship took a nosedive. I have no interest in being friendly with this miserable c@#t and try to keep it professional. She is openly hostile to me and most other co-workers and management is aware of all the issues that myself and everyone else in our department have with this employee. Everyday I am filled with anxiety about having to be around this wretched human. All other aspects of my job are great and I love everyone else in the department including my immediate supervisor who is sympathetic to my situation. How do I continue to work with this person when I am filled with animosity and unbridled hate. I can't lose this job and I've tried communicating with her but every interaction is nothing but piss and vinegar from this woman. Suck it up? I keep hoping management will have enough complaints from everyone that they decide to let her go since she poisons an otherwise wonderful environment. EEOC She'll probably have to go through several "partners" before any blame will be assigned to her...work hard...put in for a transfer if such a thing is available. |
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I'd go to HR and file a complaint, hostile work environment.
We had a black guy like that. Over a period of time it became worse. Eventually he scared his boss, a white female. Then he was let go. They hired security for 2 months after they let him go because they were were scared. In your case it's a little different but it's still a hostile work environment and that is supposed to mean something. Maybe an anonymous letter? |
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On a daily basis I work closely with someone that I genuinely despise. We have worked together for 2 years and shortly after being placed together our relationship took a nosedive. I have no interest in being friendly with this miserable c@#t and try to keep it professional. She is openly hostile to me and most other co-workers and management is aware of all the issues that myself and everyone else in our department have with this employee. Everyday I am filled with anxiety about having to be around this wretched human. All other aspects of my job are great and I love everyone else in the department including my immediate supervisor who is sympathetic to my situation. How do I continue to work with this person when I am filled with animosity and unbridled hate. I can't lose this job and I've tried communicating with her but every interaction is nothing but piss and vinegar from this woman. Suck it up? I keep hoping management will have enough complaints from everyone that they decide to let her go since she poisons an otherwise wonderful environment. What kinda work are we tallking |
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I'd go to HR and file a complaint, hostile work environment. We had a black like that. Over a period of time it became worse. Eventually he scared his boss, a white female. Then he was let go. They hired security for 2 months after they let him go because they were were scared. In your case it's a little different but it's still a hostile work environment and that is supposed to mean something. Maybe an anonymous letter? A guy making threats against a female coworker/boss to the point where the company hires additional security is a very different situation from a female coworker acting like a cunt. OP can either ignore her bitchiness and concentrate on doing his job, or coordinate with his other coworkers to make her look incompetent enough that management cuts her loose. |
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A guy making threats against a female coworker/boss to the point where the company hires additional security is a very different situation from a female coworker acting like a cunt. OP can either ignore her bitchiness and concentrate on doing his job, or coordinate with his other coworkers to make her look incompetent enough that management cuts her loose. Quoted:
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I'd go to HR and file a complaint, hostile work environment. We had a black guy like that. Over a period of time it became worse. Eventually he scared his boss, a white female. Then he was let go. They hired security for 2 months after they let him go because they were were scared. In your case it's a little different but it's still a hostile work environment and that is supposed to mean something. Maybe an anonymous letter? A guy making threats against a female coworker/boss to the point where the company hires additional security is a very different situation from a female coworker acting like a cunt. OP can either ignore her bitchiness and concentrate on doing his job, or coordinate with his other coworkers to make her look incompetent enough that management cuts her loose. Nope, it might sound different but it's the same, bottom line it's still a hostile work environment. |
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I know where you are coming from. I sell cars in a small town. There was another person from this same town that worked at another dealership about 30 miles away. I have known him for like 20 years as he was a bartender at a bar where my father went here locally. I had been here 10 years and he had worked there for about 15 when that store closed. Obviously we knew each other and had gone against one another as we both work for ford dealers. They hired him here. This is literally how the conversation went his first day here....
Him "what do you think of me working here now?" Me "I don't do the hiring here." Him "What does that mean?" Me "I didn't like you when you were at the nickel(the bar), I didn't like you when you were at Wicker(the other ford store), and I definitely don't like you know. So if you think were are going to be best friends you are wrong" Needless to say we don't really talk to much here |
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So that you have great notes from all of your meetings for professionalism sake... http://www.brandsmartusa.com/images/product/addl/large/9460.jpg http://cbcdn2.gp-static.com/uploads/contest/header_image/1/H4Black_WIN.png http://stuntcams.com/shop/resources/sc80/mini-dv-camera-video-police-cam-side.jpg Yep, hostile work place. HR loves this shit. 
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Wait until you you have to work"for" someone you despise.  I was in that boat. The day they promoted her I KNEW that problems for me were coming. Aside from having a very "odd" personality, she was incredibly insecure, and to top it off, she did not know what she was doing. But somehow, she badgered someone long enough and they promoted her to fill an open slot. I had ZERO respect for her 'skills', or lack thereof, and it grated on me every day. Others outside my chain of command were astounded that I tolerated her crap. I toughed it out for almost four years, with some help from alcoholic beverages  Then came the wonderful day when someone FINALLY figured out she was incompetent, and they fired her ass.
Since then life has resumed normalcy. Why it took four years for her ineptness to be fully acknowledged still mystifies some of us..... |
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Buy a small recording device, record all hostile encounters. Take it to HR and get her ass fired. Be done with it.
Because until something changes and she learns that being an asshole to people is not tolerated, she will continue being a rabid cunt. Not just to you, but everyone she has to work with. Be the good guy, stop someone else from suffering the same problems. |
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Yep, everyday for 7 yrs now. It's a rare treat to work by myself.
He's a bully , or thinks he is, he isn't as smart as I am and he knows it. That pisses him off to no end. When we're talking about how to accomplish a job, he will talk jibberish to make himself look smarter, then when I say, I have no idea what you're talking about ,meh gloats that he is smarter than me. He tried to blame me once for his fuck up , and did it in front of our boss. That didn't end well for him after I explained what happened . When we left for the job that day he wanted to fight..... 
He'll just today, he told our boss he better stop being a smart ass . He was being a huge jerk first thing in the morning, boss kinda stuck a dig in there to let him know , and he got really belligerent . I hate his stupid fuck ass and can't wait till he retires in 5 more years. |
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Buy a small recording device, record all hostile encounters. Take it to HR and get her ass fired. Be done with it. Because until something changes and she learns that being an asshole to people is not tolerated, she will continue being a rabid cunt. Not just to you, but everyone she has to work with. Be the good guy, stop someone else from suffering the same problems. yep. and email everything between you and keep records; documentation is your friend. |
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On a daily basis I work closely with someone that I genuinely despise. We have worked together for 2 years and shortly after being placed together our relationship took a nosedive. I have no interest in being friendly with this miserable c@#t and try to keep it professional. She is openly hostile to me and most other co-workers and management is aware of all the issues that myself and everyone else in our department have with this employee. Everyday I am filled with anxiety about having to be around this wretched human. All other aspects of my job are great and I love everyone else in the department including my immediate supervisor who is sympathetic to my situation. How do I continue to work with this person when I am filled with animosity and unbridled hate. I can't lose this job and I've tried communicating with her but every interaction is nothing but piss and vinegar from this woman. Suck it up? I keep hoping management will have enough complaints from everyone that they decide to let her go since she poisons an otherwise wonderful environment. I cannot believe this post came from a non veteran I hated my NCOIC in Korea so much I dreamed of bayoneting him. but for the most part when soldiers disagreed we just got drunk & beat each other stupid gawd I miss the Army.
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I'm getting there. I have a coworker who's freaking out about a deadline he's about to run up against, but he spends about half his working hours taking personal phone calls and generally not working. He's also a full-blown Marxist and wants to get universal basic income passed so he doesn't have to work anymore. At a minimum he wants the government to enforce a 20-hour work week because "nobody actually spends more than 20 hours a week working anyway." Today he was complaining about being four days behind schedule. I bit my tongue but really wanted to say "Well you shouldn't have taken four days off last week then, you dipshit."
We're engineers. 
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You only get one go around on this ride called life.
I learned long ago to not burn much energy on people that bring drama or chaos into your life. Quit and move on. Management should know that the guy who brings a positive attitude to work everyday is much more valuable than a wretched bitch. Their loss.
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