[ARCHIVED THREAD] - How did you propose? How should I? (Page 1 of 3)
Posted: 3/18/2016 2:02:50 AM EDT
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That's it, I'm locking one down. I have chosen, or have been blessed with the best of the best. My lady is truly 1 in a million, if not more, and she feels the same about me. Life is good, she has a good job and is going back to school, my business is doing well enough, she's young, attractive, ambitious, loyal, and more.
I have a ring, that does not feature a diamond. She agrees they are a scam and only wants a symbol that she's mine. I've never been so anxious about anything in my life. My whole life I knew I was meant to have a wife. My friends make fun of me for being a serial monogamist, but I truly have been searching for the one that is worthy of the rest of my life. So now that I have it all setup, how do I do it? I think I want it private and simple, on a hike or something. What says the hive? 
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What's she into, what has the most meaning for her? Is there any place or activity that has particular meaning for you two?
Hopefully she knows it's coming and won't be totally shocked. 
I'm a private kind of person myself and it was just me and my wife when I proposed. She knew it was coming, just not when. I wouldn't go terribly out of my way to ambush her with friends and family, unless, as I said before, that has particular meaning... Anyway, congratulations. Have fun planning the wedding. 
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Dude, get a diamond on that ring. Doesn't matter what a woman says, she wants a rock and her friends will expect to see one as well.
My wife loves Ferris wheels, and we didn't have much money, she always said a ring from a gumball machine would be fine. County fair came around and we got on the Ferris wheel like we do every year, popped the question and handed her a 25¢ gumball ring. She put it on and I said something along the lines of, that one downstairs very nice, try this one instead, and gave her the actual one. |
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What's she into, what has the most meaning for her? Is there any place or activity that has particular meaning for you two? Hopefully she knows it's coming and won't be totally shocked.
I'm a private kind of person myself and it was just me and my wife when I proposed. She knew it was coming, just not when. I wouldn't go terribly out of my way to ambush her with friends and family, unless, as I said before, that has particular meaning... Anyway, congratulations. Have fun planning the wedding. Oh she definitely knows it's coming at some point, just not when. We fell in love chasing each other around The Wormsloe Plantation in Savannah last year. We are going to Savannah tomorrow for the weekend. Holy shit, this weekend is too soon.... 
Yeah I don't want to ambush her, I just want to be on a walk somewhere and turn and just kneel kinda thing. Thanks, it should be fun planning the wedding, I think it'll actually be in Savannah. 
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I would recommend against that from my experience. Hand her a rifle to shoot with the ring on the front site. When she turns around you will already be on one knee. Against asking her or? Meh I want to see the world with this girl. Could I do it happily with others? Possibly. Will I be as happy without her? Definitely not. |
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Against asking her or? Meh I want to see the world with this girl. Could I do it happily with others? Possibly. Will I be as happy without her? Definitely not. Quoted:
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I would recommend against that from my experience. Hand her a rifle to shoot with the ring on the front site. When she turns around you will already be on one knee. Against asking her or? Meh I want to see the world with this girl. Could I do it happily with others? Possibly. Will I be as happy without her? Definitely not. Well, it will be awesome for awile. Have fun giving half of your shit away including your 401K and pension. Have some kids and enjoy getting fucked right in the ass by the family court system too. Seriously though, what's in it for you? |
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Well, it will be awesome for awile. Have fun giving half of your shit away including your 401K and pension. Have some kids and enjoy getting fucked right in the ass by the family court system too. Seriously though, what's in it for you? Quoted:
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I would recommend against that from my experience. Hand her a rifle to shoot with the ring on the front site. When she turns around you will already be on one knee. Against asking her or? Meh I want to see the world with this girl. Could I do it happily with others? Possibly. Will I be as happy without her? Definitely not. Well, it will be awesome for awile. Have fun giving half of your shit away including your 401K and pension. Have some kids and enjoy getting fucked right in the ass by the family court system too. Seriously though, what's in it for you? I don't think we believe in divorce. Spending the rest of my life with my best friend is what's in it for me. We have one cardinal rule to our relationship: just be nice to each other. At the end of the day, we openly communicate, and take care of each other. I am a better man because of this woman. And because the world needs my beautiful, skilled mixed babies. I need a mini me to pass my knowledge on to. It's in my DNA |
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Very good looking. Congrats. I still wish I'd punched the first one in the ditch but hey, it might work for you. My 2nd one was BPD. Needless to say but it did not go well. #3 is voting for Hillary so I might be looking for #4. I have BPD 
She works with me, and is understanding and supportive. |
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A good friend of mine had a go-pro style camera he propped up on a rock as he was hiking and did it at the water's edge of a scenic lake. He was able to catch the photos of him on his knee and her being excited. It was actually quite cute and well thought out. This is brilliant! Thanks man |
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I would recommend against that from my experience. Hand her a rifle to shoot with the ring on the front site. When she turns around you will already be on one knee. good way to accidentally have a rifle pointed at you. emotions running high and all that
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I don't think we believe in divorce. Spending the rest of my life with my best friend is what's in it for me. We have one cardinal rule to our relationship: just be nice to each other. At the end of the day, we openly communicate, and take care of each other. I am a better man because of this woman. Quoted:
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I would recommend against that from my experience. Hand her a rifle to shoot with the ring on the front site. When she turns around you will already be on one knee. Against asking her or? Meh I want to see the world with this girl. Could I do it happily with others? Possibly. Will I be as happy without her? Definitely not. Well, it will be awesome for awile. Have fun giving half of your shit away including your 401K and pension. Have some kids and enjoy getting fucked right in the ass by the family court system too. Seriously though, what's in it for you? I don't think we believe in divorce. Spending the rest of my life with my best friend is what's in it for me. We have one cardinal rule to our relationship: just be nice to each other. At the end of the day, we openly communicate, and take care of each other. I am a better man because of this woman. Ok. Good luck. I hope you found a good one. |
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I would recommend against that from my experience. Hand her a rifle to shoot with the ring on the front site. When she turns around you will already be on one knee. Against asking her or? Meh I want to see the world with this girl. Could I do it happily with others? Possibly. Will I be as happy without her? Definitely not. Well, it will be awesome for awile. Have fun giving half of your shit away including your 401K and pension. Have some kids and enjoy getting fucked right in the ass by the family court system too. Seriously though, what's in it for you? I don't think we believe in divorce. Spending the rest of my life with my best friend is what's in it for me. We have one cardinal rule to our relationship: just be nice to each other. At the end of the day, we openly communicate, and take care of each other. I am a better man because of this woman. Ok. Good luck. I hope you found a good one. Thanks I'm absolutely positive I have. Through all of the threads here on marriage and relationships I have at least known a few things to be true: selfishness and expectations cause the most strife in relationships. Through my own failed relationships I have learned that people might change, but rarely in fundamental values. We share goals: to have kids raised in a christian household and a small homestead in the mountains with a downtown condo. Helicopter optional 
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You never answered my question. What's in it for you? Quoted:
You never answered my question. What's in it for you? I did, and you quoted me on it. I said spending the rest of my life with my best friend. And then I edited to add more. I don't think we believe in divorce. Spending the rest of my life with my best friend is what's in it for me. We have one cardinal rule to our relationship: just be nice to each other. At the end of the day, we openly communicate, and take care of each other. I am a better man because of this woman. And because the world needs my beautiful, skilled mixed babies. I need a mini me to pass my knowledge on to. It's in my DNA |
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Quoted: lol what made you bail on your fiancee? Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: How many years you been together? In general I'm not a fan... Or of doing it too soon. Exactly 1. Fucking don't. lol what made you bail on your fiancee? She bailed. Out of fucking nowhere. Like everything is fine then nope, no discussion she's out. It hurts more when you start planning a future OP. Just wait a bit longer. |
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She bailed. Out of fucking nowhere. Like everything is fine then nope, no discussion she's out. It hurts more when you start planning a future OP. Just wait a bit longer. Quoted:
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How many years you been together? In general I'm not a fan... Or of doing it too soon. Exactly 1. Fucking don't. lol what made you bail on your fiancee? She bailed. Out of fucking nowhere. Like everything is fine then nope, no discussion she's out. It hurts more when you start planning a future OP. Just wait a bit longer. Did she ever give you closure, an explanation? If the answer is no, then she was too emotionally bankrupt to have considered for marriage anyway, and you should have seen that coming. Surely there had to be SOME kind of warning. |
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good way to accidentally have a rifle pointed at you. emotions running high and all that Quoted:
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I would recommend against that from my experience. Hand her a rifle to shoot with the ring on the front site. When she turns around you will already be on one knee. good way to accidentally have a rifle pointed at you. emotions running high and all that Put the ring in a box of ammo, have her load a mag. Put the ring in an empty mag. Take her to a public range, arrange with the rangemaster to make a PA announcement: "(her name), Grey50beast wants to pull the trigger with you, is the range READY??" Have the range fire a volley in your honor. |
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I did, and you quoted me on it. I said spending the rest of my life with my best friend. And then I edited to add more. Quoted:
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You never answered my question. What's in it for you? I did, and you quoted me on it. I said spending the rest of my life with my best friend. And then I edited to add more. I don't think we believe in divorce. Spending the rest of my life with my best friend is what's in it for me. We have one cardinal rule to our relationship: just be nice to each other. At the end of the day, we openly communicate, and take care of each other. I am a better man because of this woman. And because the world needs my beautiful, skilled mixed babies. I need a mini me to pass my knowledge on to. It's in my DNA If you looked at it like a business, what's in it for you? |
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She bailed. Out of fucking nowhere. Like everything is fine then nope, no discussion she's out. It hurts more when you start planning a future OP. Just wait a bit longer. Quoted:
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How many years you been together? In general I'm not a fan... Or of doing it too soon. Exactly 1. Fucking don't. lol what made you bail on your fiancee? She bailed. Out of fucking nowhere. Like everything is fine then nope, no discussion she's out. It hurts more when you start planning a future OP. Just wait a bit longer. She found some new cock. |
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Quoted: Did she ever give you closure, an explanation? Surely there had to be SOME kind of warning. Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: Exactly 1. Fucking don't. lol what made you bail on your fiancee? She bailed. Out of fucking nowhere. Like everything is fine then nope, no discussion she's out. It hurts more when you start planning a future OP. Just wait a bit longer. Did she ever give you closure, an explanation? Surely there had to be SOME kind of warning. It took me over a month to get all of her reasons out of her. Half were completely in her own head and the others were totally fixable. It was honestly small scale shit. No warning at all. |
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Quoted: She found some new cock. Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: Exactly 1. Fucking don't. lol what made you bail on your fiancee? She bailed. Out of fucking nowhere. Like everything is fine then nope, no discussion she's out. It hurts more when you start planning a future OP. Just wait a bit longer. She found some new cock. Nah, just didn't have it in her to have a long-term relationship. Thanks for the cunty response though. |
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If you looked at it like a business, what's in it for you? Quoted:
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You never answered my question. What's in it for you? I did, and you quoted me on it. I said spending the rest of my life with my best friend. And then I edited to add more. I don't think we believe in divorce. Spending the rest of my life with my best friend is what's in it for me. We have one cardinal rule to our relationship: just be nice to each other. At the end of the day, we openly communicate, and take care of each other. I am a better man because of this woman. And because the world needs my beautiful, skilled mixed babies. I need a mini me to pass my knowledge on to. It's in my DNA If you looked at it like a business, what's in it for you? She makes great money and we have similar business goals. I own a custom home decor business in Atlanta, and I already work with local contractors, real estate agents, and interior designers. She is going back to school for her real estate license so that we can start another business. We buy the houses, my crew fixes them up for pennies on the dollar, and we sell them or rent them. We have backup plans upon backup plans. Not to mention tax benefits, personal housing costs cut by 65+% (moving in together), etc. In our relationship, we are truly a power couple, We compliment each other well: two heads are better than one. |
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It took me over a month to get all of her reasons out of her. Half were completely in her own head and the others were totally fixable. It was honestly small scale shit. No warning at all. That sucks man I'm sorry. You know what they say about painting with a broad brush though. |
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Dude have a picnic or dinner out some place she likes. Don't go to the range. You have to think about picking up and moving stuff if she says yes. If she says no, now you're emotional with guns. Bad scene.
Don't put extra pressure on her by proposing on a jumbotron or in front of her friends. Be cool. |
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FIFY. Run away before you fool yourself too hard. Either way, we'll be here to pat you on the back when it all goes wrong. Quoted:
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My lady is truly 1 in a million women who are all alike Run away before you fool yourself too hard. Either way, we'll be here to pat you on the back when it all goes wrong. Agree to disagree |
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Quoted: That sucks man I'm sorry. You know what they say about painting with a broad brush though. Quoted: Quoted: It took me over a month to get all of her reasons out of her. Half were completely in her own head and the others were totally fixable. It was honestly small scale shit. No warning at all. That sucks man I'm sorry. You know what they say about painting with a broad brush though. I'd just say to wait for a bit is all. I'm like you, I want kids and a wife to spend my life with. Just don't want to see you get burned. Not trying to be a downer, trying to be a bro.  |
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I'd just say to wait for a bit is all. I'm like you, I want kids and a wife to spend my life with. Just don't want to see you get burned. Not trying to be a downer, trying to be a bro.
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It took me over a month to get all of her reasons out of her. Half were completely in her own head and the others were totally fixable. It was honestly small scale shit. No warning at all. That sucks man I'm sorry. You know what they say about painting with a broad brush though. I'd just say to wait for a bit is all. I'm like you, I want kids and a wife to spend my life with. Just don't want to see you get burned. Not trying to be a downer, trying to be a bro.
Couldn't find the cheers one, so headbanging will have to do... How old was she? Did she have her own goals that she was working towards that could have paralleled yours? You're 23-25 right? I was close before to marriage, but it ended up that the same problems we had at the beginning of our relationship were still problems near the end. |
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Quoted: Couldn't find the cheers one, so headbanging will have to do... How old was she? Did she have her own goals that she was working towards that could have paralleled yours? You're 23-25 right? I was close before to marriage, but it ended up that the same problems we had at the beginning of our relationship were still problems near the end. Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: It took me over a month to get all of her reasons out of her. Half were completely in her own head and the others were totally fixable. It was honestly small scale shit. No warning at all. That sucks man I'm sorry. You know what they say about painting with a broad brush though. I'd just say to wait for a bit is all. I'm like you, I want kids and a wife to spend my life with. Just don't want to see you get burned. Not trying to be a downer, trying to be a bro. Couldn't find the cheers one, so headbanging will have to do... How old was she? Did she have her own goals that she was working towards that could have paralleled yours? You're 23-25 right? I was close before to marriage, but it ended up that the same problems we had at the beginning of our relationship were still problems near the end. She's 21, I'm 23. She had goals, but blamed me for holding her back (this was in her head, I did a lot to help her move forward ) they also changed every year. My goals have been the same goals since I first dated her. I've been working my way towards them the whole time. We hit 3 years when she left. |
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Smiley, too many quotes fucked with me. You're welcome. Was she younger or something? I got dumped once on my girlfriend's 21st birthday. Was she sober? Half sober. I think she planned that shit. Bar cock was better I guess. Last I heard she was fat as fuck with kids. |
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I did it by going on a date in downtown Pittsburgh near the baseball stadium. They were having fireworks night, so I timed it that after dinner we were walking on the river shore downtown, across from the stadium. The fireworks were about to start, so I went down on the knee, and as I finished asking, the first firework launched. She was totally unaware of the firework night, so her saying yes was accompanied by a nice fireworks display. Also, ignore the haters. I proposed after courting her for 2-3 months, and then married 3 months later. That was about 7 years ago, and our relationship is awesome. |