[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Inheritance - moral question (Page 1 of 3)
Posted: 11/14/2013 9:32:01 AM EDT
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My brother's wife just got an inheritance for around $15,000. Right before she got this inheritance, she started making really large purchases (designer handbags, jewelry, shoes....etc.) and has told my brother that this is "her money" and she can spend it on whatever she likes without even telling him what she's spending it on!
My brother works hard to support his family and he drives a beat up old F150 with 250,000 miles on it, no heat & constant engine problems. Their house could use some work but she doesn't care about the house because "that's his problem". Also, their eldest son is starting college in a month & my brother will have to figure out how to pay for that. They used to be a good team & they've always worked together to pay for family expenses prior to this. I'm minding my own business & staying out of it but I feel as though her decisions are irresponsible and not good choices for her family. What do you guys think? |
, which is what you're doing, good for you.
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She's a selfish bitch. Not a rare breed at all in this day and age. X2 Kick her ass to the curb.... While he can still get a decent woman he needs to dump that bish. Friend of mine recently got $50K in inheritance..... He's spending some to improve the house & BOUGHT HIS WIFE A USED BMW Z4..... |
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Also, their eldest son is starting college in a month & my brother will have to figure out how to pay for that. ... What do you guys think? I think as soon as the youngest starts college, she's leaving him. Just a wild prediction based on incomplete data, but I'm probably right. |
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Selfish. All our money, regardless of the source, goes into our account. My wife got a really big inheritance. It, by mutual decision, became the emergency fund and our spending habits didn't change. Legally, is hers. But, she sounds like an idiot. I'd say she could go buy something fun with it, but use the rest wisely. |
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I think as soon as the youngest starts college, she's leaving him. Just a wild prediction based on incomplete data, but I'm probably right. Quoted:
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Also, their eldest son is starting college in a month & my brother will have to figure out how to pay for that. ... What do you guys think? I think as soon as the youngest starts college, she's leaving him. Just a wild prediction based on incomplete data, but I'm probably right. Would certainly fit the pattern established in my limited experience (as an observer). |
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Legally, is hers. But, she sounds like an idiot. I'd say she could go buy something fun with it, but use the rest wisely. Quoted:
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Selfish. All our money, regardless of the source, goes into our account. My wife got a really big inheritance. It, by mutual decision, became the emergency fund and our spending habits didn't change. Legally, is hers. But, she sounds like an idiot. I'd say she could go buy something fun with it, but use the rest wisely. Legally my wife's paycheck is hers, but we don't see it that way. |
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I think that is wrong since there are important things to take care of. When I've gotten inheritance I bought myself and my wife one or two nice things that we will have for the rest of our lives to remember that relative by. Then the rest would go into savings, towards student loans, or in the house down payment fund. Blowing it all is a shitty way to "honor" the deceased by. Especially if you are being selfish in the way you are blowing it.
Keep minding your own business but I'd make sure your brother knew to monitor her spending because once it starts it is hard to stop. She could be 10's of thousands in credit card debt before he knows what hits him. $15k doesn't go very far these days but it is enough to wet your beak. |
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I think as soon as the youngest starts college, she's leaving him. Just a wild prediction based on incomplete data, but I'm probably right. Quoted:
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Also, their eldest son is starting college in a month & my brother will have to figure out how to pay for that. ... What do you guys think? I think as soon as the youngest starts college, she's leaving him. Just a wild prediction based on incomplete data, but I'm probably right. I agree with TM, your brother would be well advised to start setting up his exit strategy. |
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Bingo! That's the main problem he's having with all of this. Especially because she has been dishonest about spending money & she's had previous fidelity issues....but that's another story for another post. I bet she/they have large outstanding bills(that should've been paid w/this $$) |
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what a biatch! That's the type of woman that marries to be taken care of, not to care for each other. And what's witht eh big spender sttitude?!? $15k isn't shit these days! Apparently she failed to account for inflation!. sorry about your bro
He chose...POORLY. |
| When our parents pass, my brother and I will inherit close to half a million or more a piece. Same story for him? Should he just be allowed to spend that on whatever he likes? A new plane perhaps or a hunting cabin in the mountains? Or I'd it "theirs" once it becomes the only retirement money they've got? |
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Since she is married and acting like that I can only assume she is a very self centered selfish woman.
All that being said I was an excutor to two estates,and I can categorically state it is a thankless job and I will never do it again, but I have seen first hand what even a little money can do to people's senses. A good example...My dad left a wayward grandson $15,000 and I cautioned against doing it that way but it was his to give. The end result was he went through the entire 15k in four weeks and had ABSOLUTELY nothing to show for it. Nothing!! He then started stealing from a disabled heir and was finally sent to prison. Fuck him,I never liked his ungrateful ass anyway. |
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When our parents pass, my brother and I will inherit close to half a million or more a piece. Same story for him? Should he just be allowed to spend that on whatever he likes? A new plane perhaps or a hunting cabin in the mountains? Or I'd it "theirs" once it becomes the only retirement money they've got? He'd do well to divorce her before that happens. |
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inheritance does weird things to people. my maternal grandmother will be passing soon, and we've been amazed by the actions of some members of our extended family. my mother is just bewildered that some people seem to be more interested in dicing up the inheritance than with spending time with the woman who is about to pass. i'm staying as far from the situation as possible. whenever the legacy comes up in conversation, i find somewhere else to be. so OP, just be advised that people get irrational about these things--there's really nothing your friend can do but ride it out.
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He'd do well to divorce her before that happens. Quoted:
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When our parents pass, my brother and I will inherit close to half a million or more a piece. Same story for him? Should he just be allowed to spend that on whatever he likes? A new plane perhaps or a hunting cabin in the mountains? Or I'd it "theirs" once it becomes the only retirement money they've got? He'd do well to divorce her before that happens. That's what I think also but I would never, ever suggest that. |
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Bingo! That's the main problem he's having with all of this. Especially because she has been dishonest about spending money & she's had previous fidelity issues....but that's another story for another post. Instead of the eject gif I was going to say how she's already checked out, and is more than likely fucking her new boyfriend. Boy was I right. |
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Damn that sounds outright selfish and greedy.
Me and the wife have joint signing on 4 accounts. We put all our money together and what ever is left over after bills goes into saving. All purchases over 200 we discuss, both of us are in line to inherit a very large some of money well over 6 figures and we have discussed what we are going to do with it. Being a contractor I have completely remodeled our house so don't need money for that. Both vehicles are paid of so no use there, we may need the money for obamacare the way rates are going up. A good majority since we don't have kids is going to go to our niece and nephews and some charity like my old high school football program were I want to set up a scholarship |