[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Friends? (Page 1 of 2)
Posted: 11/2/2013 4:51:05 PM EDT
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How many of you have friends?
It seems like all I do is either work, take care of shit that has to be done for the family, or try and recover on the couch. There's only 3 other males at my work, all older than me that I don't think I would want to hang out with, and I don't know where else I'd make any friends. My wife and I used to be best friends, but now she has girl friends from work to go and hang out with. Kind of sucks. I'm home tonight watching the kids, wife is out tailgating with her girlfriends then going to the college football game. I feel like a loser just posting this 
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Left my friends back in Arg. and I miss them a lot but I'm trying here. I already have a friend, and I'm trying to have at least a couple more. Not easy for sure, but you need friends, not only because of obvious reasons but also because they are the ones that would help out if you ever need them.
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Do you attend church? I've made a lot of friends at mine. I've got an older fellow that I teach Sunday school with who I love to talk with. I meet up with a group of about a dozen guys twice a year to hold father-son camp-outs for the church and the association. Over the years we've gotten to be pretty good friends, too. I've made friends at work, too, but not as many or as close as those I've made at church. Whereabouts do you live? If you're in north Alabama we should meet for lunch some time. If not, you ought to try to catch up with some other like-minded folks here. |
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I work with 100% women. We get along great but I wouldn't consider us close friends. I've got a couple guys that are friends. Talk shop, discuss whatever...friends. But I don't hang out at anyone's house. Buddies at the station that are a lot of fun to horse around with, but again, we don't hang out outside of the firehouse. Then we've got "couples friends"...that we'll get together with a few times a year and at parties.
Problem is, just not a whole lot of like-minded people my age that I've stumbled across in my area. And as mentioned, work, taking care of the home, family, etc...consumes most of my time. -Emt1581 |
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Do you attend church? I've made a lot of friends at mine. I've got an older fellow that I teach Sunday school with who I love to talk with. I meet up with a group of about a dozen guys twice a year to hold father-son camp-outs for the church and the association. Over the years we've gotten to be pretty good friends, too. I've made friends at work, too, but not as many or as close as those I've made at church. Whereabouts do you live? If you're in north Alabama we should meet for lunch some time. If not, you ought to try to catch up with some other like-minded folks here. Good question, but no I do not go to church. I've tried to believe over the years, but just can't make that leap of faith. I'm in Fresno, CA. Sorry for the posting here, it was meant for GD, I've requested to have it moved. |
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This is a topic I have a lot of experience with. We've lived in so many different cities (and countries!) over the years. We work from our home (so no office "friends") and we don't have kids (no "parents of kids' friends" to hang with).
The trick is to join clubs, organizations or activities (ex.: Toastmasters, Jiu Jitsu club, guitar classes) and become an active member. Volunteer for responsibilities. It's tough when your life is so busy-- but your social life is as important as your physical health: So make it a priority. Also: It takes time. Depending on your level of interest, area, type of activiities... it can take 1-3 years before you really start building a network with the people in the groups you're participating in. I've always felt that having kids would make it a lot easier (if you're late 20's - 40's) because while you're standing around waiting for your kids to finish soccer/karate/violin practice... so are the other parents. Take that opportunity to introduce yourself and start up a conversation. Like anything else in life worth having: It does require effort. |
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Do you attend church? I've made a lot of friends at mine. I've got an older fellow that I teach Sunday school with who I love to talk with. I meet up with a group of about a dozen guys twice a year to hold father-son camp-outs for the church and the association. Over the years we've gotten to be pretty good friends, too. I've made friends at work, too, but not as many or as close as those I've made at church. Whereabouts do you live? If you're in north Alabama we should meet for lunch some time. If not, you ought to try to catch up with some other like-minded folks here. Good question, but no I do not go to church. I've tried to believe over the years, but just can't make that leap of faith. I'm in Fresno, CA. Sorry for the posting here, it was meant for GD, I've requested to have it moved. I would consider this part of this forum. Survival and prepping isn't all about guns and bob's. There is also the social preparedness that goes into it. Although I'm in Texas, you can always shoot me a pm. I came to this site also to meet people with similar mind sets and such. This is a social site, and this forum does not have to be strictly rice and beans. Like I said, the social aspect of prepping is important also. |
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I have LOTS of friends.
My best friend from high school lives about 20 minutes away. we get together about twice a month, hit a bar, have dinner. My old roommate about once a month, same deal, 20 minutes away. Talk on email/IM several times a week. Wife and I have couples friends, see them each about once a month, dinner, camping, board game, drinks. Have 3gun friends, I see at every 3gun competition I go to. Always a fun time. About once every two months. Have friends from work, that also shoot. Meet for lunches, chat over IM, go to the gun range, or travel to 3gun competitions with. Borther and Sister in-law live 15 minutes away, see them about once a month, love to just hang out/grill out. Just met 3 friends today to hit up the skeet range, then lunch and beers. Met with a friend the day before who needed my truck to run stuff from the dump, took some time to get some advice about a work issue I am dealing with. It is my old arfcom friends that I never get to see any more.... seems ever since ETH passed it just gets harder and harder. But I am blessed they still reach out to me, I just never seem to have the free weekend to get away with them like I used to when I was single. Sure do miss all the arfcom DFW crew. I guess I am luckier than some.... Even with all that, I feel I NEVER get to see my friends.... mostly because I cherish the time I have with them and it is never enough to me. Beyond that, I consider my wife my friend, and I spend just about every evening with her. (No kiddos yet) |
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I'm 25 single and I'm going to college and have a couple years left. I find it hard to make friends now that I am not Active Army anymore and living where I do. Oh well, shit happens. Same deal for me except I was Marines. Try finding a nicer bar you can usually find mature people to hang with; from my experience thus far college kids are f'ing spoiled idiots. |
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How old are you, OP? There comes a point in your life where you no longer make "Friends", in the way that you do when you're younger. I noticed this in my late 40's. Maybe some older guys could weigh in here? I'm 35. It seems like most 35 year olds are not in the same place in life as me. I'm married, college educated, and have two young boys. Most males my age seem to still be living in their mom's basement. I went to a few IDPA events looking to make some friends and it seems most of the guys there are 50+ years old, nothing wrong with guys 50+, but here again, not in the same place in life. Finding a friend in their 30's, that's not a fucking lib, in CA, that doesn't live in their mom's basement is not easy
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Yep another loser here. Basically only talk to my wife, my mom every few weeks and my sister every few months. Never went to college and been self-employed since I was 17 so don't meet too many people. And to be honest most people bore the shit out of me. WOW I'd love to hear about your new north face fleece and your BMW SUV covered in herbalife stickers, and your fascinating job and your kids softball team, and your new tattoo. I'd also love to hear about the local sports team and what happened on TV last night, and how awesome the Mumford & sons concert was.
Sat here listening to Joe Rogan Experience drinking a London Porter, with the kids in bed, my wife went to her friends halloween party (I didnt want to go). I'm not a lot of fun at parties  .
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Let that happen? A wife is not a piece of fucking property. Quoted:
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I have no friends but then again I'm a very introverted person and I have no issues with this. You actually don't mind that your wife goes out partying? I would never let that happen. Let that happen? A wife is not a piece of fucking property. Agreed, she is not a piece of property. I didn't like it at first, but of course I hid that fact as best I could. She is a happier person because of friends, so I'm all for it now. I think it would make me a happier person too, hence me creating this thread looking for ideas. To the other poster above: She loves facebook  so she always post picts of her and her friends so I know who she is really out with, so we don't need to continue with that line of thinking.
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| Quickest way to create distance between yourself and old high school or childhood buddies is to become a cop. Seems like between the shitty hours, weird lifestyle and dark sense of humor that only people in the same business understand. Even with that I really only have a couple of true friends on the job. Seems about normal for most guys regardless of profession. |
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I work 3rd shift. What is this "friend" you speak of?
Actually, I ran into a guy I've known for 30+ years the other night. I thought he was in Arkansas but he's back in TX and working 3rd shift. I just might have something resembling a social life in my foreseeable future. |
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Yep another loser here. Basically only talk to my wife, my mom every few weeks and my sister every few months. Never went to college and been self-employed since I was 17 so don't meet too many people. And to be honest most people bore the shit out of me. WOW I'd love to hear about your new north face fleece and your BMW SUV covered in herbalife stickers, and your fascinating job and your kids softball team, and your new tattoo. I'd also love to hear about the local sports team and what happened on TV last night, and how awesome the Mumford & sons concert was. Sat here listening to Joe Rogan Experience drinking a London Porter, with the kids in bed, my wife went to her friends halloween party (I didnt want to go). I'm not a lot of fun at parties .
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I just turned 36. My wife is my best friend. She turns 27 in a few days. My closest buddy is in his early 40s. We met at work in 2002 and have been great friends ever since. He is more like a brother now than a friend. Even more so than my actual brother. He and I have been through a lot, including his attempted suicide a few years ago. We now live three doors down from eachother.
My wife on the other hand has more friends than any one person should have. 
I was never very good at having a lot of friends |
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I'm very lucky in that I still live near some of my friends from college, and even a couple from High School (which is impressive, because I did not go to HS in Az...).
We try hard to 'stay together', and we set up periodic dinners and events where we can all go, including the kids for those who have them. For instance, a bunch of us went to one house for Halloween. We just did what we all would have done at home, but with a bunch of us together. Fun times, until Uncle Obi-Wan-ASUsax encountered a Tiny Darth Vader and got his head chopped off.
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How many of you have friends? It seems like all I do is either work, take care of shit that has to be done for the family, or try and recover on the couch. There's only 3 other males at my work, all older than me that I don't think I would want to hang out with, and I don't know where else I'd make any friends. My wife and I used to be best friends, but now she has girl friends from work to go and hang out with. Kind of sucks. I'm home tonight watching the kids, wife is out tailgating with her girlfriends then going to the college football game. I feel like a loser just posting this You've paraphrased me. Only change wife tailgating to riding horses, and the kid hasn't arrived yet. Oh and 95% of the time I could care less about having friends and doing stuff. Get a hobby, do stuff for you, meet people involved in that. Instead of sitting around the house load the kids up and go do something. |