[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Heart vs.Brain (Page 1 of 2)
Posted: 2/1/2013 3:55:07 AM EDT
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Why are we so conflicted between what we want to do and what we need to do?
Living our own lives for a while and making ourselves happy(brain) Or returning to a former emotion that you haven't yet let go of? (heart) Could really use some advice. Or some good laughs. 
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Your heart is stupid. Don't listen to it.
There's a reason why people say ''Use your head" or "Use your brain" when they're trying to get you to see the intelligent course of action. No one ever says "Use your heart" when they're trying to get you to make a good decision. |
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To all the are commenting with dick posts, Im a female so that advice doesn't really work. Basically having someone say they love you and then ignoring you for an entire weekend. Im just confused and needed feedback. crap, now you've gone done it. IE: Here come the leg humpers. |
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To all the are commenting with dick posts, Im a female so that advice doesn't really work. Basically having someone say they love you and then ignoring you for an entire weekend. Im just confused and needed feedback. crap, now you've gone done it. IE: Here come the leg humpers. None on here matter anyways. If they are trying to "leg hump" via internet means they are too insecure to treat a woman with respect and the way she deserves to be treated. |
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To all the are commenting with dick posts, Im a female so that advice doesn't really work. Basically having someone say they love you and then ignoring you for an entire weekend. Im just confused and needed feedback. Was aunt flow visiting ? 
I said WEEKEND, not an entire week. And true men dont give a shit if shes visiting or not. |
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Your heart is stupid. Don't listen to it. There's a reason why people say ''Use your head" or "Use your brain" when they're trying to get you to see the intelligent course of action. No one ever says "Use your heart" when they're trying to get you to make a good decision. I would contest that in many situations the right thing isn't always the most intellectual decision. |
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It really doesn't matter what we say,
You probably already know what the right answer is, but don't like it The heart try's to avoid pain and loneliness, the heart works off of lust and hormones The brain, if its working right, takes an analytical approach, and will come to a reasonable answer. The heart will try to trick the mind every chance it gets, looking for the easy route. For what it's worth, and this is the Internet it isn't much, if you already have realized there's an issue you know what the answer is, the real question is can you chose the tougher path? |
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To all the are commenting with dick posts, Im a female so that advice doesn't really work. Basically having someone say they love you and then ignoring you for an entire weekend. Im just confused and needed feedback. Was aunt flow visiting ?
I said WEEKEND, not an entire week. And true men dont give a shit if shes visiting or not. You could always go see a hockey game to clear the mind... 
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To all the are commenting with dick posts, Im a female so that advice doesn't really work. Basically having someone say they love you and then ignoring you for an entire weekend. Im just confused and needed feedback. So you're saying a guy ignores you, plays with your emotions and lies to you.... yet you can't get enough of him.... wow that's the first time thats ever happened to a woman.... 
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To all the are commenting with dick posts, Im a female so that advice doesn't really work. Basically having someone say they love you and then ignoring you for an entire weekend. Im just confused and needed feedback. So you're saying a guy ignores you, plays with your emotions and lies to you.... yet you can't get enough of him.... wow that's the first time thats ever happened to a woman.... I knew it wouldn't take long. |
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To all the are commenting with dick posts, Im a female so that advice doesn't really work. Basically having someone say they love you and then ignoring you for an entire weekend. Im just confused and needed feedback. Why don't you ask him? I ignored a girl for an entire weekend once . . . because I powered off my phone, stuck it in a pelican case and spent the weekend in the sticks! Although, I didn't love her, if I had, I would have probably powered up once a day to say something nice, to let her know I was still alive, or to send her dick pics. |
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I put this here to get everyones feedback.
Team or not. It helps me open my eyes to what others think. I figured people would figure out I was a female due to the post alone and the avatar picture. I mean what guy will be talking about their hearts? Proof? The guys talking about their dicks on here. So like I said, I just want advice. Or a good laugh. |
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It's pretty easy to balance the two out. Not in my situation.  Your lack of context isn't helping. It's easy to follow what you feel, versus what you think is right. While listening to your "heart" is important for fullness in life, it needs to be healthily balanced with logical discourse too. Try separating the two and using ONLY logic, disseminate whatever it is you're going through, break it down and think it through. |
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Because the world and civilization in which we live is quite different than the one in which humans evolved.
For most of our history, hanging out, knocking up women and killing large animals was what we needed to do. So that's what we evolved to want to do. Also, life used to have a way of weeding out people that didn't do what they had to do. Not so much any more. |
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Why are we so conflicted between what we want to do and what we need to do? Living our own lives for a while and making ourselves happy(brain) Or returning to a former emotion that you haven't yet let go of? (heart) Could really use some advice. Or some good laughs. Have you ever seen a human heart?! It looks like a fist wrapped in blood. |
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OK, seriously, think about it like this…
(This is mostly an analogy to understand how your mind works, don’t take it too literally.) You have your lizard brain. This is the oldest part of the brain and it’s the part that’s closest to your spinal cord. So everything you do has to get filtered through it. This part of the brain controls things like fear, hunger, and the desire to mate. Above that you have the mammalian brain. It controls your higher emotions. It is what you call your heart. It controls your need to be part of a pack (social acceptance) and your sense of love. It controls the maternal/paternal instincts as well. This part of the brain is not rational and it evolved to meet the needs of mammals in the wild. In particular it is there to meet the needs of apes. And above that you have the human brain which works rationally. But this human brain can’t control the behavior of the more primitive areas of the brain. What you can do is to recognize what is happening to you. It might not change your behavior but at least you will know why you are doing what you do. Not knowing any more than you told me I would say that some guy built you up and then hasn’t called you in a couple of days. What happened is the social need you have for a boyfriend was going to be met and this gave your “heart” a certain amount of pleasure. Then he doesn’t call and you lose that high and get depressed again. This is how addiction works and a lot of people learn to play this game to get people addicted to their attention. And, maybe this guy isn’t trying to manipulate you. It might be that he is afraid of rejection himself. Who knows? People are funny sometimes. Some people play games with other people’s emotions. Sometimes those games work and sometimes they backfire. My advice would be to not play games and find someone who also doesn’t play games. |
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If he's that way now, it isn't going to get better,.
Remember the old adage: A girl marries a guy, hoping that she can make him change A guy marries a girl, hoping that she'll never change They're both wrong. Any man that doesn't care enough to communicate with you on an honest level isn't worth the effort you will have to put into a relationship with him. |